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patina -> another ED question (9/7/2008 10:49:01 PM)

Greetings all:

Please do not take this question to be a grip i am just confused on something.  For all of my age i have little sexual experience so am lost on the why and hows of this issue. 

I have talked and met with about 3 dom's who as in a past thread had ED  I have np with this as i know at our age our bodies are not as giving as they once were.  But what confuses me is that some of these dom's seem to want blowjobs constantly. 

I enjoy sucking a dick, i love the sensation of taking a soft, limp, dick and making it hard, feeling it pulse in my mouth, then going soft again.  Knowing that i just gave a great pleasure to the person i am with thrills me.   But if a man is unable to get it up and/or out why should a gal suck repeatedly time and again for no reason.  Or does just the feeling of my mouth and tongue satisfy a desire?  As i said this is meant not as a gripe but for information so please treat it as such.  i am confused and just need to understand better to satisfy any partner in the future.

All help appreciated. 

patina



Diphon -> RE: another ED question (9/7/2008 11:29:29 PM)

I love having a girl use her mouth but I usually don't come that way. It's still incredibly enjoyable though. and for me at least there's a lot more to it than just the physical sensations. 



NormalOutside -> RE: another ED question (9/7/2008 11:35:06 PM)

Have you asked the person in question, rather than hope to find the right answer in a sea of strangers' responses?  How should we know why he wants you to use your mouth?

For me, the last thing I want after failed intercourse is oral.  I want a rest, or a shower.



Prinsexx -> RE: another ED question (9/7/2008 11:59:20 PM)

quote:

But if a man is unable to get it up and/or out why should a gal suck repeatedly time and again for no reason.

You simply do as you are told......that's what a girl does.



Shylahgirl -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 12:11:40 AM)

I was a sex worker, a.k.a. prostitute, for about a year. One of my regular clients was unable to achieve an erection or ejaculate at all, due to medical problems with his heart and the medication he was on.

So why, you may ask, was he paying a prostitute?

Simple, men can achieve orgasm without ejaculation or erection.

Remember, the male member is the same, neurologically speaking, as a clit.

The way it was described to me was that he had an orgasm, much like a woman, and he did enjoy oral sex quite a bit. In fact a BJ and conversation was what I was payed for.



candystripper -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 12:16:07 AM)

Yea, been there, done that, got the tee shirt.
 
So here's my question:
 
Is his hand broken too?  And his tongue?
 
How come the only one getting off is him?
 
candy  [sm=pole.gif]



Prinsexx -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 12:53:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Yea, been there, done that, got the tee shirt.
 
So here's my question:
 
Is his hand broken too?  And his tongue?
 
How come the only one getting off is him?
 
candy  [sm=pole.gif]

It's the power dynamic. Possible explanations;
......he's getting off on 'her' not getting off?
But there's definitely going to be something that will break the dynamic in the end: it's a girl questioning why/when/how he's getting off and
why/when/how she isn't.




simpleplan2 -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 2:15:39 AM)

Patina,

What do you want?  It's pretty obvious that they are ok with bjs.  Are you.  Is giving them satisfying your needs?  If so, I wouldn't worry about it.  If not, I'd find a new dom.



pompeii -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 2:31:46 AM)

> some of these dom's seem to want blowjobs constantly

Sounds pretty normal to me.



DesFIP -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 3:40:04 AM)

I don't have to be hungry to enjoy the taste of an ice cream. I'd assume they don't have to be hard to enjoy the sensations you're providing.



peppermint -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 7:11:58 AM)

Just because a man can not achieve a full erection does not mean that the nerves in his penis have died.  Many men with ED can and do achieve a full orgasm with ejaculation during felatio. 



igor2003 -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 7:32:20 AM)

The reason a man with ED has trouble getting an erection is that the blood vessels won't engorge as they should.  It normally has nothing to do with nerve damage, so they still have the same desire and enjoy the stimulation just as much as anyone.



sirsholly -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 7:39:05 AM)



quote:

But if a man is unable to get it up and/or out why should a gal suck repeatedly time and again for no reason.


i do believe it is called intimacy....




WittyKitty -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 8:01:23 AM)

I've found that there are many facets of ED that men are often not willing to face... and also that some men will not acknowledge the intensity of their feelings about oral sex, too.  The easy thing is to say that fellatio gives them a feeling of power, yet I've also had men tell me that it's the ultimate surrender to give a woman control over their most private possesion, in a manner that could go either way for pain or pleasure.  When a man has trouble with erections, yet oral sex does allow them to come (even perhaps without ejaculation) they learn more about their own reactions than does a person who has no such difficulty.  Why do we do it for them?  Why not commit a simple act that gives us power and pleasure?  Like any consensual play, this gives me a chance to exercise a talent that I have to give another being pleasure, plus arouses me as well.  I am fortunate to have a partner that shows his appreciation of my art in reciprocal care for my needs.  What comes first?  The tingle or the suck?  We experiment with this question endlessly  [:)]



RealSub58 -> RE: another ED question (9/8/2008 8:23:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Yea, been there, done that, got the tee shirt.
 
So here's my question:
 
Is his hand broken too?  And his tongue?
 
How come the only one getting off is him?
 
candy  [sm=pole.gif]


If it's really all about you in the long run, are you submitting? 



Rayne58 -> RE: another ED question (9/9/2008 3:33:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

Just because a man can not achieve a full erection does not mean that the nerves in his penis have died.  Many men with ED can and do achieve a full orgasm with ejaculation during felatio. 


Due to having Type 1 diabetes for over 30 years, Sir now has problems with ED.  He cannot often get hard enough for intercourse, so I give Him lots of bjs [:)]  I am extremely lucky to be with someone who cares about my pleasure as well as His own.  In fact this relationship is the most sexually satisfying of all the ones I've been in [;)]  He uses G spot play, oral and toys - rarely do I need a penis to get off! [:D]



DesFIP -> RE: another ED question (9/9/2008 5:32:49 AM)

The op didn't say whether or not her sexual needs were being met. Her question specifically asked about a man's sensations. I suggest that those who jumped to that conclusion ask next time prior to leaping without looking.



pdv99 -> RE: another ED question (9/9/2008 8:54:29 AM)

Hi
I have to say, although I don't suffer from ED these days (I did for a while after a destructive relationship) - there are times when my cock is limp, say after repeated intercourse, and I know it won't stiffen again - but I get enormous pleasure, both physical and emotional - from having my partner take my cock in her mouth and suckle on it......It's not anything as crude as a "power trip" - although perhaps the affection she shows in doing so although I am spent pleases me with her devotion. We both know I'm not going to get another erection, or ejaculate, but there is still an incredible intimacy....
That's a male reaction, how I feel.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: another ED question (9/9/2008 4:00:39 PM)

IME, yes the still enjoy the experience of cock sucking even without the erection or ejaculation.

And yes, I find it frustrating.



patina -> RE: another ED question (9/11/2008 1:26:17 AM)

Thank you all for your responses.  In reply to some questions no i never received any kind of satisfaction.  I enjoy performing blowjobs but like to know he is getting something from it.  I do not mind doing repative blowjobs but would like to know he is enjoying it by some kind of action as his dick stayed limp the whole time.   I am not very knowledgable about sex due to an upbringing and being married 21 yrs to the same man.  Have been with few men. 

I was raised in an atmosphere of that sex is dirty, oral  of any kind is considered only for whores, prositutes, "bad girls" my family considers me weird and a black sheep, for enjoying sex.  My education of sex has all been by asking questions and reading.    I desire to know the truth not form assumptions that may be wrong. 

I know that as a slave i am to do as told.  I think in order to please a master more,  knowing the truth not assumptions, will help me please him better. Which is my end goal, to please him. 


I hope i explained this clearly.

patina 



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