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LATEXBABY64 -> anally whacked (8/30/2008 5:01:50 AM)
did you ever get tired of people in the lifestyle telling you how things are to be done and what is correct protocal or ethical stance. A partner who was so critical or lifestyle friends to the point you just wanna screem lol whats how long did you stand it and what happen after your had your scream moment

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 5:15:11 AM)
Latexbaby64... There are days when I just feel like screaming in a padded room. I have moments when things get under my skin. I might rant for few, things do upset me at times. However, I have to accept these things and not let it get to me too bad. There's no sense in letting it ruin my week. It might get on my nerves for a day or two at best. After I have my Scream moment, I feel better that I got it off my chest. I try to keep an open mind, and I'm of the belief that there's a place more nearly anybody and everybody in The BDSM community. However, I also have a closed mind in regards to few things myself. But those issues are Major Hard limits of mine.

MidMichCowboy -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 5:21:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 did you ever get tired of people in the lifestyle telling you how things are to be done and what is correct protocal or ethical stance. A partner who was so critical or lifestyle friends to the point you just wanna screem lol All the time. My rulebook is my passion and my instinct, updated daily. I once had a lady tell me I was doing it all wrong, that I needed to follow this protocol and I was suppose to do this and that. So, I handcuffed her to a railing, duct taped her mouth, and had my fun. Funny thing was, so did she!

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 6:05:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 did you ever get tired of people in the lifestyle telling you how things are to be done and what is correct protocal or ethical stance. A partner who was so critical or lifestyle friends to the point you just wanna screem lol All the time. My rulebook is my passion and my instinct, updated daily. I once had a lady tell me I was doing it all wrong, that I needed to follow this protocol and I was suppose to do this and that. So, I handcuffed her to a railing, duct taped her mouth, and had my fun. Funny thing was, so did she! This tends to be my own view on things too. I made a smart ass remark on another thread about Mr. Ball Gag being introduced to Miss Slutty Mouth. OK, so it's not Duct tape. I don't have an issue with somebody expressing a desire for other activities or interests. But if somebody wants to complain like a whiney ass little bitch about it. It's their problem not mine. Time to put a sock in it, and have the communicate things in a more civil manner. The Ball Gag or Duct Tape has more meaning besides telling somebody to Shut the Fuck up. Basically, you are just forcing them to be quiet and deal with it mentally. Oh well.... Don't know. I tend to loose interest in somebody who simply whines, bitches and complains about how screwed up everything in the world is at times. They tend to have Field of Negative Energy about them, that drags other people down around them. Not what I'm looking for out somebody, and I don't want to be constantly Ball Gagging their mouth, or trying to correct their already crappy mindset and bitchy views of the world and everything in it.

DarkSteven -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 7:33:46 AM)
I usually listen. If I think they're right, I thank them. If I don't, I express my view. It works for me.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 7:56:04 AM)
~fast reply~ I think that any time we open ourselves and our opinions to public scrutiny, there are going to be people who both agree and disagree with our views. Listening to another's views, IMO, is never harmful. It may open my eyes to something that I was not aware of, and provide me with a perspective that I would not have attained on my own. In the end, though, what another says is only words... and I get to choose how, when, or even -whether-, I incorporate those views in my own life. I rarely find exploration of ideas tiring -- though I do have a substantial bias against individuals who are intentionally ignorant or intentionally closed-minded. I've always struggled with the "If I want your opinion, I'll give it to you", and the "I refuse to see that because I don't want to believe it" crowds, and I -do- find those exposures tiring and frustrating. Fortunately, I simply don't keep these kinds of associations -- because conversation is a huge part of our 'process', I typically find out about the "my way or the highway" crowd early in the relationship and show them the shortest route to the nearest highway. Calla Firestorm

colouredin -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 8:06:17 AM)
wow i balled that up and i cant fix it oh well the gist was that if someone is doing something i consider ethically wrong i would pull them up on it, its just as frusrating watching it as being told off, for example i know a needle expert who will pull up people doing it wrong, when safty is involved we cant all live in our own self important bubbles

Missokyst -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 8:25:02 AM)
I rant about it for a bit, especially when I see the same people posing the same situations. But do I let anyone online influence me? Not really. I am fairly uncaring about what others think of me, unless they have some emotional value in my life. Kyst

persephonee -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 8:32:19 AM)
~FR~ Professional victims and know-it-alls are my top two personal pet peeves. If your life is not what you want it to be...change it. If what i do somehow offends you...dont watch me do it. If someone has constructive criticism for me, and i am approached with a minimal level of courtesy i will listen and decide later if i need to apply that new idea or disregard it. Expect a courteous 'thank you' but dont expect a party.

CalifChick -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 9:23:26 AM)
Hmmm... I must be bitchy enough that people don't tell me what correct protocol or ethics are. I think I've developed "the look" that scares them. Cali

persephonee -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 9:26:44 AM)
Yeah, i have a "look" too...but the ones who know me, know i have nothing to back that up with, so it goes unheeded.

kiwisub12 -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 11:42:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: persephonee ~FR~ Professional victims and know-it-alls are my top two personal pet peeves. If your life is not what you want it to be...change it. If what i do somehow offends you...dont watch me do it. If someone has constructive criticism for me, and i am approached with a minimal level of courtesy i will listen and decide later if i need to apply that new idea or disregard it. Expect a courteous 'thank you' but dont expect a party. oh man , do i agree with the professional victim part!!!! There is nothing worse than having to spend time with someone who is always worse off than you - in every thing! If you stub your toe - they have had to have it amputated sort of thing. and the bad thing with them is that they never have a good day. What a drag!

persephonee -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 11:47:50 AM)
Or they spend 5 hours explaining how they have been taken advantage of....how unfair this or that is....

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 12:02:54 PM)
I'm wondering if it's appropriate to talk about Anal Spanking Devices on this thread or not? Does anybody actually spank the assholes, literally? I'm not just talking about Spanking those that behave like assholes. I mean this is about a thread about "Anally Wacked"... I suppose the alternative to go into depth about Sigmund Freud and those that are Anal retentive and bat shit crazy at the same time. Are Anal Retentive people really crazy and wacked out, or just a normal occurence of society because of how their Mummy and Daddy Raised them? Just how much can we attribute to childhood behavior? Wow... I think I like the idea of Anal Spanking Devices. I've never seen a thread about people spanking each other's Bung holes. I wonder how many people use Preparation H as part of aftercare? OK, I'm trying to lighten things up with some humor here. On a more serious note directly related to the OP itself. It's very frustration to deal with people that are so critical of things, that they are no fun to hung out with. Also, it's no fun being with a Critical Partner, it tends to make one wish they were alone, not involved or otherwise single again.

kiwisub12 -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 12:04:10 PM)
hehe - we must know some of the same people. That would be the ones that don't take any responsibility for the things they do or don't do that make their lives so miserable.

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 12:40:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 hehe - we must know some of the same people. That would be the ones that don't take any responsibility for the things they do or don't do that make their lives so miserable. OH crap, I mean I knew the world is a small place but I can't believe you guys both know one of my half sisters.

E2Sweet -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 12:59:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 ...did you ever get tired of people in the lifestyle telling you how things are to be done and what is correct protocal or ethical stance... Hmm, I'm seeing some of that here on the forums and I honestly don't let it get to me all that much. There have been a few wtf moments for me in reading some of the things I have read here, but keeping in the back of my mind that people can (and will) do and say what they wish, helps when I just need to let things slide... But then again, I've had my moments here in ranting a bit over ethics (and the lack thereof) with regard to how some people treat other people, so perhaps I'm one of the guilty ones in this as well...[;)] I'm just now starting to get re-acquainted with the local r/t community here in the area, but even back when I was somewhat of a regular, I didn't hear speeches declaring "my way is the only way". Any time I've ever heard anyone say "You should do...", "You should try" or "This is how you should..." it seemed to me to be said out of the spirit of sharing, or a genuine concern for one or more of the people somehow involved in the discussion, as opposed to being said in re-enforcing the "my way is the only way" concept... and really, I don't mind hearing others offering unsolicited opinions when its done in moderation, especially since many in my local scene are quite a bit more experienced than I am...

pompeii -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 1:34:00 PM)
Fundamentally, there are "perceptive" and "judgemental" personality types regarding how people act on data they've processed. You're basically talking about the judgemental types, whereas you're likely perceptive. It isn't any more right or wrong to be either one, but, the judgemental, as you've noted, tend to like it their way and only their way (however, there are degrees of this trait, some stronger than others) whereas the perceptive go with the flow. More about the personality types at Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Briggs_Type_Indicator) and Myers Briggs (http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/).

JerryFrankster -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 1:53:57 PM)
I just took the MBTI not too long ago. I took it once before about 15 years ago shortly after graduating highschool. Back then, I scored INFP, this most recent time I scored INTJ. The 'T' score was very low (1 actually) so I guess that would make me more of an INxJ. Wouldn't be surprised if there were an unusually high percentage of NTs on this board. Also, I should point out that "judging" and "judgemental" are two different things.

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: anally whacked (8/30/2008 1:54:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pompeii Fundamentally, there are "perceptive" and "judgemental" personality types regarding how people act on data they've processed. You're basically talking about the judgemental types, whereas you're likely perceptive. It isn't any more right or wrong to be either one, but, the judgemental, as you've noted, tend to like it their way and only their way (however, there are degrees of this trait, some stronger than others) whereas the perceptive go with the flow. More about the personality types at Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Briggs_Type_Indicator) and Myers Briggs (http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/). The very first time I took this test the results were ENTJ (1.8% of what the population is) which was a self affirmation that I'm a bit of an odd ball wierdo bastard. I have also taken the test and came back with ENFJ. The results have been pretty close or similar. Depending upon what mode I was in. There is a deep thinking side a long with an Emotional Feeling side to my personality. Actually ironic as it is, my message board posts probally even reflect both sides at time. One thing is this, I keep coming up as the Judgemental Bastard type, Pretty Amazing eh?

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