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mhawk -> in perspective (9/14/2008 1:13:04 AM)

First and foremost hello to everyone :)

I was just wondering from some Mistresses out there on something.

Even after a release from service,if the bond is strong enough between former Mistress and slave,is it allright if both still remain friends and that the former slave with Her permission still calls her Mistress,out of respect?



Madame4a -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 5:29:09 AM)

I think remaining friends is a good thing. 

I would not, however, want someone calling me Mistress who didn't have that kind of relationship to me.



LadyPact -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 5:45:07 AM)

Same here.  I keep that title only for a current dynamic, not a past one.



LadyLupineNYC -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 6:05:59 AM)

If it is ok with her than it is ok. I do think that most would rather you didn't.  Best to ask her directly instead of us [;)]



subtex -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 6:22:25 AM)

I don't care much about protocol but I can see how there might be issues with future relationships.  What will you new Mistress think about it?  Also there's the long-shot you that you might miss some opportunities because a Dominant overheard you call her Mistress and assumed you were taken.

Bill




chamberqueen -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 6:26:20 AM)

I still stay in touch from time to time (over the internet) with my first Dom.  He no longer insists that I call him Sir, but he certainly doesn't mind it.  I do it once in a while just to let him know that I appreciate the early mentoring though I would never submit to him again.  



thetammyjo -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 7:43:42 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mhawk

First and foremost hello to everyone :)

I was just wondering from some Mistresses out there on something.

Even after a release from service,if the bond is strong enough between former Mistress and slave,is it allright if both still remain friends and that the former slave with Her permission still calls her Mistress,out of respect?


The only correct answer is the one between the two people involved.

Yes, I have remained friends with several former subs and slaves. No, none of them call me "Mistress" because that is a title only my slaves are allowed to use for me. To the formers I'm just "TammyJo".



LadyHibiscus -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 8:51:32 AM)

I do run into former submissives, and we are happy to see each other, but I would not say that we are "friends".   That isn't to say that another, different kind of friendship wouldn't develop in the future.



Misstoyou -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 2:21:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mhawk

... that the former slave with Her permission still calls her Mistress,out of respect?



Of course if she agrees then there is no problem. If you are asking will a former owner generally allow her former submissive to continue to call her Mistress, I can only answer for myself. My former submissive and I are still close, but these days he calls me by my name.



Lashra -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 5:44:29 PM)

Friends yes, calling me Mistress no. Only the one who is collared by me is allowed to call me that.

~Lashra



DominaSusan -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 6:00:39 PM)

Subs who wish to be respectful, but who are not my slaves, I prefer if they call me Ma'am.





MsStarlett -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 6:16:35 PM)

I've never been big on titles or protocol.  Mostly, because until recently, I never actually kept pets or slaves.  I just had lots and lots of play pretties.  About 75% of those are still very good friends.  Of those who are not, most I simply do not see or hear from anymore.  Only a very few left on such bad terms that I wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire.

(although... that might be a fun scene...)



hereyesruponyou -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 7:15:39 PM)

Mistress for me is a title earned and when dismissed you lose that relationship. Continued respect can be shown with a polite Ma'am. I am friends usually before, during and after service. I don;t like to play with people i don't like.



MaamJay -> RE: in perspective (9/14/2008 7:25:10 PM)

I would go with Ma'am rather than Mistress, though it obviously depends on the individual in question. For Me, they use Ma'am before they are Mine ... Mistress or my Lady when they are Mine ... Ma'am again after. I've only allowed one sub that was never Mine to call Me Mistress, he was sub to a good Domme friend of Mine, and he politely requested to call Me Mistress as an earned title of respect (in much the same way as Master seems to be used in leather communities I gather). his Mistress was in total agreement with it and he didn't do it with other Dommes, only Me. I appreciated it very much!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]



Dnomyar -> RE: in perspective (9/15/2008 4:56:22 AM)

I agree with the others. I would not want them to call me Mistress.



Venatrix -> RE: in perspective (9/15/2008 1:43:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I agree with the others. I would not want them to call me Mistress.


So, does that mean you're not going through with the sex change?



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