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RE: Information on Submissives. - 9/13/2008 7:05:41 AM

daddysliloneds

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ORIGINAL: mortre

Well, it's hard to explain since it leaves me confused at times. All I know is it took about 2 months before she quit asking me if I was sure I had never messed around the D/s world. And as far as what makes her/submissives tick, well, what I've garnered so far is to quit trying to make her stop buying me stuff. She's a lot happier now that I've stopped that. I've figured out that threatening a spanking (which I've recently learned I enjoy doing) for going against what I tell her virtually guarentee's misbehavior. I love the fact that sometimes she's as meek as milk. However if I pamper her, as I would normally do with I woman I'm happy with, she goes hell on wheels and tries to bull doze me over. That really gets under my skin. Basically, I love it when she stays in line, and would like to keep her there. However I need a little more information on the psychology of it all before I can stop flipping a coin and recording the results basically. Just trying to understand the underlying thought processes, what she is looking for, basic techniques and such. Learning by trial and error gets old after awhile.

it appears you don't need information on 'submissives' in general, but more of the making of your particular submissive, which you've already discovered through your trial and error...

perhaps you need to have a talk with her and tell her that it's getting old fast and that she either needs to get her shit together and submit to you and not her own whims, or find someone else to be; her behavior is not the behavior that is reflective of all submissives, that's for sure!

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RE: Information on Submissives. - 9/15/2008 9:02:35 AM

allthatjaz

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She sounds a bit like a spaghetti head right now and that possibly means she feels unsafe.
Now I don't mean unsafe because she fears you but unsafe because she's not sure if you can really contain her how 'she' needs to be contained. She's testing you, she's testing herself and she needs you to re-iterate your authority over her so that she can find a conclusion.
We are brought up and conditioned to be nice to people. Dominant or submissive we are taught from an early on to make life comfortable for others. Suddenly your faced with saying 'NO absolutely not, under any circumstances' but your conditioned side will be persuading you to give in because giving in pleases people doesn't it??

I worked as a pro Mistress for years and I saw many submissive men and even some women. Each and every one of them were so different, so unique except for one thing... none of them wanted me to give in. All of them wanted me to know my mind with absolute certainty and none of them wanted to be able to get away with anything!

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