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LatexHer -> PORN - does it really matter? (9/5/2008 9:11:19 AM)
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After 30+ years of being a male Dom active in the community, I have seen many types of letters related to porn. First of all allow me to express my views and observations related to this subject matter.
"Porn" as it is referred to, envelopes a huge and diverse area. Pictures of nude women in of all shapes, ethnicity and stages of development have been around for eons. If however one enjoys the many other forms of expression often associated under the general term of PORN, a partner may be a fetishist!
Fetishists have a desire and love of certain things, objects, material, or articles which may enhance their desire to have sex. A common fetish is a woman wearing a uniform like a nurse, maid, school girl, cheerleader, teacher, prison guard, policewoman, etc.
In todays more sexually expressive world other fetishes once kept secret, are now more in the open. These other fetishes include: Latex rubber, vinyl, gas masks, gags, hoods, leather straps, body bags, mummification, restraints, ropes, chains, collars, girdles, seamed stockings, garters, knife play, scents, etc, to name a few.
Another closely related subject is that of S&M. Sadomasochism includes the act of spanking, whipping, tit and pussy tortures, hot wax, pain, humiliations, piercings, electro shocks, and the pleasure derived by either the Dominant or the submissive. Although much controversy remains with the scope of the infliction of pain, how it is defined.
Since most people cannot clearly define "Porn" it is difficult to tell if it adversely affects relationships.
However, if a male or female viewing porn revealed any desire for fetish, bondage, or S&M related activities, than perhaps they should sit down and discuss openly their "Secret" desires with their partners.
Too many relationships are broken by a woman's reluctance to comply with her lovers fantasies, or a husband reluctance to talk with his wife. As long as no partner is injured, fantasies are commonplace and if properly executed can become the added spice in a relationship! There is no harm for you to tease him while wearing a rubber maids costume for example, or candidly whipping him, or he you. There is no shame for either of you to enjoy being tied, gagged, or sexually tormented, teased - if it is all done in fun.
Men and women both alike should remain open to suggestion. Couples that talk have a much greater chance of staying in a healthy relationship than those who remain in a virtual vacuum of modern sexuality! Porn as it is referred too is much more socially accepted in Europe, than here in the repressed USA.
Of course in our community where we have a set dominant or submissive lifestyle, the viewing of Porn, become much less of an issue when looked upon as a Dominant or submissive.
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