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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

So many people place the responsibility for happiness onto other people that they never learn that happiness is a choice.

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ORIGINAL: califsue
Who are we to question how she knows this is her final barrier? The same reason why so many of us say we have found the "One". I think the Op knows herself well enough to realize she may have other barriers down the road. We all have barriers in our life, whether it is directly connected to a M/D/s dynamic or just circumstances of living life. 

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ORIGINAL: lizcgirl

I like the saying "I built these walls not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to tear them down." Not true in my case, but I still like the saying. lol
I know what you're talking about though. I had all these walls around me when I met my Master and I flat out admitted it. We would joke about the fact He was tearing them down with a jackhammer because the Man was relentless! It was down right frustrating (in a weird way) to have some one destroy what took me a long time to build. 

See, while I'm very happy this worked out for you, I personally have a problem with people building walls with a challenge that it's somebody else's task to jackhammer them down.  People who put their happiness in the hands of others, I'm not sure I can get behind that./quote]

It didn't work for me, it was just a quote that popped into my head when I read this thread, which is why I said "Not true in my case, but liked the saying". I didn't build any barriers to challenge some one to tear them down, simply to seperate myself from them because at the time I was tired of getting hurt and thought a good defense was the way to go. I was honest when I met my Master and simply told Him I didn't want to be close to anyone and He saw the walls I had built for what they were. We joked about it because we were both upfront and honest and recognized they were there and He was relentless in tearing them down. I think most people build walls around their hearts out of defensiveness and fear of being hurt, not as a challenge to others to see who will try to remove them. But once they're gone, how can you not appericate the person who was determined enough to get through them and didn't just give up on you?    

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen
I had been holding myself back through my own fear of never being good enough.  As fully as I felt I was submitting, I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop - to find out that I somehow wasn't good enough.  This had to do only with my own self perception.  I had to learn that to fully give of myself in the relationship that I needed to trust not only my Master but also in myself.  I needed to break out of the habit of never trusting that I did enough, or well enough, or that I somehow could have done better.