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underlimited -> Don't want to seem pushy (9/14/2008 6:06:16 PM)
Just yesterday I met a Professional Dominant Female. I picked Her out from among all the other Dommes for these reasons (She is very little known, She has a journal in which She writes about Her travels and Dominating through everyday life). So we session, but we end up doing almost none of the things i asked for (and i told Her i don't insist on them), and that i'd rather get to know Her and please Her. So instead we talked and i gave Her a long massage, because that's what She wanted. That was better than what i expected [:)] At one point i ask Her "Would You consider a personal slave". Then She mentioned i would be good for cuckold and few other things. She said "Yeah, you impressed me, i'd consider it, i will think about it". So we talked some more about Her writing and everything, and finally the session was over, and at the end She said "Ok, i'll definitely be in touch". Now, my dilemma is this. This was yesterday, and i still haven't heard from Her. She said She will "think about it, and also that She will be in touch". i am assuming She should first e-mail me, yes? Well i am so mesmerized by Her, i want to try and find out what She is thinking, or considering. How do i approach this further? i was thinking about sending a simple Thank You e-mail, but i don't know when, or whether i should (don't want to seem pushy)!?

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/14/2008 6:08:12 PM)
its been less than 24 hours..... WAIT.

MsStarlett -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/14/2008 6:10:39 PM)
Thank you notes that are in good taste are not pushy, and frequently are greatly appreciated. It's a polite thing to do. Just a nice "Thank you. I enjoyed myself. (expand on what you enjoyed if you want, but don't get sexual.) Looking forward to hearing from you." Might just go a long way.

khem -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/14/2008 9:06:11 PM)
I think a brief written thank you note (either snail mail or email if that's all you have) is appropriate. Something along the lines of "thank you so much for a lovely afternoon. It was a joy getting to know you and I'd love an opportunity to spend time with you in the future" Not pushy, just polite.

RichieB -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/14/2008 9:31:40 PM)
Give her at least 2 days to think about it.

Jasmyn -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/14/2008 10:25:54 PM)
You have spent time with her, so you must know how to contact her offline, don't send an email ... send her something direct, a thank you card or similar ...something simple ..even just a single flower in her letterbox with a note saying something along the lines of what Khem wrote

Sylverdawn -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 3:42:41 AM)
Yeah Im not so much on hand delivering something that is a little stalkerquese for me.. a simplylovely thank you note with postage stamp send it express ... go to a shop that has expensive high dollar paper.. and in your best hand writing... sign your name .. the card saying thank you is enough.. she willget the point.. and if she is interested contact you.. Ps make sure your return and contact information is contained on the card..SD

thetammyjo -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 7:25:00 AM)
This is going to sound negative but she is a professional, her time with you was a job. I won't allow myself to get caught up in fantasies that it might become something else because that may very likely be a set up for deep disappointment. Instead just send her a nice "thank you; I'd like to book another appointment" letter/card.

Lynnxz -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 7:27:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo This is going to sound negative but she is a professional, her time with you was a job. I won't allow myself to get caught up in fantasies that it might become something else because that may very likely be a set up for deep disappointment. Instead just send her a nice "thank you; I'd like to book another appointment" letter/card. I don't know... he may have a chance. I tend to discourage any 'personal slave' comments, as do the pro dommes I know. It may just be a business tactic though- you are right. I'd think that would cause a lot of clingy drama- but who knows. ^_^

thetammyjo -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 7:29:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo This is going to sound negative but she is a professional, her time with you was a job. I won't allow myself to get caught up in fantasies that it might become something else because that may very likely be a set up for deep disappointment. Instead just send her a nice "thank you; I'd like to book another appointment" letter/card. I don't know... he may have a chance. I tend to discourage any 'personal slave' comments, as do the pro dommes I know. It may just be a business tactic though- you are right. I'd think that would cause a lot of clingy drama- but who knows. ^_^ He already asked, the ball is in her court, I think his fantasizing about it and mentioning it to her again is just setting himself up for hurt feelings and the potential loss of a good professional session from time to time when he can afford it.

Sylverdawn -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 7:42:28 AM)
I agree with Tammy Jo..see may have been unable to handle the awkward moment.. or she may have been sincerely interested in the moment and decided differently later or whatever etctera or so on who the hell knows... a nice note simply saying thank you.. reminds her of his interest and if after a week or two .. he has to decide if he wants a pro relationship and pay for her time SD

AAkasha -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 8:07:07 AM)
If she was interested in a personal relationship with you, she'd get in touch with you. She is a capable woman, I am sure. Asking a professional dominatrix in a paid session is there is a potential for a non paying relationship is awkward and inappropriate. What else is she going to say? "Hell no"? She was telling you a fantasy as part of your paid session. If she is avoiding you, she's uncomfortable and may not want to see you again in a professional setting either. If she has the hots for you, she will contact you. Akasha

BellaAmor -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 8:13:42 AM)
I would definately with faery and say wait it out as well. The 6'2 Black Domina

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 9:43:54 AM)
Gracious thank you notes are never pushy. But, she is not your DATE, so there is no reason for her to pounce on the phone to call you.

Steponme73 -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 11:24:02 AM)
She is a Professional. She knows what she is doing. She knows how to get in touch with you if she so desires. I would wait a couple of days if she has not responded, I would email her a quick "Thank you" for a great time note. If she does not respond...look elsewhere.

wimpslave2 -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 3:24:13 PM)
Yes i would say send a thank you email in a few day :D and then if she does want to as her slave she will email you back saying so Thank you wimpslave

underlimited -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 7:45:14 PM)
Okay, either way, a thank-you note it is. I was thinking about that, whether my question made Her uncomfortable. But really, from this point, we can't tell. She may have really considered it, or She may have said "i will think about it" to avoid the awkward moment. i did propose the idea in the way that doesn't sound like a question and would give initiative to Her: "If You'd want to dwell into a personal relationship, i'd be interested". Whether it is appropriate, is entirely different topic. i am not interested in an ongoing professional relationship, thus if i lose out on potential session, makes no difference to me. i went to see Her with one goal in mind, and if we are not compatible, i see no loss there.

Lynnxz -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 7:56:15 PM)
Well if you see no loss in not seeing her again, I'd say you should skip the thankyou note all together. ;)

undergroundsea -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/15/2008 9:49:21 PM)
I see a thank you note to be independent of any follow up on the question. That is, I think the thank you note can be sent regardless of the other matter. And I think it would have been fine to send the thank you note even the next day. As for how long to give her to think about it, I think a day is too short and that even a week of time is fine. Cheers, Sea

MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Don't want to seem pushy (9/16/2008 4:34:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: underlimited i went to see Her with one goal in mind, and if we are not compatible, i see no loss there. I have known professional dominatrices who enjoy collecting interesting and attractive friends from the kink community, including extra charming clients. Dinner parties in their dungeons can be hilariously good fun.....and you just might meet Someone Special in her circle of friends. I have never been a pro-domme, but I have met some fantastic submissive men by being nice to pro-dommes. A thank you note would not hurt.

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