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LadyAngelika -> RE: yet another weight loss topic, no not negative this time lol (11/26/2005 2:06:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion
I'm n ot in a bdsm relationship and I'd like a friend who's agressive enough to help out with weight loss. IE making sure walking was done enough calories was burned, making sure I didn't slack off.
Alright Feline, I hope that you take my post as someone who knows exactly what you are going through and wants to help. It might come off as harsh at points but hey, you are asking for someone to help you with discipline issues so I’m going to be a little blunt.
You are your own best friend when it comes to this, trust me. You can have people around you to support you such as dieticians, your doctor, a weight loss program coach, a personal trainer but what I know after many years of trying to lose weight is that the only person who can do it is you.
Look at how many celebrities have personal trainers and personal chefs and personal dieticians and can’t lose weight. If someone could do it for you, then I’m sure we would not see one overweight famous person.
For those who have no desire to lose weight, no problem. If you are healthy and happy with who you are, no need to make any changes. But if you are miserable, stop coming up with excuses of why you can't do it and just do it. I know it sounds harsh but someone had to say it to me many times and finally one day it sunk in. And now I've lost almost 75lbs in the last year and honestly, it was hard, but it wasn't impossible.
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I eat pretty sensibly but I am not active so I am naturally overweight.
I used to believe that. I started getting chubby in my early teens and went to my first weight loss program when I was 15. I watched my mom and her sisters trade diet tips, some of them being more successful then others at it. But what I realised is that my mind is so strong that if I decide that I’m not going to be overweight, then I won’t be. For someone who has shopped in plus sized clothing stores since she was 17, it feels so great to say “oh the large is too big, do you have a medium? at a regular woman’s clothing store! I am now at my natural state.
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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion
Extream weight gain or loss really messes with how one looks. either way. I'm only 23 and I have a double chin and I hate it. I'm just not motivated to work to change it so I shouldn't bitch
It does. And I’m 10 years older then you and 75lbs in one year is massive shrinkage and loss of firmness. But I’m getting it back now. My secret is mixing the following:
- aerobic exercise with proper hydration, which flushes fat cells & helps with rebuilding skin elasticity & firmness
- lifting weights for muscle definition
- firming cream, NIVEA Firming Lotion Advanced Q10 works very well and is affordable
It is slow but once you start maintaining, it goes pretty well. Also, and this is a more expensive route, there are dermatological treatments that will help firm up your skin. But honestly, at 23, I’d try doing it the fitness way first because it will probably work.
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I still feel myself to be cute sometimes even pretty but I don't have a gorgious figure any more and truth is prolly won't ever again once you gain massive amounts of weight the skin is streached an streachmarks are always there.
Focus on what you can change, not what you can’t. You can lose weight. The only thing stopping you from doing it is your own fear of success. I know because I was there for a long time. You need to change your attitude from “it’s so hard I don’t know if I will ever be able to” to “screw it, I deserve to have the figure I want and nothing is going to stop me”. That has been one of my driving mottos through all this. I’ll tell you that having a weight loss program that enables you to eat the foods you like will make it easier.
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was really hoping to find someone local to work with in weight management, no I don't mean gyms they don't work.
Umm… gyms work. I don’t only go to the gym. But I can tell you that when I work out, my weight loss is bigger. Also, if you think about what I told you about getting your skin’s firmness, you might reconsider. Now do you have to go a gym? No. You can do physical activity. I personally find a gym gives me an environment where I’ll want to perform and I get good advice from professionals.
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I mean someone who'll actually do the stuff along wth you Like the walks an eventually the hikes and the bikes. I really wanted a bdsm walking partner, it's just more of a boost to walk with someone and to have that cheering on and stuff. Plus someone who was comfortable enough with you and you him to be that dominant driving force to make sure that no slacking happend, but also to reward. Plus the kinky insentives lol
10 spankings for every 10 pounds a week non food treats,
Ok but you don’t have one now. Is the fact that you don’t have one an excuse to not do anything? Again, not trying to be mean, but I’ve been there before. I remember once saying if I had someone’s love, I’d have the motivation that I needed to lose the weight. And I got love and the weight didn’t come off. In fact I gained.
So the fact remains that you can be your own buddy. Or better yet, find someone on a weight loss message board (mail me on the other side and I’ll send you links to a few) and find yourself a weight loss buddy. I am part of a weight loss group (yeah! Even Dommes need support sometimes!) and I do activities with some of the people in my group.
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I don't belive in dieting either, because those diets limit and restrict you so much, you end up feeling cheated. People can eat everyday normal things in moderation kick up the exoricse and caloric burn and 8 out of 10 times start loosing based on sensibility,
I agree with you. Diets don’t work because they are not sustainable. Tell me I can’t eat chocolate for a month, ok. Tell me I can’t eat chocolate for 3 months, much harder, but I have will power. Tell me I can’t each chocolate for the rest of my life, what’s the point in living???
A program that can let you have chocolate as long as you fit it into your plan is a program that works. Again, email me on the other side if you want more information on the program that I do. It is a very healthy program which is based on changing your lifestyle in regards to food and exercise.
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Anyway so I know it's common for subs and slaves who're in a relationship to have weight managment happen, but what about free women or men who just need that friend who'll be forcefull and helpfull
If you really need to find a way to tie this into BDSM, then ok, I’ll respect that. But realise that it doesn’t have to be. Whether you are dominant or submissive, working on your self-esteem, self-respect and self-discipline should be something that comes from within and encouraged from others.
Hope this helps.
- LA
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