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subbella -> Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 5:08:06 PM)

Can a submissive woman find happiness without being in Service to a Master?

In what other ways can she channel her desire to be submissive if she chooses NOT to serve a Master?

I may have more questions soon. These are two from my LAST journal entry on collarme.



ginawithaB -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 5:43:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: subbella

Can a submissive woman find happiness without being in Service to a Master?

In what other ways can she channel her desire to be submissive if she chooses NOT to serve a Master?

I may have more questions soon. These are two from my LAST journal entry on collarme.



I suppose if we're talking about some hypothetical submissive woman (and btw, are we only talking about women?), I would have to say sure, of course, it's possible.

If we're talking about this particular submissive woman...jury's still out.

gina



subbella -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 6:17:27 PM)

gina -- submissive woman or man -- either works for me.

I'm looking for answers in general, maybe some ideas for myself to get through a difficult period in my own life.



quietkitten -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 6:22:49 PM)

I wonder if working in a service oriented industry might help.

One of the reasons I haven't gone insane is that I work as a nurse, so my job is naturally to serve others..

Something to consider

Jenny



bottominwa -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 6:26:14 PM)

I am going to second the working in a service industry.
I do admini executive assistant work...for Army Officers...none the less...so I get to say Sir all day long...and take care of their every whims...it is really proving ot get me through the long seperation swhen Master is deployed...gives me an outlet.

good luck

sabrina King



LilWhiteWolf -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 6:29:12 PM)

i have wondered that myself. i can find happines in doing things i enjoy but i still crave my need to please and serve. sometimes i just feel empty i crave it so much but alas..that is the life of a submissive on her own. and i won't "scene" or play...that doesn't fulfill me anyways.



fyreredsub -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 6:33:00 PM)

i'm lucky enough to work in a helping profession and being able to help others bring me a great joy inside however,it is nothing compared to being of service to the one that makes my belly burn.for this girl there is NO fulfillment in not being able to serve a Master.my service to him,my being pleasing is what makes me feel whole.



subbella -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 8:21:25 PM)

Oh I see there are many submissives out there who are in the same predicament as me. Unfortunately, I am not in a service related industry, more of a self-serving one. I have tried many outlets: journaling, writing, poetry, artwork, and all seem to help the ache, but nothing feels more right to me than serving a Master or "the" Master. Thanks so much for all your input.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 8:45:03 PM)

We should be fulfilled in who we are, whether we are in a relationship or not.

We choose to get into relationships with specific people because those relationships help us be MORE fulfilled in being MORE of who we are.

If you're seeking a relationship to fill something within you, because you feel lacking in yourself, it won't work. I know it's been hard with you and your ex, up and down, new chicks coming and going.

I think it would be good for you to take some time out for yourself and really evaluate what you find important in the long term and where you want to be in a few years.

What I think will happen is that you will hold onto the idea of a relationship making it all better.



slavejali -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 9:05:45 PM)

you could try doing some volunteer work..there are so many organisations begging for help...a local animal shelter for example.




mnottertail -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 9:10:44 PM)

To have a soul, to be, to have feelings and a heart.......

still worth something in this world.


you can't go wrong being you, to have a soul is not so unique, but it is............

Ron



sub4hire -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 9:16:17 PM)

Everyone submits to someone on some level. Even business owners submit to their clients.

So, as long as you can do without kink, why not?



theRose4U -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 9:21:47 PM)

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you could try doing some volunteer work..there are so many organisations begging for help...a local animal shelter for example.


LOL this is not an exclusivly sub thing [:)] I find with my special needs cases that being a Domme on a rampage about my fosters well being has been the only thing that has kept some of them alive. The gratitude of a furry face at the end of a long day is the best.



subbella -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/29/2005 9:29:04 PM)

So many good ideas. So many ways for a submissive to find fulfillment outside of a relationship. I think I will continue to try to channel my thoughts and feelings on being submissive through my artwork and my poetry. They have served me well in the past. Though I like the idea of working with small furry critters. I have two of my own that need more attention that I can manage. Just tonight, I lay on the couch with one curled up on my tummy and the other curled up under my chin. So much love -- who is the Master now? (Or should I say Mistress?)



wetsub000 -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (11/30/2005 12:15:30 AM)

I don't work in a service industry at the moment (but have done in the past), but I've recently done a massage course. Apart from the aspect of acquiring skills and getting out and meeting people (the people in my class were lovely) I found that I really enjoyed giving the massage, whether it was to fellow classmates or friends and family (don't seem to have a shortage of volunteers). And I have the added bonus of imagining how pleased my Dom will be when I see him in March with my new found skills and techniques.



slavejali -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (12/1/2005 2:06:12 AM)

Being able to give a therapeutic massage and actually know what your doing is a great skill for a subbie/slave type....congrats on your course wetsub000



Mercnbeth -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (12/1/2005 9:30:02 AM)

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you could try doing some volunteer work..there are so many organisations begging for help...a local animal shelter for example.


this is great advice from slavejali. If you are interested in service to another, why not make yourself available to help out a charity in your area? Just get in touch with them and let them know what your skills are and tell them if they could use your help you'd be willing to do WHATEVER needs to be done. For example: You can offer your time, skill and talent to a local agency that works with disadvantaged youth. Maybe they will ask you to help the kids out with artwork or poetry, something that you personally find happiness with....or maybe they will ask you to make sure the kids bathrooms are clean and you find that apalling, the point is, offering to SERVE(help) the way THEY define it, without expectation of reimbursement. If being around unmentionables is too much for you to handle, perhaps a local agency that assists homeless animals.....but again, it might not just be laying around with them cuddling....it could be cleaning out their cages for them.

All the advice about getting in touch with yourself and serving yourself is great, but if you truly want to go down the road less traveled, try service to another the way THEY define it. this slave has found it to be immensely rewarding, with NO KINK involved.



LilWhiteWolf -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (12/1/2005 10:14:38 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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If you're seeking a relationship to fill something within you, because you feel lacking in yourself, it won't work.


i don't really feel that is the case here. i definitely enjoy my alone time but i don't feel we were meant to be solitary creatures. and happiness will only be attained when you are with the "right" partner. so until then, i bide my time.
i have my "wolf" name for a reason. it is my spirit animal and it is strong but one day i would like to find my "alpha". until then...life is to be enjoyed



subbella -> RE: Soul searching (a different path) (12/1/2005 8:09:56 PM)

I am involved in a service position for an organization I am a member of. It is actually a very important position and it does give me some outlet in my desire to serve, though not on an emotional level. I think working with children or animals may satisfy that emotional craving that I have.



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