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RE: why cant some be real - 9/11/2008 8:25:55 AM   
Mercnbeth


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I have a question why is it so hard to find a real person

They don't like themselves or know themselves enough to be real. Afraid of the process or what they'll discover, they take on a different persona, one they believe empowers them. What they don't realize is that acting takes effort. You get tired of it after a while and as a result - the 'real' real you is exposed. Maybe what you don't like is the 'real' part. Maybe in reality you prefer the acting.

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ORIGINAL: goodpet
Take a look in the mirror, read your own profile, what kind of folks do you think would contact you.  
She can't look in the mirror - she's a VAMPIRE - silly!

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/11/2008 9:54:00 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		We all have to search through loads of HNGs, etc.
 
Are you saying CM should do something about it?
 
What would you suggest?
 
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RE: why cant some be real - 9/11/2008 5:52:41 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
quote:

I have a question why is it so hard to find a real person

They don't like themselves or know themselves enough to be real. Afraid of the process or what they'll discover, they take on a different persona, one they believe empowers them. What they don't realize is that acting takes effort. You get tired of it after a while and as a result - the 'real' real you is exposed. Maybe what you don't like is the 'real' part. Maybe in reality you prefer the acting.


Well, there have been some studies to indicate that repetition can eventually change desire/behavior, for example, the success that cults have had with shaping/"brainwashing" new initiates by requiring them to simply chant, over and over and over...  Perhaps they're still in the early stages of faking it, and just haven't made it yet.

"Won't, you, please, make me REAL
fuck! you!
Make me SICK
fuck! you!
Make me REAL, MAKE ME REAL, MAKE ME REAL..."
C. Love

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/12/2008 4:52:25 PM   
LadyRaveness


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Status: offline 		ok the question I guess should be restated... why cant some be real and why lead others on
I removed things that was so disturbing to all of you
so now its simple I am me,  I guess I'm like barking up the wrong tree here. sorry to have disturbed all of you.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/12/2008 5:25:43 PM   
lizcgirl


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ok the question I guess should be restated... why cant some be real and why lead others on
I removed things that was so disturbing to all of you
so now its simple I am me,  I guess I'm like barking up the wrong tree here. sorry to have disturbed all of you.


The things that WERE so disturbing...
(sorry- pet peeve. I hate it when people constantly say "We was going"- sounds so hillbilly and I live in the sticks)

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/12/2008 7:43:44 PM   
JerryFrankster


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ORIGINAL: LadyRaveness

ok the question I guess should be restated... why cant some be real and why lead others on
I removed things that was so disturbing to all of you
so now its simple I am me,  I guess I'm like barking up the wrong tree here. sorry to have disturbed all of you.



Are you real?

How can you tell?

What makes you real or not real?



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RE: why cant some be real - 9/12/2008 11:44:12 PM   
Dilseachd


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Status: offline 		Im real. 
I Stink..therefore I am.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/13/2008 10:30:15 AM   
sonofthedawn63


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Status: offline 		I feel your pain mistress. I am also in the mind that I will never be collared.I am a slave. It is who and what i am,yet so many cast me aside after they are "amused" for a short time. But I will never give up my quest and neither should you. Have a wonderful weekend

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/13/2008 7:58:52 PM   
JessieMe


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Status: offline 		I guess I just want to know how she managed to become expert in so many areas and yet not find anyone in all that time. I mean, you would have to come in contact with quite a number of people in real time in order to obtain "expert experience" dont you think?

But thats just the way my mind works.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/14/2008 4:31:31 AM   
seababy


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

As others have surmised, I appear to have found the answer:

quote:

"A Vampire's life a lonely existence."



quote:

from vampires...so im safe....but then...im not real....or atleast...vampires are not real....


zomg can't stop laughing .

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/14/2008 7:47:37 AM   
PrincessJ77


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Status: offline 		I couldn't agree more. My ex and I explored this crazy world of kink & depravity together.  There's no doubt he was always a 'toppy' type.  Easy enough for him to identify as dominant.  It was simply natural for him.  I try to be submissive, in my bratty way, but I began to identify as a pony with an extreme love of pain.

Am I real?  Yes. 
Have I topped?  A time or two. 
Am I a switch?  No.
Am I submissive? Well, kinda
I'm a masochistic pony with a liberal dose of sarcasm thrown in for good measure.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/14/2008 10:03:35 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		It isn;t you removing the fake parts of your profile that are causing the problem, it's that you still think of yourself in this fake/unreal way. Until you are comfortable with your actual human self, of course you will not attract others who are comfortable with their actual, fallible human selves.

In this world, we get what we deserve. When we think of ourselves as not deserving to be loved and wanted for our deeper selves, then we don't get someone who loves and wants our deeper selves. As long as you feel the need to misrepresent yourself, then you will only get someone interested in the fake self you present. Know thyself, and love thyself, and only after that will you find someone else who will know and love you. That's how life works.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/15/2008 6:36:58 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Scratches head. What did I do to deserve this??  Op go what feels right for you. As for all of the advice given on here. Discard what dose'nt fit you. Be yourself. Not what someone on here thinks you should be.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/15/2008 6:43:48 AM   
OttersSwim


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
... Be yourself. Not what someone on here thinks you should be.


And stay out of the sunlight!

...Lord, I apologize...

< Message edited by OttersSwim -- 9/15/2008 6:44:03 AM >

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/15/2008 8:32:10 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		If you seriously want to meet people then search for the right type within your prepared mileage, meet them, talk to them, talk some more and then decide.

If your a pro Mistress then you need to seriously look at the right place to find clients and I can tell you now that it's not on here!

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/15/2008 5:45:18 PM   
girlivy


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

This complaint from someone who claims to be an immortal vampire. Pot, meet kettle.


That Has to be a farce... One of the OP's pic is of her standing clearly in the sun!

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Be yourself, everyone else is taken!

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/15/2008 6:37:54 PM   
ramalamaDingDong


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Status: offline 		Far be it for me to offer advice to an experienced domina such as yourself.  I can only offer my humble service and observations for you to use as you see fit.

It seems to me your profile prevents sincere people from approaching you because it is so full of BS that even a youngster like me wouldn’t fall for it.  I am seriously seeking a home and ownership so I can tell you what I saw in you as I read your profile.  In all sincerity I offer you the examples that threw me for a loop to help you improve the shaky image you project.

By my upbringing, a Domina means the “lady” of the house, not a Dominatrix for rent.  I know what a Domina is.  I now what Pro Dom is but I have not heard of a Pro Domina.  I googled it and sure enough, Domina means lady and not much else on it except the legal term “Qui Pro Domina”.  I presume my exposure is not unique and it yours that is. 

You have an insecure self image and you are obviously touchy about it.  That makes you unstable and easy to manipulate.  From what little I read in your profile, it appears a cute slave could wrap you around their finger with your own vanity and they would be in control not you. 

You said, “.... and be willing to relocate once we have transpired to that level…”.  I had to look up “transpire” because your use of it was alien to me and beyond my humble ability to understand.  Can you please esplain how vapors, odors or waste matter have anything to do with relationship levels before I lose my mind?  You actually made up a new use for the term just like you did Domina didn’t you?  

From being a lesbian but being a pro in an industry that sexually services men to the experience vs insecurity claims, your profile creates a messy image of yourself.  I do not have the time to go through your entire profile and fix it for you nor do I owe you that service.  However, it really needs your attention and shows very badly for you.  I can only assume you attend your property with the same careless disregard in which you attend the self image you project through your published profile.  I wouldn’t consider placing myself in your charge with the undiscliplined mess you currently present at the moment.

Good luck with the fakers problem and I hope letting you see yourself through a perspective slave’s eyes helps you better understand the type of people you have been attracting.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/16/2008 10:35:25 AM   
Deliena


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Status: offline 		Well i identified as switch for years becoming more submissive then slave within the current relationship i am in.  How i identify myself changes, over time and within context.  For example at work i don't identify as cock hungry cum whore, nor within the bedroom do i identify as mother and primary care-giver.  All these aspects of my identity are valid, real and part of who i as a whole am.  What we want from life (including what we want and need in relationships) often changes over time and due to the situations we find ourselves in.

This is neither 'fake' nor 'rude' to others, it's just how people grow.

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/24/2008 7:13:35 AM   
LadyRaveness


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Status: offline 		It is so easy for others to see fault with in someone else. but why attack me for what I believe ? as you feel and believe that you are Dom/Domme or sub/slave, I know what life I have lived. Im not a great super power. geesh havent you seen any of the realities, or do you think hollywood's motion pictures is the answer. we do exist in real life. we can go in the sun. we try to have a somewhat normal existance. but as in all humans what they don't understand they disect, or destroy, or remove. why is it so hard to belive in Vampires? there is all kinds around you everyday ...emotional, financial, psyhic, material ,blood. as in the power hungry ones who run your everyday existance's. surely you have experienced those who just drain you to be around them? well think about that. as for looking up words, ok go for it. but in this lifestyle I have heard so many words that comes about everyday. and for that one persons quotes dominantion and submission is not prostitution. so if i choose to just fulfill a persons need to be spanked, bound up, or do some actions other then sex. its not a sexual thing. I think you should go back and look hard at what real dominance and submission is. and what bondage and s&m is. obviously need some more lessons..its not all sex why does so many think it leads to sex?  as for personal attacks well attack I can handle it. I have all my existance....  

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RE: why cant some be real - 9/24/2008 7:48:55 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		i met some real people once and...i didn't like them...i prefer consistant fakes...but they are very rare too...

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