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24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 6:39:09 PM   
knees2you


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Just wondering how many people live 24/7
or can't because of other things?
 
What do Your families think about it?
How many know.
 
Did this come about because of Work, friends, magazine, etc.
 
I myself do not live this 24/7. maybe 5/7
 
My Family is all Dominate and I'm the submissve one.
 
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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 6:45:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: knees2you

My Family is all Dominate and I'm the submissve one.
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I'm sorry -- I couldn't help it.... Dom-i-nant. Dominate is a VERB, folks... dominant is the adjective (occasionally accepted as a noun)... and, as long as I'm being bad, it is "My family -are- all dominant... you're talking about multiple people here... so the verb must be plural.

Now... back to your regularly scheduled program

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 6:55:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nope don't live it 24/7 physically due  to life's circumstances.
 
Though Master is in my mind 24/7 and all my actions and such are based on that.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 7:40:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd like to, but I've yet to find anyone. That being the case, I have no idea whether or not my life would allow it.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 7:44:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		interesting, just this morning i was released by my Master and in the last hour he finally told me it was because he realized that he can't live with someone 24/7.  luckily we weren't doing that so a lot of hassle and heartache will be avoided.  i think some people are up for it and some aren't.  when my kids were younger i wouldn't have considered it but now that they are older i know that i could do it easily with the right person.  dont' know if this helps or not, my mind is a bit scattered tonight.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 7:52:38 PM   
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They think we make a cute couple...lol.
Knows what? That we are a couple? Everyone we know. If you mean our sex life...I don't talk about the specifics of that with my family....do you?

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 8:26:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, I think there is a difference between having a live-in servant or living full-time with a dominant individual and living one's chosen way of life 24/7. I don't have a live-in servant. I think it is unlikely that I will have one for a while yet, and I'm ok with that. My Darling and I are not in any hurry, and refuse to be rushed through the vetting process. We -have- had live-in servants, and have lived with full-time companions as a successful poly household.

That being said, we live, 24/7, as dominant women, regardless of whether we have live-in servants. We work, play, express ourselves, and explore the universe from the perspective of the fully self-actuated dominant woman. We do not hide our natures, and while we don't shove what we are in people's faces, we have never shirked from answering an honest question or assuaging honest curiosity. If it takes more than that to live one's chosen way of life 24/7, I don't know what that would be.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 8:54:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Its funny.  When I was married I was very much that live in servant.  When I hear people wanting to live that 24/7 type of life I remember why I never wanted to remarry.  Now.. if we are talking about being sexually teased, open for fondling, tomented at will.. that I might stand 24/7.. at least for a week or two.
LOL.. why do people assume that 24/7 means it is somehow visible to the world at large?  Isn't it just life?
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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 9:07:37 PM   
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quote:

I'm sorry -- I couldn't help it.... Dom-i-nant. Dominate is a VERB, folks... dominant is the adjective (occasionally accepted as a noun)... and, as long as I'm being bad, it is "My family -are- all dominant... you're talking about multiple people here... so the verb must be plural.

Now... back to your regularly scheduled program

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Ok Missed spelling that one.
So your just here to bug peoples spelling or
your going to sometime in the future answer the question?~~~>
 
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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 9:11:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I once had, a few years back, a nice play partner acquaintance practically beg me to take her on, 24/7, but, alas, my living arrangements would never have allowed it at the time. Pity. 

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 9:13:38 PM   
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Yes - we're 24/7 alive and living; aren't we all?

Ant, you're trying to define something that is meaningless out of context.

I said this to someone else on a similar attempt at isolating one aspect of a relationship. Whether defining a label like 'slave' or differentiating it from another label 'submissive'; or anyone living anything 24/7; its but one facet. A 'diamond' usually has 58. A relationship can have as many as the people who comprise it, feel necessary. The one you look at may look, and be, flawed under a loop, but you have to look at the entire diamond, or the entire relationship, to appreciate its quality. 

People represent, and can be, 24/7 and live in different counties; not me, but people. How easy or difficult it is all about the people involved. I'll tell you what though - outside influences only come into play if the people involved let them.

Good luck my friend.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 10:43:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I believe I want 24/7; however, finances have prevented it in the past. I think not being able to go 24/7 was a major part of lossing my last partner. She really needed that and I could not provide it which affected me emotionally. (Yes I suffer from the "Man = Provider" syndrome.)

I have changed my life around and created a business where my next partner and I can work together. If 24/7 is important and you love each other then most people could do it but it does take some sacrifice and a lot of planning because life is expensive.
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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 11:33:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Darcy and I live 24/7.  Otherwise we would be dead.
24/7 is a metaphor, try not to make it into something it isn't.
 
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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/3/2008 11:40:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm assuming the question is who lives their particular choice of lifestyle 24/7. We certainly do and quite frankly, are not concerned about what anyone else thinks about it. It comes about because that is what we wanted to do.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/4/2008 12:16:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		Master and I are 24/7. Bdsm activities are not confined to the bedroom, or clubs or play. Bdsm occurs at His discretion, whenever and wherever He chooses. It is a contracted agreement. At the moment we run two different households because he is caring for His father who is extremely ill. But our 24/7 does not depend upon where we are ‘spatially’. Doing bdsm amongst the constraints of everyday life makes for edgy scenes a great deal of the time.  (The need for silence for example being one of my constraints) However our bdsm is not a lifestyle distinct from life itself. Therefore we both simply live 24/7.
See also from: http://www.londonfetishscene.com/wipi/index.php/24/7
24/7 is an abbreviation which stands for "24 hours a day, 7 days a week". It is an American way of saying full-time. In commerce and industry, it identifies a round-the-clock service, potentially including holidays and other days on which work is normally limited. In BDSM the term is used to identify or describe a relationship that is full-time, with no 'breaks' or 'timeouts'. It would normally imply a live-together arrangement, but this is not necessarily indicated. What is most important for this description to be accurate is that the parties involved do not make a distinction between being "in scene" and "out of scene" and they do not differentiate between time spent with each other and time spent away from each other, as far as their Dom/sub relationship is concerned. For example, even though two people might not live together, the commitment between them still abided, including any rules and understandings they have agreed upon, or any contracts they have entered into. There are no hard and fast rules: like any relationship, how it works is totally between the people involved and 24/7 means different things to different people. It rarely means chained-at-the-hip but will mean that they do not consider the D/s aspects of their relationship as something separate or apart from how they might otherwise relate. It is important that they are both/all happy doing whatever it is they do to whatever degree they do it. Instead of 24/7, people might meet up only occasionally or might be living together full-time but only involved in occasional play and therefore would not consider their relationship to be 24/7 D/s. Of course, the translation is somewhat subject to the interpretation of the parties involved, but is generally accepted with the same respect as a vanilla marriage agreement. 24/7/365 is sometimes also seen and has the same meaning, the 365 implying every day of the year.  

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/4/2008 1:58:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		We also live 24/7 and like mistoferin people for some reason thing we're cute! Family assume we're just your average couple and no reason to have them think anything else.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/4/2008 2:17:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Darcy and I live 24/7.  Otherwise we would be dead.

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fkn. hell D. choking on my coffee (metaphorically speaking).



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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/4/2008 4:21:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
I'll tell you what though - outside influences only come into play if the people involved let them.


How true!

24/7 is what you make of it.  Once I was collared I considered ours a 24/7 relationship even though we were 500 miles apart for most of the time.  I was still His slave and everything I did was to serve Him and our Relationship, including all the preparations to relocate to live with Him.  Now we are living together and my young adult offspring will be with us for about another 45 days.  What does my family think?  Both of my offspring commented to me that Master and I just appeared to "fit" so perfectly together that it is simply amazing and my parents commented that I sound so happy that they can't help but be happy for me.  If ever a time comes when "life" gets in the way of living, I would consider that to be death.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/4/2008 4:24:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would write something but Im afraid of the gramar police(Calla). I probably don't speak correct English. As for the op's question. 24/7 would depend on the compatibility of the people involved. When you have young ones involved that could also present a problem.

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RE: 24/7 or life doesn't allow it? - 9/4/2008 5:33:42 AM   
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i have tons of issues with trying to create a 24/7 relationship physically...i define 24/7 as living together. That is just my definition and that is what im referring to when i say that.

i struggle daily with trying to integrate all the parts/compartments of my life in a cohesive mess as it is. Let alone trying to establish a relationship that would be stable enough to introduce my child into, regardless of the dynamic involved. i just cant see introducing my immediate family (my child) into an outside relationship that may or may not last etc...

i know that when the time is right and the right person comes along/i find that person...if we are in the same place emotionally at the same time it will all just come together. That has been my experience all throughout my life and i see no reason to believe that it wouldnt be the same in a relationship. i have to be aware that my child has needs as well and that his interests supercede my own in every part of my life for now. Such is the price so that is what i pay...gladly.

As to having a relationship where the people dont live together...i have to believe that again...it will all come together. i have my own comfortable circle of friends and it would be really easy to hide in the bottom of my comfy little rut...but i dont. Even this weekend, i met another dom for coffee while i was spending time with one of my partners. He even accompanied me to the location...thank goodness he didnt want to be involved other than being nearby...or i would have died a thousand deaths.
He knows that eventually i will find that situation that fits well with my life and none of my friends want anything other than my happiness....(and more than a few tears and to mark me mercilessly).

When it happens it happens.

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