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Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 6:18:19 AM   
subeos


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Status: offline 		What is romantic bondage? What would it mean to you?  Anything that sounds like romance is a little off (4me) when i think of that and BDSM.

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 7:14:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sorry that you don't think a D/s relationship can also be romantic. If mine didn't include love, then I wouldn't be in it.

I've never heard the term 'romantic bondage', but it brings to mind comfortable bondage, possibly on a bed strewn with rose petals.

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 7:22:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ah, a question near and dear to my heart. I consider BDSM bondage as "foreplay" where I spend, hopefully hours, on her before we culminate the act ... I lead her about, leashed and bound, blindfolded, and gagged ... I "accidentally" touch the good spots, while giving her a bound massage ... I brush up against her nipples as I adjust her collar and leash ... I dildo her ass as I flip her helplessly bound body over for a look ... I lick her kitty with her legs spread, each bound to a bedpost ... I alternatively suck and pluck at her nipples with the clover clamps ... I kiss her open mouth even as it's held open with a ring gag ... I carry her over my shoulder, bound hand and foot, from couch to bed ... and ... in the end ... after hours of this foreplay, I culminate the act, hopefully while she's still bound & gagged.

Just afterward, as I catch my breath, I untie her gently, ungag her, flip her back over, and kiss, caress, nibble, etc. on all the soft spots. If she puts her head in my lap, kissing and sucking on my now limp member, she's now devoid of any D/s element, and I am basking in the glow of a romantic evening just getting started.

To me, THAT, is romantic bondage!

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 7:51:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subeos

What is romantic bondage? What would it mean to you?  Anything that sounds like romance is a little off (4me) when i think of that and BDSM.

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Is that coming from the same thought process that makes you believe it isn't christian to practise it either?
 
Romantic bondage could mean bound by love.  Or it could mean being wrapped up in silk instead of wire.  As always YMMV.  Considering your question and the thought process you consistantly exude, I doubt you will experiencing it any time soon.
 
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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 8:40:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: pompeii

Ah, a question near and dear to my heart. I consider BDSM bondage as "foreplay" where I spend, hopefully hours, on her before we culminate the act ... I lead her about, leashed and bound, blindfolded, and gagged ... I "accidentally" touch the good spots, while giving her a bound massage ... I brush up against her nipples as I adjust her collar and leash ... I dildo her ass as I flip her helplessly bound body over for a look ... I lick her kitty with her legs spread, each bound to a bedpost ... I alternatively suck and pluck at her nipples with the clover clamps ... I kiss her open mouth even as it's held open with a ring gag ... I carry her over my shoulder, bound hand and foot, from couch to bed ... and ... in the end ... after hours of this foreplay, I culminate the act, hopefully while she's still bound & gagged.

Just afterward, as I catch my breath, I untie her gently, ungag her, flip her back over, and kiss, caress, nibble, etc. on all the soft spots. If she puts her head in my lap, kissing and sucking on my now limp member, she's now devoid of any D/s element, and I am basking in the glow of a romantic evening just getting started.

To me, THAT, is romantic bondage!




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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 9:42:27 AM   
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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 9:46:21 AM   
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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 9:49:06 AM   
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I still have a hard time believing that i can have a successful relatioship now where i can be happy and i can make a man happy, after 30 years of failure in Vanilla.

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 10:03:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd say there can be romantic flogging, spanking, caning and bondage. You can love someone and yet do all those things and more to her. It's not like I have to chase her down like a cowboy trying to rope a calf in a rodeo. She wants this as much as I do and by giving it to her, I'm showing my concern for her pleasure, as well as mine.


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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 10:26:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subeos

What is romantic bondage? What would it mean to you?  Anything that sounds like romance is a little off (4me) when i think of that and BDSM.

slave eos



Is that coming from the same thought process that makes you believe it isn't christian to practise it either?
 
Romantic bondage could mean bound by love.  Or it could mean being wrapped up in silk instead of wire.  As always YMMV.  Considering your question and the thought process you consistantly exude, I doubt you will experiencing it any time soon.
 
the.dark.


I don't necessarily find it inappropriate to consider BDSM and romance as separate entities. To me, they can be combined, but are really two separate aspects of inter-relationship, and, in willing individuals, can exist separately or co-exist.

I don't do 'romance' with my BDSM and D/s activities (actually, I don't really do romance, period). My Darling, however, may, depending on the person she's with. Both of us are still involved in WIITWD, though. There is no rule that says that you -can't- have romance... but there is also no rule that says that it -has- to be there, either, so it is important to respect both sides of the argument, -and- know which side you fall on in case it comes up.

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 11:27:10 AM   
buttermilkdreams


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Status: offline 		Hi  Im new to this whole thing but I tend to agree with most of the people who have posted here in that bondage as foreplay can be very romantic.   I think that there is most defiantly a hard and soft bondage with the "soft" bondage being more romantic then the hard and "forceful" (not that I've found anything wrong with either of them that I have experienced so far) 

When I think back to some of our bondage experience and thnk of me wearing a very sexy nightgown letting him know that I want him, candles in the bedroom, incense burning on the nightstand,  him leading me to the bed and laying me down with my body spread just the way he likes it, the slow deliberate binding of my body with soft silky material, the application of my gag to take away the last of my control, the touching of my breasts, pussy and other body parts at his discretion not mine, the building of the mental and physical pleasures, culminating when he finally takes me, feeling him fill me up and giving me my orgasm because he wants me to have it.   I dont' know about any of you other ladies but it sounds (and was) pretty romantic to me.   

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 12:27:56 PM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
There is no rule that says that you -can't- have romance... but there is also no rule that says that it -has- to be there, either, so it is important to respect both sides of the argument, -and- know which side you fall on in case it comes up.

CFB



Absolutely it is about respect.  I just have little tolerance for people who consistantly show via posts that they have little for anyone save themselves.
YMMV of course.
 
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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 1:32:34 PM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Now to me, "romantic" bondage would be those times when part of His purpose is to display my body to its best advantage, the times He takes extra time to bring beauty to the knots to dress me in such a way that I feel not only secure, but lovely.  He's romantic that way.

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 1:42:57 PM   
seekingdomdublin


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ORIGINAL: buttermilkdreams

Hi  Im new to this whole thing but I tend to agree with most of the people who have posted here in that bondage as foreplay can be very romantic.   I think that there is most defiantly a hard and soft bondage with the "soft" bondage being more romantic then the hard and "forceful" (not that I've found anything wrong with either of them that I have experienced so far) 

When I think back to some of our bondage experience and thnk of me wearing a very sexy nightgown letting him know that I want him, candles in the bedroom, incense burning on the nightstand,  him leading me to the bed and laying me down with my body spread just the way he likes it, the slow deliberate binding of my body with soft silky material, the application of my gag to take away the last of my control, the touching of my breasts, pussy and other body parts at his discretion not mine, the building of the mental and physical pleasures, culminating when he finally takes me, feeling him fill me up and giving me my orgasm because he wants me to have it.   I dont' know about any of you other ladies but it sounds (and was) pretty romantic to me.   



that sounds like heaven, very romantic indeed, lucky you to have someone so able to meet those needs, even more convinces me that waiting longer is so worth it

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 3:11:27 PM   
subeos


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Is that coming from the same thought process that makes you believe it isn't christian to practise it either?


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Considering your question and the thought process you consistantly exude, I doubt you will experiencing it any time soon.


Off topic here, this post is not about Christians.

Tell me, since you think you  know me so well what is my thought process?

i am not here to feud, i simply asked a question. To bad you have the need to criticize. Maybe try using spell check i might be able to read your post once and figure out what you are actually trying to say.... the first time.

It was a question, no need to flame me.

Obviously you do not like my posts. Sorry to offend. Not everyone is alike.

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 3:46:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: subeos

What is romantic bondage? What would it mean to you?  Anything that sounds like romance is a little off (4me) when i think of that and BDSM.

slave eos



When we're doing thing a bit softer. I know that may sound strange but there can be something wonderful soft in affectionate in his eyes when he looks at me, all wrapped up in silk. When I'm his good little Kitten and the flogger pets instead of punishes. It may not make a lot of sense but it's definately possible.

It also depends on how you define romantic. Candles, a warm bath and roses sound great in theory to me but when it comes down it, I'm going to be let down if he doesn't drip the wax on me with that wonderful grin of his. What can possibly be more romantic than knowing he loves me enough to screw the roses, to borrow the phrase. 

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Maybe try using spell check i might be able to read your post once and figure out what you are actually trying to say.... the first time.

 
BTW, while I am more than aware that dark needs no one to defend her, I ran spellcheck on the quoted text for shits and giggles because I couldn't spot the error. Oh no, an "a" instead of an "e" on a commonly misspelled word - how can we grasp the meaning?

For the most part, it isn't usually considered off-topic to reference another view held by the OP. Personally, I can't fathom why you think it wouldn't be possible to be both religious and into BDSM. If you do some research you will find that many faiths have used pain as part of their ritual and others require people (usually within marriage) to enjoy sex. If that means BDSM, so be it.

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 3:49:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: subeos

What is romantic bondage? What would it mean to you?  Anything that sounds like romance is a little off (4me) when i think of that and BDSM.

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i'm a slave to love, absolutely without question and love can sometimes be romantic (idealised).


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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 3:49:26 PM   
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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 4:03:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pompeii

Ah, a question near and dear to my heart. I consider BDSM bondage as "foreplay" where I spend, hopefully hours, on her before we culminate the act ... I lead her about, leashed and bound, blindfolded, and gagged ... I "accidentally" touch the good spots, while giving her a bound massage ... I brush up against her nipples as I adjust her collar and leash ... I dildo her ass as I flip her helplessly bound body over for a look ... I lick her kitty with her legs spread, each bound to a bedpost ... I alternatively suck and pluck at her nipples with the clover clamps ... I kiss her open mouth even as it's held open with a ring gag ... I carry her over my shoulder, bound hand and foot, from couch to bed ... and ... in the end ... after hours of this foreplay, I culminate the act, hopefully while she's still bound & gagged.

Just afterward, as I catch my breath, I untie her gently, ungag her, flip her back over, and kiss, caress, nibble, etc. on all the soft spots. If she puts her head in my lap, kissing and sucking on my now limp member, she's now devoid of any D/s element, and I am basking in the glow of a romantic evening just getting started.

To me, THAT, is romantic bondage!



Oh myyyyyyy  sounds  so righttttt  mmmmmmmmmm  {daydreams this one yummmy}

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RE: Romantic Bondage - 9/2/2008 4:21:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Bondage can be very romantic.  A great example is the time I was taken to the bedroom, stripped, and bound with my wrists tied to my ankles.  I sat on a large pillow on the floor and was blindfolded.  I was left there for what seemed like quite some time, listening to some instrumental music.  When the blindfold was removed, there was a candlelit dinner of sliced Cuban roast pork and gravy, rotisserie chicken, steamed asparagus, grapes and Hawaiian rolls.  As I wondered how I was going to eat any of it or whether he was going to eat it in front of me while I sat there helpless, he began to feed me by hand, literally.  He tore the meat and bread into bite sized pieces and had me open my mouth like a baby bird.  When I was thirsty, he held the glass to my lips for me to drink.  Of course, afterwards, he pushed me forward onto the pillow and took me from behind for dessert.

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