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OttersSwim -> Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 1:16:38 PM)

So you are at your job, or shopping, or whatever - out in the vanilla world being the person you are when you are not with your dominate other.

Are you different out there?  Do you "drop in" per se, into submission when you get in the presence of your dominate?

Last night, my very first experience - the conversation was great, the connection was sparking, but when we got close I was twitchy, awkward, stiff and really feeling the dork.  Towards the end of the night, she takes control, and climbs into my lap, starts kissing my neck, and rubbing the back of my head, controlling it's motion.  She bends my head back, exposes my throat and takes it in her teeth.  It was like flipping a switch, and I suddenly drop into this glorious state where I would have let her hang me by my balls if she wanted to.  It was warm and safe, and totally submissive.  I am not sure if it could be called sub space or not...but the act dropped me into feeling incredibly submissive to her, and suddenly everything was right and I no longer felt any resistance or awkwardness at all.

What about you?  Do you need anything to drop in and get your head into the submissive place?



IrishMist -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 1:21:29 PM)

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What about you?  Do you need anything to drop in and get your head into the submissive place?

Yes...and no...mostly no though.

I don't switch personalities from one extreme to another; I am the way I am always, no matter where or who I am with; and yet, there are a few select men who bring about a change in my attitude...they are few and far between though.



colouredin -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 1:53:53 PM)

Nope not really, i am normally a fairly opinionated bitch to be honest, submission to me isnt a switch or a mode its just a facet of my personality when im in a D/s relationship it just slots in and makes the whole fit a lot better, its not a physical thing to me thnough so maybe thats the differance.

When I am in a D/s relationship I hold it with me all the time and it influences everything I do, its like an internal check on my behaviour, a hand to help me walk through the day which is why I am simply better when I am in one than when I am not



OttersSwim -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 2:22:59 PM)

Thanks for the replies.  :)  I admire the quality of being with -it- all of the time and integrating it into your whole being.  I think that would be a very important quality of balance and harmony in most submissive people.  Certainly a goal to shoot for.



sistermargaret -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 2:44:28 PM)

Yes, i drop into submission when i hear His sultry sexy voice. Not so much when we are just chatting and He's laughing or telling me about His day, but when He turns on THAT voice, i'm gone. And yes, i'm all dorky and uncoordinated with Him, but then i drop, and all is right with the world ... i'm His and life is good. i'm so glad you enjoy that too. Its great!
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All it takes is absolute surrender.



OttersSwim -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 3:03:54 PM)

Someone kindly pointed out to me that I had misused the term dominate in my initial post.  Since editing it is no longer an option, please substitute dominate with dominant where appropriate. 

I am new to the terms and my head had not got round the verb/adjective distinction.

My apologies to those who may have read and punched their monitor. 



OttersSwim -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 3:11:30 PM)

Sistermargaret, thanks for your reply.  It was one of the most profound feelings I have ever experienced.  It was incredibly sensual and I just wanted to stay there in her arms forever, her teeth buried in my throat.  It was a very simple act and it surprised and disarmed me completely.  I feel very lucky that she found me, and I really hope it works out for us!  :) 

Dropping in FTW!



DesFIP -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 3:12:16 PM)

I'd call that a submissive headspace and yes, the teeth in the neck does it everytime. He has a lot of fun with it, will do it randomly and laugh as he goes on with the conversation and I'm smiling dazedly at the wall trying to think.



mistoferin -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 3:18:53 PM)

I call it the "fuzzies". There are certain things that he says or does that do just drop me down to that "duh" level where I can just totally forget the sentence that was coming out of my mouth or the task that I was working on. An example...if he comes up to me and grabs me by my hair....instant!

(and no, that's not subspace)



Gleegal67 -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 3:28:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I call it the "fuzzies". There are certain things that he says or does that do just drop me down to that "duh" level where I can just totally forget the sentence that was coming out of my mouth or the task that I was working on. An example...if he comes up to me and grabs me by my hair....instant!

(and no, that's not subspace)


I'm so with you on this!

What makes me giggle is when my hairdresser grabs my hair...oops!...wrong time, wrong place, wrong person!  Still makes me laugh thinking about it!



Curiositee -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 3:30:55 PM)

For me, it's when he grabs a handful of my hair, usually followed by a kiss or a command.  Even when he just threads his fingers through the hair at the nape of my neck (such as when we're driving) will do it.  I actually lose track of  whatever I'm thinking.  It can be very disconcerting when he does it in public, but I love it!



beargonewild -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 4:06:08 PM)

For the most part, this is second nature to me. 



sistermargaret -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 7:23:15 PM)

and grabs me by my hair....instant!

(and no, that's not subspace)

Hummm, it seems like subspace.  Do you experience subspace differently from that?  i think defining 'subspace' is like defining fog.
 
<---- yes, i'm curious! (So glad the vanillia cone is gone :)
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All it takes is absolute surrender



mistoferin -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 8:07:01 PM)

Well....fog CAN be defined. I also believe that there is a pretty good explanation of subspace too. I realize that subspace has become a catch all phrase for all sorts of emotions...as has subdrop. I tend to view them as physical chemical responses. I experience subspace MUCH differently than what I refer to as the "fuzzies". Actually, the "fuzzies" are to subspace as mole hills are to mountains.



graceadieu -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/3/2008 9:01:10 PM)

Mmmm, I love that. When my whole world narrows down to a desire to please, and I get such sublime satisfaction from doing what I'm told and taking what I'm given (regardless of whether it's something I'd normally enjoy). It's one of the best feelings in the world.

It's not any one thing in particular that gets me there, but a certain commanding, authoratative tone of voice definitely helps. [:)]



littleone35 -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/4/2008 7:36:43 AM)

I am always submissive, all i have to do it hear my Masters voice  no certain tone or anything just his everyday voice to drop me deeper.  I mean i am so totally in love with him that just hearing his voice is the trick.  When we are together face to face it has to be his voice and the wicked smile he gives me when i know what he is thinking does me in.

Matt's littleone



subdevra -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/4/2008 7:50:54 AM)

for me it is when Master takes a nipple squeezes and twists.  instant submission.  sometimes he will bring me close to him in public and do discreetly and i just melt.



oceanwynds -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/4/2008 8:51:43 AM)

Hello OttersSwim
My body responds first, as soon as Sir comes to visit me. He laughs because i break out in a sweat, and knows it is for Him. We live apart and my daily life is demanding so i not always in submissive mode, but there are times throughout the day when i think of him, my body will go into those nice fuzzy feelings.

Blessings
oceanwynds



AnakaSilk -> RE: Dropping Into Submission (9/4/2008 3:37:41 PM)

Actually, that's something I've been needing help trying to define for myself.
Am I just not relinquishing enough control of myself? I've heard of subs just zoning/passing out when they go into their 'space.' Not me. Totally relaxed, yes. (esp. when bonded) [;)] Responsive, yes. Feeling like a sub/not vanilla, oh yes. Outside myself, No.
Any hints? Ideas? Suggestions?



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