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LadyPact -> Is it important? - An expansion from another post (9/11/2008 2:10:56 PM)
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Today, I was writing some thoughts directly brought on by a personal conversation. That shouldn't be new to those folks around here that know Me. A lot of what happens in My personal life ends up on these boards. It's just the way I am. I happen to think that a discussion board is about discussing things. Not just the things you suppose, but the things that effect your life.
Anyway, what I was talking about in that other thread, found here http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1576516&key=disobedience
is something I have My mind on of late. That is the importance of the learning phase on those terms used by D and s, while in the midst of a period of consideration.
I suppose that is the first one I should address. Consideration. As I've mentioned often in private conversations lately, the term has been bastardized by those who would change it for their purposes. This happens a lot. The same thing has happened with a myriad of terms bouncing around the net. Consideration, training, protection, and a host of others to lengthy too delve into here, have often suffered what some would make them out to be. I find this is often done for the selfish purposes of some, and it has a negative effect on the rest of us.
What I said in that other post that I wanted to point out is, for each of us, we are going to define things in a certain way. How we do that changes over time. What we've learned, who we've become, the people we've connected to. It's very rare for us ever to end up where we started out. This is exactly why the journey is so important.
Part of My role as a Dominant is to do the self examination needed to know how I see things. What do things mean to Me? What matters, rather than just what is irrelevant? What should I be able to convey that I think others need to know? What are those feelings and thought processes that are the things that a potential really should know about Me, if he would think of serving Me?
See, it's just like that term I used before. Consideration. It was pointed out to Me that it's almost always used as a one way thought. The fact is, that works both ways. I've said so much in previous writings, and I have no problem saying it again. It's a time of learning and understanding of each of the participants. It's not just about how one finds their place. It also has to do with if their place is with us. While we are deciding if we want them to serve, they should also be deciding if they want to serve us. Isn't that what we always tell them? That we want to be viewed as who we are, rather than life support for a whip?
If that's what we truly want, we have to encourage it and enable it. There is no way to tell them who they are serving if we don't know for ourselves.
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