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ORIGINAL: Hime
I do my best not to overlook the lessons learned by the relationships that come and go in my life -- no matter how brief they may be.  Because, I like to think that some people come into my life for a reason.

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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

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ORIGINAL: Hime
I do my best not to overlook the lessons learned by the relationships that come and go in my life -- no matter how brief they may be.  Because, I like to think that some people come into my life for a reason.

I agree with this philosophy. And if initial courting and play do not lead to something long term and the affiliation fades, I can appreciate it for the happy moments that were had, and continue to look for new happy moments elsewhere.

Cheers,

Sea

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied

Its your path to take or not to take , attend kinky university or not ...i was just try'n to help .

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ORIGINAL: MaamJay

OP ... firstly, congrats on being open minded enough to explore this new path. It's heady stuff and I well remember feeling exactly as you described!
Secondly, where you go from here is what's important. I am also going to recommend "kinky University"! Well, by that I mean, plenty of research here, on the web, reading books etc. Much as ordering the toys etc is important and fun, knowing what you want to do with them and why is more important. Getting to know the lingo ... and realising people use it differently and there's no universal definitions ... also important! And learning about safety for both you and the bottoms/subs/slaves with whom you will play ... CRUCIAL! Delving into the psychology of D/s is as exciting as learning how to flog, do wax play etc etc.
Good learning has a practical component as well as theory. So if you can, locate a local scene and get to know some real people. Go to a munch, chat to other Dominants, subs etc etc. Find some mentors. Once you become known as someone who genuinely wants to learn, you may be invited to play parties, workshops etc ... great opportunities to learn practical techniques as well as seeing lots of different types of relationships. From all your research ... you will evolve your own style of Dominance, find your own place.
Hopefully along the line you will have had opportunity to play safely and responsibly with a number of people (be honest about your experience levels, dishonesty will come back to bite your ass) and maybe found the right one for you. Like any relationship of value, it takes time to grow it and nurture it. You will find many willing to do all once and want a collar immediately ... think about it, that's not grounded in any sort of longterm perspective or sanity. Take your time and enjoy!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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ORIGINAL: DominatrixAmanda

Thank you MaamJay for the helpful input. Yes, I would like to mingle with the local social scene. I'll look for the ones in my area and introduce myself. Have the feeling that I will feel awckward going on my own ... like a lost soul. Hopefully, I will make a friend on this site that lives near me so we can go together.