RE: Separating the Wheat from the Shaft

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slavedesires -> RE: Separating the Wheat from the Shaft (11/27/2005 1:34:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper quote: they are JUST NOT ALL THAT INTO YOU... let them go .. not worth your time. slavedesires Laughing; could you be a little more direct? Someday i must get that book from the library and read it...sounds hilarious. candystripper i read it...not worth its dribble...cause they need a book written for men on the same subject...hey dude..she is just NOT ALL THAT INTO YOU. but then after 30 years of looking at boys..men..dudes and the like..i'd not need that book to be begin with..i got a brain and am not clueless and i know when they just aint into me....rotflmfao but i realize for others it is a great text book of rich rewards...learning. [8D]

swtnsparkling -> RE: Separating the Wheat from the Shaft (11/27/2005 4:36:24 PM)
You know for about 20 bucks you can always do a background check see if info given is correct and also what others said about ever being out socialy/ locally i have a g/f who wont meet anyone if they wont go to a munch. If they do, well it is a safe public place and she knows he isnt hiding or afraid to be seen. If not, no loss to her. edit: had to add something lol

MissDiandSirHugh -> RE: Separating the Wheat from the Shaft (11/27/2005 5:23:31 PM)
G'Day candy we are unable to help you in a lot of your asking for but with your IMing may be if you have a few questions ready just worded in different ways that you ask at different times or on different days to see if the answers are either the same or conflicting to the last time you asked could be of some help. Say if they answer No to being married then at another time just sort of ask are you attached or are you in a relationship something like that,but also have other ones to be sure that it is all as it seems as well. We wish you safety and health at all times and please as others have stated just take your time and be your self and what your heart tells you at all times.

candystripper -> RE: Separating the Wheat from the Chaff (11/27/2005 5:41:16 PM)
quote: I've got one. You have to Google "Freudian slip" and then read all the links. Pollux LMAO...You sadist! candystripper

MsIncognito -> RE: Separating the Wheat from the Chaff (11/27/2005 5:57:30 PM)
I think others have addressed the main points in the post already so I won't repeat any of that advice. One thing I will add is that you may want to perhaps reconsider your "Must be experienced" requirement. IMO, it's not a matter of the blind leading the blind. It's a matter of learning, growing and developing something that is mutually satisfactory together. Trying to assess experience is tricky. Just because a guy says he has been a Dom for 5, 10 or 20 years and can even prove that by involvement in the community and providing references doesn't mean he's any good at it. Just because he's been doing it for a long time doesn't mean he's been doing it well. When I first joined the scene I thought that experience was important for the same reason you state. It took me about 3 months to figure out that experience isn't all it's cracked up to be after being involved with a Dom who has been involved in the local community for 7 years. Yet for all this 'experience' he hadn't yet progressed past the Castle Realm Dom 101 stuff. It was a real eye opener, that's for sure. Now I look for chemistry, creativity and integrity. Experience isn't necessary but an ability and desire to learn is.

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