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lally3 -> destination unknown (9/5/2008 7:38:36 PM)
I realised the other day that i have grown so much and changed so much thanks to the people i have met in real time and on the net. I have gone through a huge range of emotions from total and absolute joy to complete and utter misery. I have climbed some steep learning curves and i have explored some deep dark places. I have pushed myself way beyond anything i ever imagined myself capable of and i have come out the other side much stronger, more peaceful and happier with myself than i have ever been. We put ourselves through emotional roller coasters, charged with intent, possibilities, hopes and dreams at the risk of finding everything or nothing. We place ourselves in situations with the potential for disaster, humiliation and dissappointment but always with the hope that it will be ok. We put trust into people we probably shouldnt and allow emotions to get so tangled up with someone our mothers would hate and our fathers would kill and we want to love but it all goes to hell anyway. We go through the whole gammit of relationship highs and lows time and again with unyielding hope and optimism. Some of us are lucky and find someone wonderful and others take longer and some give up completely. But you know it isnt so much the arriving as the journey that counts - its what shapes and makes you stronger. Looking back i realise that to have missed the journey, hellish though it was at times, i wouldnt have reached the place i am right now. Everything that doesnt kill us makes us stronger, its true. Im sure there are those who have sailed through their D/s journey and thats great too. But for the rest of us who have taken the high roads, low roads and the ones with potholes, dodgy roadside cafes and dead ends, id just like to say hi and share a wry smile.

girlivy -> RE: destination unknown (9/5/2008 7:49:29 PM)
But you were on the journey all along.... just by yourself.... Brick walls are not there to stop us, they are there to see how bad one wants whats on the other side :) Mmmmmaaahhh :)

impishlilhellcat -> RE: destination unknown (9/5/2008 8:16:48 PM)
I say you live, you love, you lose, you learn, you grow. Some people get better with time, some get more bitter only you can choose the path you take and..... Hello!

lovingpet -> RE: destination unknown (9/5/2008 8:34:01 PM)
It is that way on any journey in life. To me, it is the essense of what life is all about. We only understand one thing as desirable by having been face with its opposition. We know we are happy because we have been sad. We know peace because of strife. Because we have seen the darker moments, we are better able to appreciate and bask in the light when we find it. I am glad you have come to a place where you are able to embrace the whole journey and not just the good parts. Warmest Wishes, lovingpet

gypsygrl -> RE: destination unknown (9/6/2008 4:01:46 AM)
waves and smiles at lally3

oceanwynds -> RE: destination unknown (9/6/2008 5:31:26 AM)
Hi lally

oceanwynds -> RE: destination unknown (9/6/2008 5:33:57 AM)
Hi lally opps first post submit prior to me wanting it too. Have enjoyed many of your posts and wanted to say thank you for sharing you with others. blessings oceanwynds

shivermetimbers -> RE: destination unknown (9/6/2008 9:30:49 AM)
Hi Lally, I loved the post. Tomorrow I fly to meet my love in person. We both have shared your experiences, and have talked about how we have both been down so many roads, and our paths finally crossed. Now we seek to continue on the journey, together, on the same path. This time, for both of us, all the potholes and deadends will be discovered together, and our experiences will provide us the knowledge of getting back on the right path, together, and moving forward. We have both always kept a positive outlook, and looked back on how things went wrong previously. From those bad outcomes, we took the opportunity to grow and learn, and move forward. Call it fate, but the timing was perfect for both of us to meet each other when we did. Who knows had we met earlier, if we would have been ready for each other then? I guess I can sum it up a bit like this, we both finally know what we wanted, and were fortunate to have finally found the person whom we were looking for.

lally3 -> RE: destination unknown (9/6/2008 10:18:07 AM)
hi guys[sm=wave.gif] and 'way to go' shivers, we're all really rooting for you. Who knows had we met earlier, if we would have been ready for each other then?(quote shivers) i think that was probably the premis of the post - i know i wasnt ready, looking back. i wanted it, i just didnt know how to find it or how to recognise it when it came up and smacked me on the bum. now i do. i feel so calm so deeply into the submissive woman i am, its incredible - i almost dont need the D - almost [sm=yahoo.gif]

cravesdom -> RE: destination unknown (9/6/2008 10:16:25 PM)
Hello Lally! I loved your post. It is something I have thought about often. And it touched me very deeply to see someone else write the words I have felt. I have had relationships that ended badly and relationships that ended due to a mutual decision that we just weren't right for each other. I am still friends with many of them. I have had some scary moments and some moments of fear and doubt. I have learned so much from each experience and like to think grown from them as well. Tomorrow I meet the man I have fallen in love with from afar for the first time in person. I had jokingly made up a list once of what qualities I wanted the love of my life to have. I've looked back on it since we met and he has every single one as well as a few that I didn't think about! I have discovered by going down all the back roads and dark alleys just what is truly important to me. I feel that he is the one I had been looking for all along. It just took me some detours along the way to find him. And as shiver said, I feel that if I had met him at an earlier time in my life, I may not have appreciated just how amazing he is. I may not have even noticed all the qualities I now find so endearing, let alone realized how rare and precious they are. I feel very blessed that the experiences I have had in the past have given me the wisdom to recognize someone who wasn't exactly who I thought I was looking for, but who has turned out to be the perfect fit.

PrincessJ77 -> RE: destination unknown (9/7/2008 4:22:21 AM)
Excellent post. I heartily agree and am looking forward to continuing my journey.

lally3 -> RE: destination unknown (9/7/2008 9:53:33 AM)
Tomorrow I meet the man I have fallen in love with from afar for the first time in person. oh wow! - well that would be today then? - hugs and hope it all went well for you both.

sixin -> RE: destination unknown (9/10/2008 4:27:34 PM)
mmmmmhhhhhh..........lally ,your style still fanstastic as your sayings follows the path of the redemption of a submissive.....mmmmmhhhhh......what kind of wishes may I ask .....finding your double...????[image]http://www.collarchat.com/image/s1.gif[/image]

sistermargaret -> RE: destination unknown (9/10/2008 4:37:32 PM)
Hi lally. Nice post, and oh so true. sm All it takes is absolute surrender

whiteslavebitch -> RE: destination unknown (9/10/2008 4:40:36 PM)
MasterK and I have discussed this very thing. When I stated that I wished I met him when I was 20, we both commented virtually at the same time that I wouldn't have been ready for him at that time. I had to undergo other experiences before I was ready to submit and be his slave, I had to experience some bad stuff in life first before I could truly appreciate what we have together now.

Gleegal67 -> RE: destination unknown (9/11/2008 11:42:21 AM)
It's an amazing journey...one that I'm constantly grateful to be on...I absolutely LOVE not knowing what is around the next bend or over the next mountain...good to know that others feel just as blessed as I do...We are getting stronger in numbers...and that is a great thing!! Desitination...anywhere...unknown...where's my foo-foo drink with the umbrella?

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