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LadyPact -> The High of Protocol (8/28/2008 2:27:06 PM)
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I've been more of a quiet reader than a contributer of the boards lately. I've been a bit busy and have been investing My time in certain areas that haven't allowed Me to reply on several very good threads. I will catch bits and pieces of interesting conversations and there are a couple of posts out there just now that have made Me keep coming back to the same thought. Thus, the title of the thread.
No, this "high" isn't particularly based on the drug use thread, though I found that one pretty good. It's more about a recurring theme that I've noticed in some of the others. That being the subject of high protocol. I've seen quite a few comments from those who don't particularly use those things that might fall under the category, depending on the variations of such. I'm not here to argue that anyone is doing anything "wrong" according to their own particular style. I suppose, if anything, I wanted to make a mention for those of us in the minority who do tend to keep a higher protocol within a dynamic.
I think, at times, that there is a bit of confusion on high protocol. Like many other subjects. it gets wrapped up in people's various definitions of what the term means and how they implement it. Often, I run into folks who hear the words "high protocol" and their first thought is that there have got to be so many rules and rituals involved that the people involved in the dynamic cease being people and reduce themselves to nothing but the role. That the s is so preoccupied with this long list of behaviors that they have no chance for personal expression and the D spends all of their time enforcing, commending, or punishing based on the same. Having heard this repeated a few times lately, I wanted to express that this isn't necessarily the case.
While high protocol isn't for everyone, I wanted to take a stab at mentioning how it can work differently than what a lot of people seem to think it is. How easy it really can be. That it isn't especially wrapped up in long, complicated rituals or some rulebook that would make most people's heads spin. For some of us, it really comes down to things that are easy to implement. Things that provide structure and reinforce the dynamic. Actions that speak to what it is that feeds the drive of a D or an s. It can help to fulfill that place that connects a person to Dominance or submission.
For Me, high protocol is one of those things that are so easy on the surface, even if they have greater meaning underneath. Something as simple as kneeling to serve a drink isn't complicated, is it? Simple enough. The D is thirsty, and the sub fetches something to drink. Physical need filled, right? What about the rest of it? What came from that simple action?
To begin, it was a reminder of each person's place in the dynamic. Add to that, it was a special way for the sub to show that he had a desire to please, obey, and serve. It shows his willingness to be in a submissive posture, whatever that is that the D has chosen. It shows that he pays attention to the way the D wants things done. In return, the D receives service (who doesn't want that?), has the opportunity to be in the position of the receiver, and focus for a moment what it means to that particular dynamic. It can help reinforce the place each person has taken. Remind each of why they want to be in the dynamic in the first place. All from the simple act of kneeling to serve a drink.
Now, think in your mind of how long it takes in reality to kneel to serve a drink. I know it took Me longer to type it than anyone has ever had to spend doing it, but a lot can be gained from it, too. That, to Me, is one of the uses of protocol. I know a lot of people aren't into it, but I thought it was worth explaining why some of us are.
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