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thetammyjo -> RE: Seeking information about 24/7 lifestyle servitude. (11/26/2005 7:24:21 PM)
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Living 24/7 varies from relationship to relationship -- even within the same household or with the same owner/dominant the requirements might differ with different slaves/submisisives.
To be really honest most folks I know who do 24/7 live very mundane lives the vast majority of the time -- real life is like that. What makes it 24/7 for them and for me is that we recognize that one person in the relationship (the dom or owner) has the authority to make decisions and to be served while the other person (sub or slave) has the responsiblity to serve.
That's pretty much where I've seen similarities end.
I know a gay 24/7 couple (fairly famous pair) who have been together 10 years -- when the slave gets home he undresses, he does the vast majority of the cooking, his orgasms are strictly controlled (etc).
Then there's me and Fox. Only time Fox is naked is when I tell him to be or his taking a shower. I do most of the cooking. Except when he is physically with me, he can orgasm anytime and frankly hasn't orgasmed in my pressence in half a year or so.
But guess what? We get along great with the gay 24/7 couple, in fact we consider them our closest friends of this orientation (they are in a larger city and know more folks who practice 24/7 than we do on a face-to-face basis). We just passed our 6th year together in fact but we see their level of committment and communication as something we try to emulate.
Our rules and rituals are completely different but when I talk to the gay master, we click, we understand each other perfectly; same for our slaves. While what we do may look very different, the core, the basis is the same.
So to understand 24/7 I think you just need to see the core (recognized power or authority dynamic that does not end) and then realize there is nothing common beyond that.
If you find a person whom you match well enough then 24/7 can be great. I won't lie to you, it is still work and an ongoing dynamic that real life and changes in the individuals involved may require adjustments over time.
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