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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba
...transition from American macho male to a pussy man. 

You know...I think that you meant no harm in this statement, but I want to push back on it a bit and challenge the thinking - why does submitting make a man a pussy?

The term "pussy", when used in relation to a male has very negative connotations of weakness and frailty of spirit.  I personally find it much the opposite of weakness or frailty to perceive and nurture a desire to submit to another - especially as a male in society today.

Don't want to derail the thread, but wanted to state that for thought.  :) 

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba
In the context I was using it, pussies are superior. Perhaps one sign that a man can be submissive is if he understands that pussies are a symbol of strength and superiority. As a true pussy man, I worship pussies.
I probably shouldn't have used the term "pussy man" because it is too easy to misinterpret.

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ORIGINAL: ScarlettStangata

Get used to being alone sister.

I actually left a vanilla marriage at age 27 - beautiful, young, succesful. I could have any vanilla guy I wanted. I left my vanilla marriage to live a D/s lifestyle because I felt that it was more true to who I was. I went and joined D/s lifestyle groups, discussed the finer points of living it, became friends with hardcore lifestylers who lived the life many years, took classes, etc.

Then I started D/s dating. I have found it almost impossible to find a submissive man who wants to be a slave AND a healthy partner to a Dominant woman. They have a fantasy in their head of what they want to be and they project that on the female Dominant. If the female Dominant doesn't live up to those expectations (usually to humiliate and objectify and fulfill HIS fetishes) they take off.

They yearn to be NOT be loved. Yeah they'll let you walk all over them, spit in their faces, whip them til they bleed but god forbid you ask them for a fucking hug - HARD LIMIT!!!!

I am now 29. Have been single for two years and I cannot find a partner who can see me as both their Dominant AND their partner. This is something that makes me INCREDIBLY sad. I have given up hope. I use service slaves to keep my apartment clean but do not allow myself emotional attachments anymore because I know they will just turn tail and run. Because most submissive men cannot handle their own emotions. They run from them . They use their submission as a way to not deal with them. So fine. I have seriously been debating just dating normal healthy minded vanilla guys and not telling them who cleans my apartment and hiding all my leather.

Who knows.

MS