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Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 7:39:29 AM   
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i personally think it was in poor taste.  i would not have attended either.  Why on earth would this couple choose a place like that to get married in, except to cause attention to themselves and how "unique" they are?  They are  s.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 8:10:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's his place of work - some people get attatched to their workplaces.  Besides, who knows, they may have met there, or he may have been allowed to use the place at no cost.  I don't have an issue where anyone choose to get married.  After all funerals occur in churches all the time.  I see no real difference.
 
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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 8:48:25 AM   
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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 11:44:23 AM   
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I wouldn't have a problem with it. He probibly saved a lot of money.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 11:51:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		*chuckles* I would have attended.

If you think this is weird, you're definitely not going to appreciate my daughter and her fiance's idea of the 'perfect' wedding. My daughter and her fiance (both heavily invested in the Gothic culture) are planning their wedding in New Orleans, so that they can arrive in matched coffins in a hearse for the ceremony. They attended their prom in a hearse as well.

Sure, it's a little weird, and some of our more straight-laced relatives are probably going to ditch, but heck, it's their party. (Yes, for those of you who know me, I am presiding over the ceremony).

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:07:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		i just see it as disrespectful, especially seeing he works there, kinda tacky i think.  There are many ways of saving money when getting married, this isn't one way i would employ. 

Calla what your daughter is doing is making a statement about her "lifestyle" - that's different in my eyes.  What color is she wearing for her dress?  Black i presume? 

Churches aren't the only option for getting married, but they are places many go when people celebrate life transitions - births, weddings, deaths, etc.  Funeral homes aren't generally associated with marriage ceremonies and celebrating, their sole function is preparing the dead and displaying them in a room for one to three days, depending on how many the person wants or can afford.  Why not have wakes in favorite restaurants, or schools because it means something to us?  How chaotic it would be if everyone did this. 

i suppose i am just a traditional sort of gal.



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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:14:21 PM   
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this slave would have attended...had she been invited.
 
how does inviting others to share in the joy of your nuptuals, at the place of your choosing, equate to being an attention whore?

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:18:41 PM   
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Why not have wakes in favorite restaurants, or schools because it means something to us?  How chaotic it would be if everyone did this. 



....er.....actually why not? A little bit of chaos isn't a bad thing in everyone's eyes.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:21:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's a great idea! Different people have different perceptions on life- I would have gone, I'm all about the haunted house industry, and have met some interesting folks along the way. One of the construction managers actually collects vintage hearses, they are pretty nice- but I have a thing for classic cars to begin with.

They aren't the first to get married in a graveyard, or funeral home... personally I think it's less tacky than a drive-thru wedding in Vegas

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:22:46 PM   
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i just see it as disrespectful, especially seeing he works there, kinda tacky i think.  There are many ways of saving money when getting married, this isn't one way i would employ. 

Calla what your daughter is doing is making a statement about her "lifestyle" - that's different in my eyes.  What color is she wearing for her dress?  Black i presume? 

Churches aren't the only option for getting married, but they are places many go when people celebrate life transitions - births, weddings, deaths, etc.  Funeral homes aren't generally associated with marriage ceremonies and celebrating, their sole function is preparing the dead and displaying them in a room for one to three days, depending on how many the person wants or can afford.  Why not have wakes in favorite restaurants, or schools because it means something to us?  How chaotic it would be if everyone did this. 

i suppose i am just a traditional sort of gal.


Ummm... people -do- have wakes at favorite restaurants, pubs, etc. Just as an example is the Irish or Sicilian wake -- some are held at home, but most of the Irish wakes I've been to have been held at a local pub... about 75% of them had the "corpse of honor" present for the occasion. All the Sicilian wakes I've been to have had the deceased laid-out on site, and have traditionally been held in the father's home or place of business (or, if not the father, the oldest living brother's), and family, customers, and business partners are all invited to eat and drink with the family on 'common ground'.

Just saying...

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:26:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it was kind of nice to bring some joy to the place for a day.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:30:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		How totally fantastic for you!  Best karma to you and yours - it would be great to see some photography of the event if you ever get time.
 
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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:43:11 PM   
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How totally fantastic for you!  Best karma to you and yours - it would be great to see some photography of the event if you ever get time.
 
the.dark.


You can bet there will be photos up on my journal -- and if not here, I'll let folks know when they go up on my MySpace page.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:46:09 PM   
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Calla what your daughter is doing is making a statement about her "lifestyle" - that's different in my eyes.  What color is she wearing for her dress?  Black i presume? 



I think she's wearing blood red -- she's still designing the gown, so it's in flux. Last we talked about it, she was talking about blood-red velvet and patent leather, with a 'train' of synthetic crow's feathers topped with black roses.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 12:59:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		I saw that blip and had to laugh. Loved it. Not something I would do but heh, I also don't believe in big weddings either.

It's funny that you can have funerals and weddings in churches but have a wedding in a funeral home and people are all aghast.

This country is so fucked up sometimes. The hypocrisy amazes me.


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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 1:20:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I probably wouldn't have attended, but that's not about the funeral home but the fact that weddings can be dangerous to the unmarried male.  My wife and I went to a Homecoming dance in a stretch hearse while I was wearing a top hat and tails similar to one in Bram Stoker's Dracula and she wore something not too dissimilar to Elvira's outfit.  We weren't voted as King and Queen, but got mention as Dark Prince and Princess.  So, I'd not have much drama about a funeral home.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 1:30:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's obviously a special place for him, so more power to them for having it somewhere special, rather than at a place that means nothing to them.  Maybe it's a really elegant and beautiful place that fits perfectly for what they wanted to do.

As a symbolic view, I don't see death as something horrible and morbid; I see it as something beautiful, the end to life on earth, and the birth to what now becomes our legacy - whatever it may be.  In many ways, the marriage of two people is the end to life as they once knew it and the beginning of a new purpose, a new journey, and new memories.

A building means to us whatever we want it to mean.  I find funeral homes to be wonderful places to share deep emotions we don't normally expose in public.  Having a wedding in one brings joyous emotions to share, and new beginnings.  Good for them for being uninhibited enough to decide to do what they want to do, rather than go with societal norms.

And as a side note, if you think about it, how is this any different than say, having a wedding in a Christian based church, whose purpose it is to pay homage to a man that was brutally tortured and killed?

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 4:35:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

And as a side note, if you think about it, how is this any different than say, having a wedding in a Christian based church, whose purpose it is to pay homage to a man that was brutally tortured and killed?


... and, no disrespect intended, but who is said to have risen from the dead -- which, to some folks, is tantamount to being "undead".

I know I've seen this quote somewhere, but "just sayin'"

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 4:40:13 PM   
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I think it was kind of nice to bring some joy to the place for a day.


I agree. Plus funeral homes are nice and have lovely sanctuarys.

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RE: Talk about dying to get married! - 9/2/2008 4:41:36 PM   
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...They aren't the first to get married in a graveyard, or funeral home...



Heck, Forrest Lawn in L.A. employs *two* wedding planners on site.


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