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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 6:16:12 AM

Synocense

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In my experience....members of these clubs change so often that there is a chance the people attending this party are not even all of the same people you knew before. Might you be concerned for no reason? : ) Let us say for the sake of arguement (Not that ANY of us argue.......*cough*) that there are people you know attending the party as well -- hold your head high, smile, feel genuinely happy to be there .... that is what will come shining through : )

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 6:48:30 AM

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Hi fate,

How funny you should bring this up. I'm going through this right now. I have gained close to 15lbs and I'm short and small boned so it looks like 25lbs as far as I can tell. I feel like I'm failing in this aspect of my service. I struggle to get my sloth-like ass on the eiliptical or bike. He has not made too much of an issue out of it but has mentioned it, which translates to *me* as..lose the weight. I do see this as an aspect of my service, one of the reasons he took me on was because of how I looked. I'm working to lose it and hope to by the end of year.

You are not alone.

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 7:23:11 AM

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quote:

Thank you both for your responses. I probably didn't explain very well, and at the risk of bringing up a topic that is a sensative issue to some people, its more that I view it as a failure on my part to care for my owner's property. I feel it is my responsibility to stay fit and to be the best I can be as a part of my service to him. Its not a vanity issue where I am looking for admiration, but rather what I feel is a less than stellar performance in this aspect of my service.

Okay so since you look at it as a function of service consider it this way. You can go to the event and get so focused on *you*rself and how *you*'ve failed and what *you*'ve done wrong that you can yet again fail in being of service in terms of being a pleasant companion (in however your dominant defines that).

So this might sound harsh but I would say, stop focusing on yourself and get over yourself. Re-focus on providing good submission/service (including loosing the weight), not on how you've failed (assuming that you seem to feel that you have, I'm not making a judgement on whether you did).

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 10:03:25 AM

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Raise your hand if you'd like to have one day where you don't think about your weight, good or bad. I recently shed 15 pounds, without trying. Now I spent time yanking up my skirts, slacks, and jeans.

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 10:46:03 AM

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Ja, Katy--

I had you figured for a "Yanker".....

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(people say the darndest things, and are constantly smacking into smart-asses)

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 10:51:30 AM

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quote:

I had you figured for a "Yanker".....

Okay, now help make my clothes fit.....pas the truffles, thank you

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 11:05:42 AM

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They look better falling down...around your ankles....I'm sure

I lost a couple of pounds to recently, but my lawyer said "Entrapment, you'll beat the rap"

That's why I pay him!

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/25/2005 11:21:18 AM

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quote:

I lost a couple of pounds to recently

Implosions are bad!

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/26/2005 5:55:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs

So this might sound harsh but I would say, stop focusing on yourself and get over yourself. Re-focus on providing good submission/service (including loosing the weight), not on how you've failed (assuming that you seem to feel that you have, I'm not making a judgement on whether you did).

C~

<laughing hysterically> Thank you, Wildfleurs! I really did need to hear something along these lines. You are right...its not about me and if he is so terribly displeased, I have no doubt he would correct me. The feelings come from me and I'm putting those feelings on to him, when he hasn't given any indication that he views this in any way other than another one of those ups and downs in life.

How refreshing you guys can be

Anyway, I am just recovering from a nasty bout of food poisoning, so I definately have a different perspective today than I did when I originally posted.

best regards,
fate

*Edited to sort out the quote from the response :)

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/26/2005 8:19:24 PM

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fate,

where are the nude pics posted so we can judge for ourselves..... :P

~~kiss~~

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RE: For those who are active in your local scene.... - 11/27/2005 6:31:39 AM

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I just *love* your sense of humour, kisshou <laughing>. Seriously, though...I'm not sure what got into me, but I'm looking forward to our next play party. Unfortunately, it won't be today as everyone is sick :(

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