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confussed - 9/10/2008 2:14:11 AM   
sweetbabygirl65


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Status: offline 		i was with a Master for almost 2 years and the other night on a chat program i had found out that He had a sub for three and a half years. He has never met this sub and had talked to me for 9 months before our first met. He has been to where i live and has met my family and i have been up to where He lives but have never met His children. i have talked to the other sub as we knew nothing about each other only to find that she will be moving to Him next month.

He still wants to be friends with me. i do still love Him as this break up is new.
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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 2:20:23 AM   
Juliannadelion


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Status: offline 		What is the question?


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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 5:51:28 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Do you want to be with him anyway? Does it matter to you that you aren't going to be that important to him? Is it important for you to be part of his life, meet his family?

The only person who can answer those questions is you.

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 6:52:59 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		He never met this sub, yet she is relocating to him?  Don't get me started.

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 11:48:11 AM   
RealSub58


Posts: 1073
Status: offline 		Well we havent heard their side of the story, altho you have done a fine job of not bashing.
 
You are 43 yrs old?
Make a grown up decision that is good for you.

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 1:52:58 PM   
Briena


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Status: offline 		Fuck him.  Hes a coward.  If what you are saying is true that is.  Why continue to give your heart to a douche who just trampled all over it?  Lies do not make a strong relationship.  I would put money on their relationship ending badly.  He not only lied to you, but lied to her as well.  Once a liar, always a liar.  Move on and find someone who is better for you, who doesnt lie and keep secrets.  Find someone willing to become involved with you on a positive experience and not a negative one.  Sorry he was a jerk, they are all over, you just have to get up and move on, no matter how hard it might be.

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 2:36:09 PM   
sub4hire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Briena

Lies do not make a strong relationship. 


I've got to agree with this statement.  As far as the lifestyle goes lies do not make any relationship.  Sounds like he may not only have another net sub but also a wife on the side.
You've been there yet met nobody.  He has been to you...so he travels on business. 

Been in his house?  Got his real address and phone number?  Can you call him at 3am? 


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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 4:04:33 PM   
sweetbabygirl65


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Status: offline 		i only got His home address and phone number by doing a backround check on Him. i could call at 3am as long as it was His cell phone as He said He didn't have a house phone that it was His parents home. no He doesn't travel on business

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 4:48:27 PM   
phoenix92901


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Status: offline 		Let me see if I got this straight....
 
In the 2 years you've been together he never volunteered his home address or phone number except for his cell?  You've "been up to where he lives" but apparently not to his home (hotel then?) and you haven't met his kids or any of his friends or family?  Also he claims to be living with his parents but another sub is moving to be with him?
 
Oh honey, the red flags should have been waving in your face a long time ago.  In fact they probably were which is why you did a background check on him.  The fact that you posted about your situation tells me that you have serious doubts about this man's integrity.  Listen to your intuition... it's already telling you what you seem reluctant to acknowledge.

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 4:53:54 PM   
subeos


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Status: offline 		It is better to move on. Red flags we sometimes ignore because we dont want to know the truth. In the long run you will be better off. Good luck.

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 4:59:25 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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From: NYC
Status: offline 		To be fair, I also have no 'house phone'; my slave and Ijust have our own cell phones...it's not all that uncommon anymore.  Having said that- I agree- these aren'r red flags, they are blood soaked banners...deep breath, take some time out, than move on...

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 7:06:02 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		This situation looks very, very disheartening.  First and foremost, has your trust been shaken, even broken?  If so, it is a hard thing to repair and the intimacy that comes from that trust is gone.  Consider if this is the kind of relationship you want, regardless of the truth or the only potential future you may have.  It is your choice.  Yours alone.

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RE: confussed - 9/10/2008 8:18:46 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		I'm with the folks here on this one..   Although the no house phone is becoming more common..  other then that, the rest is a big red flag..  

move on and find a real life face to face relationship where you can really get to know the person ..

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RE: confussed - 9/11/2008 12:08:03 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		What everyone else said.

Cut off ALL contact with him NOW.
 
Don't let him waste any more of your precious time.
 
He deceived you. Don't forgive him. 

He's not your friend, he's a garden variety asshole. Train yourself out of the habit of thinking of him. Instead, occupy your mind with positive pursuits such as improving your life and the lives of others. Take a class. Volunteer. Get some self-esteem so you won't let yourself be hurt like this again.

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RE: confussed - 9/11/2008 12:11:58 AM   
ElectraGlide


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Status: offline 		He is not a Master. He would have honor if he was, instead of making a major mess.

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RE: confussed - 9/11/2008 4:36:10 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Puts on my Army boots and tries to kick start Katy.

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RE: confussed - 9/11/2008 8:21:01 AM   
Hizprincess


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Status: offline 		In my opinion there is nothing to be confused about. He apparently was looking for more, and did  not tell you. He found more and still did not tell you. Now He has told you and sounds like you were lucky to find out now instead of later.

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RE: confussed - 9/11/2008 8:24:33 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		You have to realize YOU were the one on the side, not her. He had her longer than he had you, but she was unavailable until now it seems. So, do you really want to stick with a situation where you were filler while he waited for the one he wanted?

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RE: confussed - 9/11/2008 9:39:57 AM   
sub4hire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

So, do you really want to stick with a situation where you were filler while he waited for the one he wanted?



This comment makes me think of twinkie filling.  Mmm..whipped cream.

Anyway, it really sounds as though you should get away.  Unfortunately we allow our emotions to take control of our minds more often than we should in life.
Bottom line is it is your choice.  You need to look out for yourself because if you don't.  You cannot look out for others.  Look deep inside and do what is best for you. 

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RE: confussed - 9/11/2008 10:08:06 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		He is a liar.
 
There's no more to be said...run for your life.
 
(I am very sorry.)
 
candystripper 

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