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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:10:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Y'all cum is how we would say it down here in Georgia. I'm all for everyone cumming often as possible. BDSM play can be foreplay or sex can be foreplay to BDSM play. However, just to show you I don't believe in absolutes, every now and then sex alone is fine, the same as with BDSM play without sex.


Y'all say "I'm fixin' to cum!" too, lol.  The first time a southern guy said that to me, I thought it was hilarious, lol.

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:14:11 PM   
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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:16:16 PM   
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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:16:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: candystripper

I find this a very odd view of human sexuality;


I find it a very odd view of D/s.  And from the replies you're getting here, so does everyone else. 

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:17:55 PM   
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C'mon Aileen (pause to sing that song...)




Oh hell, now I'm going to be singing that damn song all night, thank you very much.

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:20:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Y'all say "I'm fixin' to cum!" too,



That's a standard everyday (if you're lucky) saying down here in the South. 

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:21:49 PM   
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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:25:37 PM   
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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:27:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

C'mon Aileen (pause to sing that song...)




Oh hell, now I'm going to be singing that damn song all night, thank you very much.


And I am singing...... Cum on Aileen.......... the each their own..;)

Jeff

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:29:30 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

C'mon Aileen (pause to sing that song...)




Oh hell, now I'm going to be singing that damn song all night, thank you very much.


And I am singing...... Cum on Aileen.......... the each their own..;)

Jeff


Woohoo!

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 5:35:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		i have always found most Dominant men i have been in relationships with want me to orgasm  first but not always but that would be because of a bit of discipline or correction on their part or it could be a mood thing too in rare instances...but that is the exception more than the norm.... Funny but in many more vanilla circumstances the man could care less if the woman orgasms in my experience...hmmmmm...is there a pattern going on here?  ha ha

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 6:02:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not true here. But prolonged orgasm denial in a female is likely to have her sublimating her desires and thinking about quilting projects or adopting a cat. Not about being a better sub. With male subs of course, it commonly runs the other way.

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 6:08:14 PM   
NuevaVida


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But prolonged orgasm denial in a female is likely to have her sublimating her desires and thinking about quilting projects or adopting a cat.


OK this cracked me up.  After several weeks without hearing much from my former Master (and therefore, no orgasms), I actually did go out and adopt a cat.   

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 6:10:17 PM   
TiedDreams


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Status: offline 		Sexuality, in all its glorious incarnations; is the golden thread that runs through the fabric of my experience. In my pre-Ds days, I found that when the "customer"came first; my repeat business  was ensured. When my "customers" came repeatedly first...well...I was seen as an anomoly back then.   Fast forward to Ds land... I found that I needed to find a way of applying positive energy in copious amounts in order to cement a bond that has a deeper foundation  than one based on fear and insecurity. To me it is about setting  someone's psyche free. Orgasms are simply one very direct and beautiful way to accomplish one form of pure communication.  I know I can and will cum when and how I wish to. A shift in energy, making it about giving instead of taking; is a subtle yet potent way to operate. It isn't about counting or forcing or denying...it's about that purity of interplay that opens our doors to one another. I just find it a more fulfilling experience when an overload of intimacy and acceptance  floods her, than one of pain and/or humilliation (which have their own time and place ).

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 6:10:47 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Not true here. But prolonged orgasm denial in a female is likely to have her sublimating her desires and thinking about quilting projects or adopting a cat.


So what you are saying is that woman get pussies to take care of when their pussy isn’t getting taken care of?   I do agree re the increased male submissiveness/passivity from withholding privileges; it’s almost like they fear that if they move the wrong way or breath funny they will go against Mistress’s orders.   


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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 6:46:54 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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ORIGINAL: Stephann

In my public play experiences, I've found that orgasms from women are expected and encouraged while orgasms from men are generally discouraged and frowned upon. 


Certainly, but isn't that also true of vanilla life as well?

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Not true here. But prolonged orgasm denial in a female is likely to have her sublimating her desires and thinking about quilting projects or adopting a cat.


Fuck, I just ejaculated ice water through my nose I guess that makes me another fake.

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 6:56:28 PM   
GreedyTop


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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 7:22:58 PM   
Roselaure


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ORIGINAL: TiedDreams

Sexuality, in all its glorious incarnations; is the golden thread that runs through the fabric of my experience. In my pre-Ds days, I found that when the "customer"came first; my repeat business  was ensured. When my "customers" came repeatedly first...well...I was seen as an anomoly back then.   Fast forward to Ds land... I found that I needed to find a way of applying positive energy in copious amounts in order to cement a bond that has a deeper foundation  than one based on fear and insecurity. To me it is about setting  someone's psyche free. Orgasms are simply one very direct and beautiful way to accomplish one form of pure communication.  I know I can and will cum when and how I wish to. A shift in energy, making it about giving instead of taking; is a subtle yet potent way to operate. It isn't about counting or forcing or denying...it's about that purity of interplay that opens our doors to one another. I just find it a more fulfilling experience when an overload of intimacy and acceptance  floods her, than one of pain and/or humilliation (which have their own time and place ).


Lovely way to put that, TiedDreams!

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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 7:27:47 PM   
CalifChick


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ORIGINAL: TiedDreams

Sexuality... glorious incarnations... golden thread... fabric of my experience... anomoly... positive energy... copious amounts... pure communication...


uuuuuuuuuggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh  <-- I just came.


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RE: Do Real D/s Couples Cum? - 9/11/2008 8:06:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I actually have only heard that from subs who are new to this stuff. 
"HIS needs come before my own."
But when you are in a day to day relationship with someone, most of us know darned well that those dominant types enjoy making us become addicted to their ability to make us sweat with need and perk up at the mere mention of sex.
Most of the dominants I know spend hours making us need them sexually.
From my POV, sex drives me.  It may be that I put the person (dominant) in charge, but in a large part it is because I am so freaking dependant on what they do to me that I would do almost anything they ask.
I havent met a dominant yet, who keeps his sub for long if the only thing he thinks of is his getting off.
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ORIGINAL: candystripper

I have run across this insinuation before:  that in a 'real' D/s relationship, sex itself takes a back seat, or is replaced by play, and what 'cumming' occurs is done only by the Dom.
 
I find this a very odd view of human sexuality; why is the more one gets their kink on, the less likely they should be to cum?
 
candystripper 


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