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Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 7:28:19 AM

SomethingCatchy

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I am a switch, but I have made it very clear on my profile that I am looking for a submissive and that I am not open to being dominated by anyone, anytime, in anyway, period. However, I keep getting switch men contacting me saying they're submissive and then turning around and saying they'd love to Dom me. I had one 54 year old man embarrass himself by saying he'd love to turn me into his little cum slut and then he threw a fit when I told him he must be stupid since he can't read.

What else can I do to make it obvious, or should I just keep laughing while they call me a c*nt for not bowing at their feet? Should I just change my profile to say I'm a dominant woman instead of a switch? Isn't that sort of dishonest or would it really not matter? Advice and criticism is welcome.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 7:29:38 AM

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They're not going to learn.

I'm marked as a Dominant on my profile and I still get emails asking when the last time was that I had a dick in my ass and telling me to "kneel, cunt." Some guys are just real winners.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 7:46:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

What else can I do to make it obvious, or should I just keep laughing while they call me a c*nt for not bowing at their feet? Should I just change my profile to say I'm a dominant woman instead of a switch? Isn't that sort of dishonest or would it really not matter? Advice and criticism is welcome.

Block, ignore and move on.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 7:46:47 AM

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At least I now know I'm not the only one dealing with those types. How do you deal with them? Just block/delete or what?

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 7:49:05 AM

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BTW, stef, I love your sig. I haven't heard that one before!

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 7:50:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

At least I now know I'm not the only one dealing with those types. How do you deal with them? Just block/delete or what?

I fire something equally rude back at them and block them.

Yep, I'm a horrible nasty person, but if somebody's going to be an asshole to me, I'm going to be an even bigger bitch right back at them.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 8:15:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy
Should I just change my profile to say I'm a dominant woman instead of a switch? Isn't that sort of dishonest or would it really not matter?

I think you should change your profile to say you are a dominant woman. It would help you escape searches of those searching for people who submit.

Also, it would put you in searches of those seeking dominant women. My profile filter is typically set to dominant women within x distance for sake of numbers and likelihood based on what I have seen over time. Only occassionally do I change the settings.

I appreciate your intent for full disclosure. I think you could provide this disclosure in your profile and indicate that you are a domme-leaning switch, or a switch currently exploring her dominant side only.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 9:21:35 AM

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They are desperate and hope that you are too so they continue to ignore your wishes and keep writing. My profile says it plainly and I still get dumbasses writing to me about how they want to Dom me, or meet me while they are in town etc etc. I just tell them to fuck off and go about my business.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 9:24:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

I am a switch, but I have made it very clear on my profile that I am looking for a submissive and that I am not open to being dominated by anyone, anytime, in anyway, period. However, I keep getting switch men contacting me saying they're submissive and then turning around and saying they'd love to Dom me. I had one 54 year old man embarrass himself by saying he'd love to turn me into his little cum slut and then he threw a fit when I told him he must be stupid since he can't read.

What else can I do to make it obvious, or should I just keep laughing while they call me a c*nt for not bowing at their feet? Should I just change my profile to say I'm a dominant woman instead of a switch? Isn't that sort of dishonest or would it really not matter? Advice and criticism is welcome.

I get those all the time I just hit delete. It went so far that a man had himself listed as a submissive sent me an email where he proceeded to bash all female submissives and slaves and then proceeded to tell me that he was a male dominant. When I proceeded to ask him if that wasn't just a little deceptive he then bashed all female submissives and slaves again... It's just ridiculous the lengths that people will go to for attention.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 9:33:09 AM

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People are stupid ... that is, unfortunately, not going to change any time soon. I'm with stef on this one ...

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Block, ignore and move on.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 9:36:05 AM

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People are totally stupid.

Edited to add: I can be stupid too.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 10:05:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: simpleplan2

People are totally stupid.

Edited to add: I can be stupid too.

Everyone can be stupid at times, but knowing that you can be stupid and trying not to be is what counts!

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 10:11:49 AM

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I find that about 9 out of 10 email received here are just silly and deserve to go straight to trash. Don't bother replying to explain to the other person the error in his assumptions about you. That would be a waste of even more of your precious time.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 12:35:01 PM

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Honey just list yourself as a dominant, I'm bisexual but I'm not seeking any men and my preference is women so I gave up on being bisexual and changed my profile to lesbian, I just state my bisexuality in the profile itself :)

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 12:51:15 PM

littlesarbonn

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I agree with the statements that say to just list your self as a dominant woman. I have my filters set up to only show dominant women. Yeah, I'm probably missing viewing a lot of switches that are looking for someone like me, but you have to do what makes sense for the way this web site is designed. I also tend to "hide" profiles of any women that have ANYTHING in their posts that state "not looking for men" or anything of that nature. I used to like to just to talk to people; I'm not one of those who writes people seeking relationships most of the time. But because of mail block filters, I've realized that I just don't want to deal with any women that seem to have a hostility towards men.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 1:19:26 PM

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SomethingCatchy,

I just wanted to weight in on something not mentioned yet. It's not you or your profile. You are extremely clear, well written, and eloquent in your thoughts. Honestly, I think your profile is brilliant. People on the Internet (and especially on BDSM sites) will do what they do, regardless of what you write. This is just part of the turf. It is tempting to write something snippy back, however, in my opinion, this is a waste of your effort. Just ignore and move on. This approach works very well and will make your experience here much more enjoyable and stress free.

Elan.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 1:24:40 PM

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Pyrrsefanie,

quote:

I fire something equally rude back at them and block them. Yep, I'm a horrible nasty person, but if somebody's going to be an asshole to me, I'm going to be an even bigger bitch right back at them.

This is part of your charm (and I'm saying this in a good way). Totally unique and inimitable. :-)

Elan.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 1:32:27 PM

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SomethingCatchy and undergroundsea,

quote:

SomethingCatchy:
I am a switch, but I have made it very clear on my profile that I am looking for a submissive and that I am not open to being dominated by anyone, anytime, in anyway, period. However, I keep getting switch men contacting me saying they're submissive and then turning around and saying they'd love to Dom me.

undergroundsea:
I think you should change your profile to say you are a dominant woman. It would help you escape searches of those searching for people who submit. Also, it would put you in searches of those seeking dominant women. My profile filter is typically set to dominant women within x distance for sake of numbers and likelihood based on what I have seen over time. Only occasionally do I change the settings. I appreciate your intent for full disclosure. I think you could provide this disclosure in your profile and indicate that you are a domme-leaning switch, or a switch currently exploring her dominant side only.

Sea: I think this is really good advice.

SomethingCatchy: Given the situation you've described, I think Sea has offered an excellent way to cut down on some of the chaff. Notice that I say "some" and not all. You'll get chaff no matter what you do, but you might significantly decrease the amount by changing your approach as Sea suggested.

Elan.

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 3:41:58 PM

Steponme73

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Ya'll I still find it amazing and yes crude and rude that someone would go to that much trouble to be a geniune jerk. I guess I am from the "old" school.
The thought would never cross my mind to be that ignorant. Now, if someone questions my intergrity or honesty I might get a little hostle, but to go out of my way to contact someone just for the sole purpose of being an asshole...that would not be me.
I guess the internet has spawned a whole new load of assholes...or maybe they were always there and now they have a veneue to show their stupidity...

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RE: Just a bit of a bitch rant - 9/12/2008 4:02:54 PM

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I guess I'm lucky that I haven't seen many of the "Kneel Cunt" crowd. I do seem to get a lot of people, subs, switches and doms who write equally crude notes about various sex acts they would like to perform with me. I think only one has been brave enough to try to get me to submit with a totally charming "I guess you can be my bitch" type note. *eye roll* In what universe does that work?

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