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Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 11:52:46 AM   
buttermilkdreams


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Status: offline 		Hello everyone, after lurking on the sidelines enjoying the discussions of others I thought I would take some initiative and ask a question of the group to see if I am alone in this situation.  This question is geared towards the ladies but men are free to respond if you have an opinion.  I'm a little nervous so bear with me. 

A little background
  I had an interesting thing happen a couple of months ago.  My husband and I have been married for 22 years and have three children.  Now that the kids are growing into their early teens they have taken a toll on our (my) sex life.  I was always afraid of the children hearing us having sex (I was raised in a very conservative household) and so I would try to be as quiet as I could be during sex.  My husband always got his orgasm but mine (when I had one) was not as strong as it used to be.  I just chalked it up to age and being together for a long time.   One day last winter, when I started to orgasm (and I guess I was making some noise) and before I could stifle it, my husband clamped his hand over my mouth, looked me right in the eye and said “Nobody is going to hear you”.   I was quite surprised and for a moment not quite sure what to make of it, but my body suddenly exploded into a very powerful or.  My moans were muffled under his hand and I had the strongest orgasm in a very long time.  Although the kids were just down the hall, nobody heard anything!!!   That was great!!! Talk about liberating???  We have now incorporated that into our sex lives and it’s like a new door has opened for me.  He sometimes grabs me out of the hallway, clamps his hand over my mouth, pulls me into the bedroom and just takes me for a quickie but the result is the same.  It's strong, its powerful and I find myself actually wanting sex again.  I love the mind blowing intensity of the orgasm I get.   It’s like I am a teenager again.  We have incorporated several other gags (handkerchiefs, scarves, panties and tape) into our play and my enjoyment has never been better and our play time more spontaneous.  (He takes it off for other activities but he puts it back on again)  We’ve begun to incorporate some light bondage into our play and I enjoy that too but the biggest surprise for me is the increased intensity of my orgasms when I’m gagged.   I guess my question to the women (and men if you have been on the other side of this) is this:  Has this ever happened to you and if so, how did you discover it?   
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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 11:58:30 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		Oh what a wonderful post, i am so pleased that you are having such a great time with it!  Master has started clamping His hand over my nose and mouth just at the point i reach orgasm and yes, for me it is mindblowing.  Enjoy your discovery and eachother.

Hugs

Gabrielle x

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 1:28:31 PM   
pompeii


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Status: offline 		It's wonderful. You're not the only one. Otherwise, there wouldn't be a plethora of gags available out there for others, in addition to a strong firm hand.

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 2:08:46 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Add a blindfold also and you may hit the roof!

I prefer a ball gag, myself but his hand is nice also. The gag however allows him to use his hands in other ways. On the other hand (so to speak) it's very erotic licking his palm while he covers my mouth.

Funny story, we were alone in the beach house the other day and he just clamped his hand over my mouth. Later I asked why since there was nobody to hear us. He said I'm loud enough that he thinks the people next door could hear. That I have trouble believing.

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 2:12:37 PM   
Nemesys


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Status: offline 		I'm guessing that if a "forced" gag alone is an intense turn-on that the gagged one is usually an Extrovert.

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 2:22:03 PM   
WhiplashSmile2


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Status: offline 		I enjoy reading a postive experience post such as this!  I'm very happy for you.
Plus you discovered this by natural interaction with one another.

Many of the things I learned were by discovery and exploration in my younger years.  Simply doing and trying twisted things out and if it was a good experience, to do it some more, expand upon up and take it to new levels and directions.

Again, I'm so happy for you. :-)


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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 2:28:52 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 2:30:11 PM   
Daddyssweetpea


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quote:

ORIGINAL: buttermilkdreams

Hello everyone, after lurking on the sidelines enjoying the discussions of others I thought I would take some initiative and ask a question of the group to see if I am alone in this situation.  This question is geared towards the ladies but men are free to respond if you have an opinion.  I'm a little nervous so bear with me. 

A little background
I had an interesting thing happen a couple of months ago.  My husband and I have been married for 22 years and have three children.  Now that the kids are growing into their early teens they have taken a toll on our (my) sex life.  I was always afraid of the children hearing us having sex (I was raised in a very conservative household) and so I would try to be as quiet as I could be during sex.  My husband always got his orgasm but mine (when I had one) was not as strong as it used to be.  I just chalked it up to age and being together for a long time.   One day last winter, when I started to orgasm (and I guess I was making some noise) and before I could stifle it, my husband clamped his hand over my mouth, looked me right in the eye and said “Nobody is going to hear you”.   I was quite surprised and for a moment not quite sure what to make of it, but my body suddenly exploded into a very powerful or.  My moans were muffled under his hand and I had the strongest orgasm in a very long time.  Although the kids were just down the hall, nobody heard anything!!!   That was great!!! Talk about liberating???  We have now incorporated that into our sex lives and it’s like a new door has opened for me.  He sometimes grabs me out of the hallway, clamps his hand over my mouth, pulls me into the bedroom and just takes me for a quickie but the result is the same.  It's strong, its powerful and I find myself actually wanting sex again.  I love the mind blowing intensity of the orgasm I get.   It’s like I am a teenager again.  We have incorporated several other gags (handkerchiefs, scarves, panties and tape) into our play and my enjoyment has never been better and our play time more spontaneous.  (He takes it off for other activities but he puts it back on again)  We’ve begun to incorporate some light bondage into our play and I enjoy that too but the biggest surprise for me is the increased intensity of my orgasms when I’m gagged.   I guess my question to the women (and men if you have been on the other side of this) is this:  Has this ever happened to you and if so, how did you discover it?   


so glad you discovered this about yourself!  have fun!

i personally do not like the idea of gags.  so much of what Daddy and I share is verbal, that I would not like the speech restriction at all.

However, Daddy has pinched my nose shut briefly on occasion while he's taking my mouth.  Now that's the kind of gagging I like!

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 3:18:46 PM   
TwilightShadows


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Status: offline 		Just yesterday I was wore a gag for the first time.  It's a "breather gag" -  because I'm claustrophobic to the freak out stage - made out of a whiffle ball I think.

He was merciless with bringing me to orgasm over and over, and not being able to cry out or do much other than drool and moan, was very intense.  The release was so incredible that I was earnestly crying.  (thank you, Sir)

I loved it.

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/30/2008 5:11:38 PM   
whis31


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Status: offline 		OMG! i love gags, i'm a screamer to start with when i have an orgasm. and with a gag i can be that much later and no one will here me.


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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/31/2008 4:17:21 AM   
buttermilkdreams


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Status: offline 		We have never tried a ball gag but its something we have thought about and will probably try that soon. (Just the thought of that gets me instantly wet).  I think he would continue to put his hand over my mouth no matter where we were because quite frankly after discovering my orgasms again I've become quite vocal (and don't plan to change that).   I don't know about licking his hand but I do love the smell of his skin just under my nose.

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/31/2008 1:59:15 PM   
ken54


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Status: offline 		A gag is your excuse to scream. When the ropes go on the outside they come off the inside. ENJOY.
Ken54

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/31/2008 2:25:20 PM   
TimeInEveryDay


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Status: offline 		It's always good to read a completely positive post.  It's even better that gags would be the topic of that post!

We personally LOVE gags (in all their forms) and wish you good things on your journey!

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/31/2008 3:35:17 PM   
SeekingHawk


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Status: offline 		Oh My Gosh... My Sir just told me about this question... Said it reminded him of me.  So, I had to read it..and OMGOSH... Sir is so right.   I've been married well over 24 years.. and in that time, I've had orgasams, but they were on "spot specific" areas... and none of them were ever mind blowing, damn bursting or gushing any type of fluids.   Until I met my Sir.  The very first time we played, was the very first time that I ever experienced being gagged.  Sir got me to gush so much.. that I was totally embarassed.  That's never happened to me before..ever....  Not even when I brought myself to orgasam. The intensity and the freedome that it gives is indeed mind blowing. 
 
   As for gagging me with his hand.. OH MY EVER LOVING GOSH.. !  The moment Sir snuck up behind me and took me by total surprise and clamped his hand over my mouth... the smell of him... the taste of him.   Sir discovered the secret and Sir just kept using it over and over...  making me have orgasam after gushing and squirting , floor soaking orgasams. Sir even clamps his hand tightly over my mouth that was gagged with a gag ball and that was awesome too....    
 
 I cant say enough about how Sir has unlocked the doors and opened the flood gates(litterly) using his powerful hands on my mouth as a gag. and that didn't stop Sir there either.  Sir has even gagged me using other parts of his body.. and it is equally mindblowing.  Sir is the only one with the key and the knowledge and talent in which to use it. 
 
Yeah for Gags... Thank  you Sir
Seekinghawk

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 8/31/2008 3:46:23 PM   
buttermilkdreams


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Status: offline 		First I want to thank everybody for their positive feedback on this thread.  I was a little nervous posting on this topic but you all have made me feel very comfortable.  I still feel a little strange when my gag is applied, thinking that I must be strange for liking this but the end definitely justifies the means.  We keep several scarves, some handkerchiefs and a roll of duct tape in the nightstand drawer so its always handy (although my husband usually already has what he needs out and ready when he clamps his hand over my mouth and pulls me into the bedroom).  I"ve seen another post that talked about bondage tape and "vet wrap" and will definitely look into those as well as the ball gag. (this is all so very exciting).  We're definitely going to look into a blindfold too.  I hope to hear from some more women on how they feel about gags and orgasms (sorry guys you give some wonderful warm comments but its the woman who get the actual experience and have a more intimate knowledge) and how to use them to make things even better.   Thank you again for making a very nervous woman very comfortable.

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 9/2/2008 12:38:12 PM   
buttermilkdreams


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  You sound like a woman after my own heart!!!  I'm not sure that I have the same type of orgasms you do (gushing and squirting?.....another new thing for me to investigate) but it sounds like you get as much intensity and pleasure out of it as I do.   I'm feeling like a kid in a candy store

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 9/2/2008 1:20:36 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: buttermilkdreams

Hello everyone, after lurking on the sidelines enjoying the discussions of others I thought I would take some initiative and ask a question of the group to see if I am alone in this situation.  This question is geared towards the ladies but men are free to respond if you have an opinion.  I'm a little nervous so bear with me. 

A little background
  I had an interesting thing happen a couple of months ago.  My husband and I have been married for 22 years and have three children.  Now that the kids are growing into their early teens they have taken a toll on our (my) sex life.  I was always afraid of the children hearing us having sex (I was raised in a very conservative household) and so I would try to be as quiet as I could be during sex.  My husband always got his orgasm but mine (when I had one) was not as strong as it used to be.  I just chalked it up to age and being together for a long time.   One day last winter, when I started to orgasm (and I guess I was making some noise) and before I could stifle it, my husband clamped his hand over my mouth, looked me right in the eye and said “Nobody is going to hear you”.   I was quite surprised and for a moment not quite sure what to make of it, but my body suddenly exploded into a very powerful or.  My moans were muffled under his hand and I had the strongest orgasm in a very long time.  Although the kids were just down the hall, nobody heard anything!!!   That was great!!! Talk about liberating???  We have now incorporated that into our sex lives and it’s like a new door has opened for me.  He sometimes grabs me out of the hallway, clamps his hand over my mouth, pulls me into the bedroom and just takes me for a quickie but the result is the same.  It's strong, its powerful and I find myself actually wanting sex again.  I love the mind blowing intensity of the orgasm I get.   It’s like I am a teenager again.  We have incorporated several other gags (handkerchiefs, scarves, panties and tape) into our play and my enjoyment has never been better and our play time more spontaneous.  (He takes it off for other activities but he puts it back on again)  We’ve begun to incorporate some light bondage into our play and I enjoy that too but the biggest surprise for me is the increased intensity of my orgasms when I’m gagged.   I guess my question to the women (and men if you have been on the other side of this) is this:  Has this ever happened to you and if so, how did you discover it?   


Absolutely.  Its harder for me to orgasm and really have an intense orgasm when I have to hold it back.  So I find inflatable gags, in particular, really helpful for stifling noises since I can be pretty loud if I am not careful.

C~


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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 9/2/2008 1:32:43 PM   
RealSub58


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ORIGINAL: buttermilkdreams
You GO girl !!!  Welcome to the forums
and the fun.
I guess my question to the women (and men if you have been on the other side of this) is this:  Has this ever happened to you and if so, how did you discover it?   


I had a similar experience with a Dom I bottomed for.  He put 2 inch thick leather cuffs on all limbs, a 3 inch leather collar on my neck and handed me the biggest dong I had ever seen and told me to masturbate, asking him permission to cum.
 
I have a short neck and the thing was fit loosely enough so I could at least breath.
But I noticed the leather collar got tighter and tighter the more I was aroused and when I finally found the right spot I had an orgasm equal to a high Richter scale.  I could not believe how long it took me to come down.

He had to remove the collar almost immediately, he said I was a bit blueish.  I asked him how and why?
He compared it to a male orgasm when the Dom saves it all after a lengthy build up and finally blows off like a volcano.

I didn't know it, but he also told me my subspace was deep.  Before I met my Sir, I tried to simulate that same orgasm and just couldn't.

Might I suggest you have your Dom hubby try that one and see what happens. 

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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 9/2/2008 2:00:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: buttermilkdreams

Seeking Hawk

You sound like a woman after my own heart!!!  I'm not sure that I have the same type of orgasms you do (gushing and squirting?.....another new thing for me to investigate) but it sounds like you get as much intensity and pleasure out of it as I do.   I'm feeling like a kid in a candy store



Welcome to Candyland!!!

What a fabulous journey that you and your husband are on....enjoy the ride...it just keeps getting better!

I am currently reading the following book, since I've been a squirter since I was a teen and have read everything I could get my hands on!  Recently though, I would love to be able to control or loose control more, it has fantastic exercises in it and is incredibly empowering as a woman and especially your partner to read.  All the books on G-spots and female ejaculation have been good, but this book has alot more information and is very user friendly...and it's just plain rockin!

http://www.amazon.com/Female-Ejaculation-G-Spot-Mothers-Positively/dp/089793380X/ref=sr_1_17?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220388633&sr=8-17

Just my little book review...knowledge is power...and on this topic...I'm feeling pretty darn powerful as a woman!



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RE: Gags and Better Orgasms - 9/5/2008 4:01:15 PM   
buttermilkdreams


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http://www.amazon.com/Female-Ejaculation-G-Spot-Mothers-Positively/dp/089793380X/ref=sr_1_17?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220388633&sr=8-17

Just my little book review...knowledge is power...and on this topic...I'm feeling pretty darn powerful as a woman!


OMG, I had absolutely no idea!!!!!   Add this the the book collection that stays in the drawer with the new toys!!

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