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MistressAnna2u -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 8:25:07 AM)
Do you want to be maid for fun or do you really want to be a sissy maid? you must make up your mind as to which as if you want to do it for fun then yes get a prodomme. If however you realise that having these thoughts makes you inferior to us then seek out thorough training in all aspects of maid training, cleaning, cooking, how to give a pedicure, bath oils and salts, massage, caring for leather and pvc and maybe take a course in beauty therapy. This is the reality, if you can face it then good for you, you will make some Domme a happy Lady.

Coupleofwhats -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 9:02:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact If I were a pro, such as I believe coupleofwhats is, I'd be saying whatever brought Me the advertising and the revenue. Wouldn't that make the most sense? To do the best for business? The lifestyle stuff, I could have on the side. The clients are, well..... clients. They became clients for a reason. It's not this random thing of they chose to pay because they had so many other options out there. This is why pro domination exists, isn't it? Supply and demand? Sorry, hon, but the last six months of seeing more Dommes than male subs at lifestyle gatherings tells Me that it's not a shortage of femdoms out there. It's more like many lifestyle dommes aren't willing to settle on certain things. ...at what point in my response did I say anything that would make me one red cent? When have I ever? I suggested the idea of a house in his hometown (which may or may not exist: I don't know), and passed on a link for a woman that I'd heard great things about. Guess I'll go buy that summer home I've had my eye on, now that I've made all this money posting on the CollarMe forum. [8\|]

Jasmyn -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 9:20:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I think part of the problem is that many of these fetishes are not D/s or bdsm actvities, Fetishes? I beg to differ they are fetishes and I will earnestly argue sissification, sissy maids, and adult babies are rooted in D/s, with either and all lending themselves extremely well to many facets of a D/s defined relationships and friendships. It serves no purpose to polarize these activities as something seperate to and/or been diametrically opposed to D/s, other than to justify an author's distaste for them.

pinnipedster -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 9:26:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressAnna2u Do you want to be maid for fun or do you really want to be a sissy maid? you must make up your mind as to which as if you want to do it for fun then yes get a prodomme. I don't think it's entirely an either/or. If I were going to be someone's maid (whether full-time, or only occasionally) I would certainly expect to have to provide real service. the details to be negotiated but with emphasis on the needs/wants of the Lady involved. However, that doesn't mean that there wouldn't still be a 'fun' aspect. For instance, if a woman wanted me to just be her housecleaner -- say, come over when she's not home, dressed however I like, do the chores agreed upon -- vacuuming, dusting, scrubbing floors, washing dishes, etc. -- and be gone before she returns, and never see her otherwise -- I would not be the least bit interested, unless perhaps she paid me well. However, if she wanted me to do the same set of chores when she was home (at least for a small part of the time), insisted that I be properly uniformed and groomed, that I curtsey when addressing her, that I also provide some personal services (foot massages, fetching refreshments), that I be called by a feminine name, address her respectfully, and generally be treated as her inferior -- that I would find a much more interesting proposal. I would not expect constant attention -- she wouldn't have to follow me around with a whip to get me to work at all -- but if I don't get some attention, then there's not really much there for me. Does that mean I'm not a "real" submissive? That I'm not willing to focus 100% on her needs, and get my satisfaction entirely from providing service? Perhaps according to some. But for me, the sub has to be getting something from the experience. I happen to kind of get off at just being treated like a servant, and I also enjoy crossdressing and have at least a small maid uniform fetish. A woman who knew how to exploit that could get quite a lot of work out of me in return; and if she happened to enjoy it as well, that's even better!

TwoNYCDommes -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 9:35:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinnipedster quote: ORIGINAL: dannyteasetoy I've often wondered why sissys and crossdressers don't often hang out together and indulge in each others fantasy life. I'm not talking about bi sex, but maybe shopping for clothes and such. It's as if they are a bit creeped out by thier own kink when it applies to another man. I've read that most crossdressers are actually quite hetero and I don't doubt that. Without going on too long, I would separate "crossdressers" from "sissies" here -- that is to say, there are plenty of crossdressers who are not particularly into the "forced feminization" fantasy, and they do in fact network and bond and help each other out; there are any number of clubs and events out there for them (I should say "us" but I never actually go to those events -- to me, personally, they seem like they would be too artificial.) As to why the "sissies" might not, I suspect it could be that they are uncomfortable with the whole thing without somone there to "make" them do it. Most of the sissies I know do hang out together. (Of course, there is likely some selection bias in my sampling, since I've met most of them at parties thrown by a sissy friend of mine.)

Jasmyn -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 9:43:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinnipedster However, if she wanted me to do the same set of chores when she was home (at least for a small part of the time), insisted that I be properly uniformed and groomed, that I curtsey when addressing her, that I also provide some personal services (foot massages, fetching refreshments), that I be called by a feminine name, address her respectfully, and generally be treated as her inferior -- that I would find a much more interesting proposal. And I ... the first scenario would leave me stone cold.. why pay for cleaning when a well trained and attentive sissy maid was willing to do it for me [;)] pinnipedster if you're ever in NZ, there is a feather duster here with your name on it

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 9:50:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jasmyn quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I think part of the problem is that many of these fetishes are not D/s or bdsm actvities, Fetishes? I beg to differ they are fetishes and I will earnestly argue sissification, sissy maids, and adult babies are rooted in D/s, with either and all lending themselves extremely well to many facets of a D/s defined relationships and friendships. It serves no purpose to polarize these activities as something seperate to and/or been diametrically opposed to D/s, other than to justify an author's distaste for them. I see where yo uare coming from, Jasmyn, and I am not trying to drive anyone away or justify my "distaste", which is simply a preference. I know more than a few sissies and AB's who fit into the D/s mold just fine. I encountered even more who I consider genuine fetishists---those needing the object for sexual gratification. They needed to dress up, and dressing up, and being acknowledged as femme, was enough. They did not need a dominant, they just needed some level of validation to get their enjoyment.

OttersSwim -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 9:58:17 AM)
I believe that there is a real need to strike a -balance- in any kink/fetish you might have. If you let one thing totally consume you, then you are a one-trick-pony and after a bit, you are going to get a lot of yawns. I think that one of the things that makes crossdressing/sissification so consuming is that in so many people, there is a break in their gender identity to begin with , and by scratching that itch, you are creating a -connection- and energy flows to the person in a positive way. That can be intoxicating and consuming because it is filling an emptiness. So many have denied themselves that connection for years, and it can be a big hole to fill. And so they lack balance and it becomes all about the fetish. Most Doms are smart people and they look for subs in whom they see a balance of interests and an overall well rounded being. As a person who has identified as two genders for his whole life, crossdressing certainly has an appeal. I have gone to the brink of surgery and decided it was not for me. There is definitely a -break- in me that crossdressing completes a connection. I have spent a lot of years understanding what it is...understanding that it is not bad, or wrong...and taking time to honor it and finding activities that fill that space in me that identifies as female. I still have some distance to go before it comes completely into balance in me...but hey, life is a journey. :)

balletsissypa -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 10:59:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b Coupleofwhats is spot on with her advice here, go to a pro-domme. But not to pay, but to offer service. That is if you are genuinely serious about helping her and working in her house rather than feeding your own kink. Ugh, true story. EVERY sissy maid/boy who has contacted me for a session has turned out to be horrible. They decide they want to clean in exchange for their session. Sorry hun, that means you have to clean. Flouncing around in a petticoat with a duster is useless- and scares the cat. OMG......You are so right. Unfortuantely for me, the maid that is so true. For someone who really does clean and take pride in her work i cant tell You how frustrating that is. It is so hard for maids like me to find positions because of it. maid lauren

LadyPact -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 12:52:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact If I were a pro, such as I believe coupleofwhats is, I'd be saying whatever brought Me the advertising and the revenue. Wouldn't that make the most sense? To do the best for business? The lifestyle stuff, I could have on the side. The clients are, well..... clients. They became clients for a reason. It's not this random thing of they chose to pay because they had so many other options out there. This is why pro domination exists, isn't it? Supply and demand? Sorry, hon, but the last six months of seeing more Dommes than male subs at lifestyle gatherings tells Me that it's not a shortage of femdoms out there. It's more like many lifestyle dommes aren't willing to settle on certain things. ...at what point in my response did I say anything that would make me one red cent? When have I ever? I suggested the idea of a house in his hometown (which may or may not exist: I don't know), and passed on a link for a woman that I'd heard great things about. Guess I'll go buy that summer home I've had my eye on, now that I've made all this money posting on the CollarMe forum. [8\|] LOL. It's a cute little yellow thing, but someday, we'll have to have a good debate on the eye rolling. I'm not saying that your words here are making you the revenue. What I'm saying is, from a business standpoint, feigning interest in certain activities professionally would increase the number of clients, and as a result, increase the income. I may be just a lifestyle domme, but I do have some business sense. It would seem to Me that one of the best ways a professional could draw new clients would be offering what the clients can't find otherwise. I'm sure your clients are quite happy with the services rendered. Still, you have to wonder how many of them would remain paying clients if they could get the same service for free? There are certain fetishes out there that can be an awfully difficult to find a match because there just aren't as many people interested from the other side of the kneel. That's why people can charge money in the first place. It goes back to supply and demand. To Me, if there's a decent market out there for a particular fetish, it would seem it would make sense to offer that service. It may not especially trip your trigger in your personal life. However, you wouldn't necessarily say that to the client who you are hoping will be a repeat customer. That's not good for business. What I would think would be good for business would be saying and doing those things that make him want to come back. Plus, you never know. It's entirely possible that a client out there would stumble across something you've written on these boards, and think his money is best spent on you. If people can find lifestyle connections here, why couldn't clients find a professional that fits them? Stranger things have happened.

thomas790 -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 1:43:41 PM)
As the person that started this whole exchange by asking what I thought was a polite and simple question (go back to the beginning) I'm surprised at all the twists and turns this discussion has taken. I guess I provided an opportunity to work out some issues that some people found irresistible. I wasn't going to jump back in but there seems to be a sugestion that Coupleofwhats is here as a professional. She simply suggested a site that she thought might help me in my search.Anyone looking at the site would see there is no sign she is any way connected to it. In fact, it seems like it might be out of operation. I appreciated her effort to help me.

LadyPact -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 2:56:52 PM)
I had a decent reply to this typed up. Then My internet blipped and I lost the whole thing.

Coupleofwhats -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 3:52:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact If I were a pro, such as I believe coupleofwhats is, I'd be saying whatever brought Me the advertising and the revenue. Wouldn't that make the most sense? To do the best for business? The lifestyle stuff, I could have on the side. The clients are, well..... clients. They became clients for a reason. It's not this random thing of they chose to pay because they had so many other options out there. This is why pro domination exists, isn't it? Supply and demand? Sorry, hon, but the last six months of seeing more Dommes than male subs at lifestyle gatherings tells Me that it's not a shortage of femdoms out there. It's more like many lifestyle dommes aren't willing to settle on certain things. ...at what point in my response did I say anything that would make me one red cent? When have I ever? I suggested the idea of a house in his hometown (which may or may not exist: I don't know), and passed on a link for a woman that I'd heard great things about. Guess I'll go buy that summer home I've had my eye on, now that I've made all this money posting on the CollarMe forum. [8\|] LOL. It's a cute little yellow thing, but someday, we'll have to have a good debate on the eye rolling. I'm not saying that your words here are making you the revenue. What I'm saying is, from a business standpoint, feigning interest in certain activities professionally would increase the number of clients, and as a result, increase the income. I may be just a lifestyle domme, but I do have some business sense. It would seem to Me that one of the best ways a professional could draw new clients would be offering what the clients can't find otherwise. I'm sure your clients are quite happy with the services rendered. Still, you have to wonder how many of them would remain paying clients if they could get the same service for free? There are certain fetishes out there that can be an awfully difficult to find a match because there just aren't as many people interested from the other side of the kneel. That's why people can charge money in the first place. It goes back to supply and demand. To Me, if there's a decent market out there for a particular fetish, it would seem it would make sense to offer that service. It may not especially trip your trigger in your personal life. However, you wouldn't necessarily say that to the client who you are hoping will be a repeat customer. That's not good for business. What I would think would be good for business would be saying and doing those things that make him want to come back. Plus, you never know. It's entirely possible that a client out there would stumble across something you've written on these boards, and think his money is best spent on you. If people can find lifestyle connections here, why couldn't clients find a professional that fits them? Stranger things have happened. Who's feigning interest? I, for one, have no interest in playing with sissies professionally or personally, ever since having a string of disappointing experiences with them. I actually won't play with people for money if their scene bores or repulses me: that's how I run my business. The way I see it, there are plenty of other ladies who are actually into their scene, and they should do it with someone who enjoys it. And of course they wouldn't pay to play with me if they could get the same thing for free. I sure as hell wouldn't pay my landlord if I could stay in my apartment for free. The people I play with don't pay for me to tolerate doing something I hate with them. They pay so that I can afford to do what I like with them. I mean, if I worked a vanilla job, I'd play with my boyfriend and that would be the end of it. I think of being a ProDomme as being an artist. You hone your skills and create scenes for the enjoyment of yourself and others. If you're good, you'll attract patrons who'll allow you to do what you love because they appreciate it. So, no. I don't tell anyone what they want to hear so that they'll come back and we can be miserable in session together. If I wanted to be paid to do things that bored me, I'd use my degree and go back to the office.

iwearpanties -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 4:03:11 PM)
thomas : dont worry this happens alot here on collar a simple thread gets all twitsted form what its started out as .. i am like you i like and enjoy dressing ad playing d/s games how ever you will find not many females are into this at all . Many males like us will get looked down on and told how much they all hate or will not do or dont or wont . i used to go to adult book sytores and get magazine where people will tewll you what they seek and in thes magazine youll find all types of persons in this also if you send me a message ill help you with websites and other this too vist

thomas790 -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 5:28:06 PM)
MistressAnna2U this was my hope and why I posted my original question.

LadyPact -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 5:36:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats Who's feigning interest? I, for one, have no interest in playing with sissies professionally or personally, ever since having a string of disappointing experiences with them. I actually won't play with people for money if their scene bores or repulses me: that's how I run my business. The way I see it, there are plenty of other ladies who are actually into their scene, and they should do it with someone who enjoys it. And of course they wouldn't pay to play with me if they could get the same thing for free. I sure as hell wouldn't pay my landlord if I could stay in my apartment for free. The people I play with don't pay for me to tolerate doing something I hate with them. They pay so that I can afford to do what I like with them. I mean, if I worked a vanilla job, I'd play with my boyfriend and that would be the end of it. I think of being a ProDomme as being an artist. You hone your skills and create scenes for the enjoyment of yourself and others. If you're good, you'll attract patrons who'll allow you to do what you love because they appreciate it. So, no. I don't tell anyone what they want to hear so that they'll come back and we can be miserable in session together. If I wanted to be paid to do things that bored me, I'd use my degree and go back to the office. We're not really so far apart on everything here. I'm glad to see that. You might be in a better position with your personal business than some others I've listened to. Unless I'm mistaken, didn't you work for a house at one time? I do know some have different rules and such. I can't say I'm very familiar, but I'm still working on an understanding from the outside in. So, is what you are saying here is that all of your clients are alike and you play with all of them the same way? I'd find that rather interesting. Most professionals, any profession, doctor, lawyer, hairdresser, etc, generally have some clients they prefer than others. Even when I Top, I have certain bottoms that I prefer over others. I would have to think it's the same thing. I don't play with them all the same way, and I don't especially think the monitary exchange has a lot to do with that. I guess I'm looking at it from a small business mentality. I mean, you have to eat, right? (Don't take it the wrong way. That's just My way of saying you need to earn a living at what you're doing to make it work for you.) Well, if there came a time that the clients weren't especially the type that you have as much fun with, but you needed the income, wouldn't you still do what would be to your own advantage? When business is bad, I'd have to think that a paying client is better than no client at all. Heck, I've known lawyers starting up a practice that took some defendants that they really wanted nothing to do with, just to keep the shingle up. You think of a pro domme as being similar to an artist. I can assure you that some of us simple lifestyle types are the same way. It's actually part of My bio when I need to advertise for demos. None of this really does much for the OP. His particular kink, along with some others, seem to make it hard to find a lifestyle situation. My original thought when I posted was that it seems to be a shame that there is the great lapse in people finding a way for their needs to be filled. That kink doesn't tend to be the only one. I know there are other resources than are better than this one for AB's in particular, so that was the drive behind My asking if there isn't another venue that might work better. Still, I've very much enjoyed the discussion in how we see business differently. I wish you continued success in yours. ETA: Yes, sometimes threads take on a life of their own. When someone posts a question, the discussion might turn into something entirely different. The OP of any thread never knows where one will lead, but sometimes, they can turn into interesting subjects. Dominant women are well rounded people. We talk about everything from kink, to small business, to protocol, to politics. Aren't discussion boards grand?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 5:46:05 PM)
I'm not saying that your words here are making you the revenue. What I'm saying is, from a business standpoint, feigning interest in certain activities professionally would increase the number of clients, and as a result, increase the income. I may be just a lifestyle domme, but I do have some business sense. It would seem to Me that one of the best ways a professional could draw new clients would be offering what the clients can't find otherwise. [/quote] One of the reasons I was successful at being a pro dominant was that I loved my work. My enthusiasm showed, and my clients appreciated it. They knew that I was not some gal with a rack of fancy costumes faking it for the cash. Yes, I even generated the enthusiasm for sissies and crossdressers! It was hard but I did it. (Always did love playing dress up! [:)]) My clients were paying serious money for my skills, and they deserved REAL interest in them and what they wanted, not a clockwatcher who couldn't wait for the session to be over. I assure you, if I had tried to cater to a market that I did not enjoy working with, such as AB's, my lack of interest would have showed, and my reputation harmed. The men who see pro dominants DO post on the Max Fisch boards, believe me! It comes down to integrity, really. I didn't take just any client who called. If there wasn't a good fit, I recommended them to someone I knew if they wanted a speciality, or just turned them down if they were icky. I wouldn't have been able to go in and do a lackluster scene. That would have been cheating the client, and diminishing me.

undergroundsea -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 6:44:14 PM)
I think this site aligns well with what you describe: http://sissyprep.com/ It is, however, under construction. Sissy Maid Kelly is nationally known in sissy circles and excels in that role. Mistress Demonica has played a crucial role in guiding Sissy Maid Kelly to become what she is. The two have given educational presentations on related topics at BDSM conventions. I consider the two wonderful people and good friends, and vouch for them wholeheartedly. Cheers, Sea

LadyPact -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 6:50:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I'm not saying that your words here are making you the revenue. What I'm saying is, from a business standpoint, feigning interest in certain activities professionally would increase the number of clients, and as a result, increase the income. I may be just a lifestyle domme, but I do have some business sense. It would seem to Me that one of the best ways a professional could draw new clients would be offering what the clients can't find otherwise. One of the reasons I was successful at being a pro dominant was that I loved my work. My enthusiasm showed, and my clients appreciated it. They knew that I was not some gal with a rack of fancy costumes faking it for the cash. Yes, I even generated the enthusiasm for sissies and crossdressers! It was hard but I did it. (Always did love playing dress up! [:)]) My clients were paying serious money for my skills, and they deserved REAL interest in them and what they wanted, not a clockwatcher who couldn't wait for the session to be over. I assure you, if I had tried to cater to a market that I did not enjoy working with, such as AB's, my lack of interest would have showed, and my reputation harmed. The men who see pro dominants DO post on the Max Fisch boards, believe me! It comes down to integrity, really. I didn't take just any client who called. If there wasn't a good fit, I recommended them to someone I knew if they wanted a speciality, or just turned them down if they were icky. I wouldn't have been able to go in and do a lackluster scene. That would have been cheating the client, and diminishing me. I certainly see your point. As I said before, I don't especially think the money changing hands as much to do with it on this level. Just like I wouldn't top certain people because their kink just didn't interest Me, I can see how it could mess with a pros reputation. After all, we do call it playing because it's supposed to be fun!

Coupleofwhats -> RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues (9/4/2008 11:04:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact We're not really so far apart on everything here. I'm glad to see that. You might be in a better position with your personal business than some others I've listened to. Unless I'm mistaken, didn't you work for a house at one time? I do know some have different rules and such. I can't say I'm very familiar, but I'm still working on an understanding from the outside in. So, is what you are saying here is that all of your clients are alike and you play with all of them the same way? I'd find that rather interesting. Most professionals, any profession, doctor, lawyer, hairdresser, etc, generally have some clients they prefer than others. Even when I Top, I have certain bottoms that I prefer over others. I would have to think it's the same thing. I don't play with them all the same way, and I don't especially think the monitary exchange has a lot to do with that. I guess I'm looking at it from a small business mentality. I mean, you have to eat, right? (Don't take it the wrong way. That's just My way of saying you need to earn a living at what you're doing to make it work for you.) Well, if there came a time that the clients weren't especially the type that you have as much fun with, but you needed the income, wouldn't you still do what would be to your own advantage? When business is bad, I'd have to think that a paying client is better than no client at all. Heck, I've known lawyers starting up a practice that took some defendants that they really wanted nothing to do with, just to keep the shingle up. You think of a pro domme as being similar to an artist. I can assure you that some of us simple lifestyle types are the same way. It's actually part of My bio when I need to advertise for demos. None of this really does much for the OP. His particular kink, along with some others, seem to make it hard to find a lifestyle situation. My original thought when I posted was that it seems to be a shame that there is the great lapse in people finding a way for their needs to be filled. That kink doesn't tend to be the only one. I know there are other resources than are better than this one for AB's in particular, so that was the drive behind My asking if there isn't another venue that might work better. Still, I've very much enjoyed the discussion in how we see business differently. I wish you continued success in yours. ETA: Yes, sometimes threads take on a life of their own. When someone posts a question, the discussion might turn into something entirely different. The OP of any thread never knows where one will lead, but sometimes, they can turn into interesting subjects. Dominant women are well rounded people. We talk about everything from kink, to small business, to protocol, to politics. Aren't discussion boards grand? I started out at a house, yes. I found that the majority of their clients wanted a micromanaged fantasy: I was supposed to wear costume X and say "Blah blah blah" before kicking them five times and turning around in a circle, while touching my nose. It drove me nuts! And unless there was a problem of safety or something, you pretty much had to play with whoever they booked for you. (And while it's never mandated that you have to do every activity, you don't get in good with management by refusing to play the hits: strap-on, overwrought roleplay scenarios, "sensual" domination.) So, I quit working for them and struck out on my own. I actually have a pretty wide range of interests, I think. I like to hurt people and make them embarassed. I like sensory dep. I like medical scenes. And I love to tie people up. If you can't get down with any of that, I don't know what to tell you. Really, I mostly exclude the guys who think that domination = "raping" them with strap-on, and the guys who just want to come in and roleplay. (Unless you have a REALLY good sense of humor and will let me hurt you, I'll die of boredom after 30 seconds.) I have some clients that I do higher protocol with than others. Some clients bring out my chatty Cathy. Others, I only talk to before and after the session. Some I don't ever hurt. Others I beat to a pulp. All I ask is that they have some of the same interests as me, and that they're respectful. After that, it's all about clicking and wanting to play together again. I find that I mostly don't have a choice about not playing with people I don't like. Like I said, I enjoy quite a few things: I don't think I'm that picky a kinkster! When someone says they don't like ANY of the stuff that I'm into, it's usually because they want a dildo up the butt and nothing else. (Which is fine: that's their thing.) So it's a pretty deep divide. It's either something I can work with, or they want all my hard limits. The closest I ever get to doing sessions that I don't love are foot fetish things. I don't dislike it really... I just don't get what the big deal is about feet. (Shoes, yes!) But usually, there's a massage in it for me, so we both walk away happy. As long as it's with a well-behaved fetishist, I'll do some foot stuff during a slow month.

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