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Prinsexx -> Confession time (9/8/2008 2:05:19 AM)
This is a process i had including in a reply on another thread but felt it is a topic in it's own right. Confession time...... I find confession time amazing; some timers playful, sometimes extremely deep, as there feels like there is nowhere to run to, no way of wriggling off the hook and no escape.....but always a frutitful activity.. my questions are; If you are a submissive/slave have you ever been through this process as part of a scene? Has your Master/Dominant set this up as a one off process, or as regular confession sessions? How do you handle confession/ Do you tell all or withhold stuff? Is it a positive or negative experience? Do you or have you used it to convey experience to your D type? have you found it cathartyic to off load past experiences? and; If you are a Master/dominant have you instated confessions? What role does confession time serve/ Do you see it as punishment, funishment or play? Is it a useful way of getting to know the back ground experiences of a new slave/submissive/ would you respond to their past experiences by repeating processes for your s-type? And for both; what 'form does confession time take? Do you write in a journal, or do you prostrate when confessing or expect punishment/funishment and so forth.........

DesFIP -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 3:41:58 AM)
What is a confession scene? Are you being interrogated or are you offering up secrets freely? If it's a regular scene, do you make stuff up to confess to? It's a new one to me.

LaTigresse -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 4:11:23 AM)
If your talking about confession like a catholic going to their priest, no. I don't do interogation scenes. What I do is ask alot of questions in the process of getting to know one another. Some of those questions are uncomfortable for them but I still feel they need to be open to sharing everything with me.

GabrielleSlave -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 4:17:53 AM)
The first time Master and i did a heavy role playing scene it was a kidnap and confession scene. It was purely fantasy (i am not a terrorist in real life honestly!) i held out as long as i could, but i was being tortured to within an inch of my life and ended up confessing that my evening class pottery teacher was really infact a bomb maker and the leader of a terrorist cell.... i was so ashamed of myself, i was so deeply into what Wwe were doing that i actually believed that i had killed him by giving my captor that info...i was in floods of tears. It ended up with me being raped by the kidknapper... It was a one off, but could be repeated at some point, perhaps in a different way. Totally hot... sighs dreamily

sirsholly -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 4:19:25 AM)
role play is about the only way a confession is going to occur.

Prinsexx -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 5:30:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP What is a confession scene? Are you being interrogated or are you offering up secrets freely? If it's a regular scene, do you make stuff up to confess to? It's a new one to me. A confession scene is exactly what it suggests. It's like corner time is time out spent standing 'in the corner'. Confession time is time taken by the submissive to confess, listened to by the dom(me). i suppose there could be things that are 'made up' if the submissive used it as a game to get 'funishment.' However i have never invented bad stuff i have done and have always used confession time to clear those things which i have felt have transgressed the protocol or thiings which i would have liked to have done better, things i felt i should not have done, but mostly to confess stuff i have actually done in previous relationships which have been edgy and which in a sense i was proud of and wanted to convey.

camille65 -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 5:34:21 AM)
We've never called that sort of thing 'confession time', but there are often times where he will sit me down and have me tell him whats troubling me.

Prinsexx -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 5:36:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse If your talking about confession like a catholic going to their priest, no. I don't do interogation scenes. What I do is ask alot of questions in the process of getting to know one another. Some of those questions are uncomfortable for them but I still feel they need to be open to sharing everything with me. That's the type of scene i meant. Questions which really 'hit home' and questions which call for otherwise private issues and require disclosure. i usually want to wriggle off the hook to this type of questioning. The ide of a confession process happened as a result of a dominant asking me what my needs were. It was a kind of interview technique by phone and before we actually met up together. i said: oh forgive me it's really difficult to tell you this as i would be the submissive and want to service your needs. he said something like: oh well in that case you need to confess and thus we created in exquisite detail how my confession would go. It was something along the lines of me wearing a dog collar and being forced to kneel on all fours and the choker chain being pulled tighter and tighter until i had 'told' everything. Like interrogation except that there would be no questions.....and damn those long momnts of totally embarassing silence and words on the tip of my tongue. But it sure did result in my Dom knowing a great deal of my expeience which enabled him to judge what to do with time together.

sirsholly -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 5:37:39 AM)
what you are calling "confession" i call basic communication.

Prinsexx -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 5:40:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: camille65 We've never called that sort of thing 'confession time', but there are often times where he will sit me down and have me tell him whats troubling me. It's probably something i might suggest as a term on Informed Consent and the Wipi: Confession time, (like Corner Time). It's like disclosure but sometimes goes really deeply into thoughts and feelings for which there needs to be one active listening, two trust and three, well dare i say understanding. Possible because one side of the dynamic understanding the other is the recipe for progress and breakthrough and sustainability.

Prinsexx -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 5:43:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GabrielleSlave The first time Master and i did a heavy role playing scene it was a kidnap and confession scene. It was purely fantasy (i am not a terrorist in real life honestly!) i held out as long as i could, but i was being tortured to within an inch of my life and ended up confessing that my evening class pottery teacher was really infact a bomb maker and the leader of a terrorist cell.... i was so ashamed of myself, i was so deeply into what Wwe were doing that i actually believed that i had killed him by giving my captor that info...i was in floods of tears. It ended up with me being raped by the kidknapper... It was a one off, but could be repeated at some point, perhaps in a different way. Totally hot... sighs dreamily Oh dear it might be deemed illegal lol as i think impersonating a terrorist is an offence???? i've never had to invent stuff to confess. there's just way to much well experience i suppose one would call it but it's mot like it's a provable experience, is it being a submissive? i fin disclosure (of the forced kind) a hot process.

Prinsexx -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 5:45:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly what you are calling "confession" i call basic communication. Well i accept that. But just wanted to ask then: for you is there a different form of 'basic communication?' What happens if you ramp up the odds more? Is there 'difficult' communication, is there disclosure? Or does it all feel easy and all feel like basic communication to you?

missturbation -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 6:13:56 AM)
quote: If you are a submissive/slave have you ever been through this process as part of a scene? Has your Master/Dominant set this up as a one off process, or as regular confession sessions? No to all the above. quote: How do you handle confession/ Do you tell all or withhold stuff? Sir says he finds it very hard to read me at times. He also says i don't open up enough, share my feelings well, he's quite right. We don't have a confessional time as such but we do have times when we are just two people sat having coffee / lunch etc, where i seem to pour my heart out. I handle this really well, it seems natural until Sir says something which makes me realise what i am doing. Then i seem to struggle or clam up again. In these times yes i tell all. It is something i am working on. quote: what 'form does confession time take? Do you write in a journal, or do you prostrate when confessing or expect punishment/funishment and so forth......... I have a journal yes. I also just sit and talk to Sir. Journalling is a lot easier then face to face for me. There is no punishment / funishment for what i tell Sir at these times. I am sharing my deepest feeling with him and if he punished me for them i would clam up very quickly. quote: Is it a positive or negative experience? Do you or have you used it to convey experience to your D type? have you found it cathartyic to off load past experiences? A positive experience. Yes i have used it to offload past experiences to Sir but only because i want him to know and understand me. I have dealt with most of my past but little oddities etc still remain in me and i need him to understand those so we can work on them.

DesFIP -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 6:59:43 AM)
I don't have a lot of protocols or such which I find impossible to keep, thus requiring confessing to breaking them. If stuff doesn't work so I can succeed, he changes it. I'm not big on being given impossible tasks or being set up to fail. As far as stuff from my past goes, that's past. If it's germane I will share but otherwise not. And unless it has relevance at that moment it won't occur to me to share. This is if you're talking basic relationship details. If you're talking kinky stuff, then I haven't anything to share as this is my first such relationship. But not being Catholic, it still seems contrived to me. Perhaps you need to be from that background for it to work?

Prinsexx -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 7:03:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation We don't have a confessional time as such but we do have times when we are just two people sat having coffee / lunch etc, where i seem to pour my heart out. I handle this really well, it seems natural until Sir says something which makes me realise what i am doing. Then i seem to struggle or clam up again. In these times yes i tell all. It is something i am working on. Now isn't this strange. I've caught myself out doint this; almost as if it's easier to 'fees up when we are just two people in a relationship rather than two people in a dynamic. Or at least there is a distinction between the two. less right this week actually since i made a promise with Him that i would tell everything. It is as if there are things going on inside my head which i'd rather not say or tell, but i'm getting used to it. Journalling is easier that face to face. i got really caught out when asked to read out my journal for the first time to my Master. Now it's clearer to me that non-disclosure is an attempt to top Him, so i don't do it.

missturbation -> RE: Confession time (9/8/2008 7:26:52 AM)
quote: Now isn't this strange. I've caught myself out doint this; almost as if it's easier to 'fees up when we are just two people in a relationship rather than two people in a dynamic. Or at least there is a distinction between the two. It is easier for me though i haven't worked out why. The M/s dynamic is always there even when we are just two people having coffee, but not in such an intense way as when we are playing, alone. Therefore for me i assume that the difference between spilling my guts and clamming up lies in the intensity between Sir and i at the time. Not quite sure how though. Funnily or maybe not so funnily enough i am having a real hard time at the moment with some feelings. I won't go into what they are but i don't seem to be able to find a way of approaching it with Sir. We havent seen each other for just over a week so i could journal it, blurt it out in a phone call but i haven't been able to. I think i'm afraid of what replies i'll get. This kind of ties into the paragraph above. In a casual over coffee setting i guess i could shrug off, laugh off, breeze over whatever replies Sir gives me. But in a more intense one on one situation its harder somehow to do that.

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