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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 5:49:05 PM

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i am 18 and i yearn to serve a mistress, primarily 24/7... i have no limits at all(at least none that have been discovered), and i am open to any situation... the problem i usually find is that i am usually too young to be taken seriously by any prospective mistress... because i am 18, they usually beleive it is just a fantasy of mine, and i do not really want to serve them 24/7... besides faking my age, which i do not want to do, because i would hate to lie to any mistress, how can i get around this age block?

I have a couple of suggestions.

First, try to find some local organizations or munches you can attend. This might be tricky because of lot of them do discriminate against people under 21. However there are TNG (The Next Generation) groups around the country where people 18-35 do meet and teach/learn together.

Going to events and workshops (especially workshops where you can learn) will get you known and when you are known, someone is more likely to see beyond the number in your age. (This is true for older people as well who encounter a similar age problem when looking for partners)

Second, if you aren't in college or technical school or something like this, get into a program. Showing you can start working toward a degree might show maturity. If you are in such a program or if you have a full-time or part-time job, put that in your profile.

Third, READ. Not erotica, though I shoot myself in the foot so to speak when I advise this, but get non-fiction books about not just kink but human sexuality, service, household work, anything that you can think that a mistress might want. Take classes even to learn so you have more to offer. I can recommend several books if you want to send me an email on here and make that request.

Fourth, just try to be patient and don't bring up your age beyond the initial "I'm 18" level of information. Its the same with any "I'm Q category and I've having trouble finding someone" posts -- focus on your strengths, be honest about everything but focus on the strengths.

Hope this helped.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 9:39:46 PM

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my question is how can you be 18 and an expert in travelling, history, and fine dining?

how can you be 135 pounds and be an expert at weight lifting and ice hockey?

how can you be an expert in art galleries AND cartoons?

you definitely come across as a guy who doesn't know which way is up.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 11:10:09 PM

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how can you be 135 pounds and be an expert at weight lifting and ice hockey?

Same way my partner can be around 130 and be damn near expert in some physical arenas. He's maxed out his personal potential. :) I'd call that approaching expert, at least in one sense.

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how can you be an expert in art galleries AND cartoons?

I don't see how these two things are contradictory at all.

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you definitely come across as a guy who doesn't know which way is up.

I do, however, agree with this.

There's some GREAT advice on here, OP, these people are really knowledagable and very nice.

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RE: age problems:( - 12/1/2005 6:46:30 AM

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Go to local munches, there are several in your area. If you want specifics email me...you can also check out Fetish Oddysey, they have monthly play parties in a local bar, that are outstanding http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FetishOdysseyMonthlyParty/

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RE: age problems:( - 12/1/2005 9:41:07 AM

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Okay, since you still have not written to me personally, I will just give the directions to the Bella Munch here:

First Friday of every month (THIS Friday), from about 6:30-9:30

Bella Cafe, corner of Schoenherr and Canal Rd, in the strip mall behind the Pizza Hut.

It's a varied group of folks, plenty of smokers if you are one. There are often young people there. Come out and meet us--I will even be there for an hour or so, before I go and meet some friends for dinner.

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RE: age problems:( - 12/1/2005 10:57:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: imyourslaveboy69

i am 18 and i yearn to serve a mistress, primarily 24/7... i have no limits at all (at least none that have been discovered)...
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I am well into my fifth decade on this planet and my fourth as a submissive, and if I have learned anything at all, it is NOT to say that I have no limits! You really...and I mean really...do need to think this through BEFORE you attempt to enter into a relationship with a dominant woman. 'Ya know, she actually might hold you to that statement.

And on and on...

...the problem i usually find is that i am usually too young to be taken seriously by any prospective mistress... because i am 18, they usually beleive it is just a fantasy of mine, and i do not really want to serve them 24/7... besides faking my age, which i do not want to do, because i would hate to lie to any mistress, how can i get around this age block?

I think that you have answered your own question. Without much or any experience, what do you have to offer other than a willingness to learn? The only perk that you have going for you is the possiblity that you can be trained to fit the needs of a particular woman. Of course you cannot be expected to know everything at your age. Experience is the best teacher, and if you continue along the path to knowledge in this realm, you will constantly discover new ways of thinking and the new possibilities open to you. Just give it time, relax and enjoy the ride.

Rules of the road:

1. Be careful what you wish for.
2. If you build it she will come.

Be well!

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RE: age problems:( - 12/1/2005 11:14:20 AM

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I am a hustler for my front end mistress, I command you to suck my dick. After which you will lick my ass, all in preperation to swell your lips for my mistress.

Consider you. There is a hell of alotta life out there.

Having said that, perhaps there was a question or a comment you wanted to make?

LOL,
Ron
Or am I misunderstanding your no limits post?

That's what I like about this site. There is always someone to poke fun at the newbies here. Hey, a little bit of levity never hurts, especially when one is a self-proclaimed pain piggy, right? He'll be a better man for it! *lol*

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RE: age problems:( - 12/2/2005 12:07:23 AM

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What is the purpose of nit-picking my reply there, perverseangelic? You don't agree with my points - who cares?

Christ almighty, it is all coming back to me. What a humourless place this is.

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RE: age problems:( - 12/2/2005 5:49:15 AM

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i am starting to understand how this board works....its ok for you to pick apart the OP's profile and make cracks about him, but when someone makes comments on your post, they are humorless. This is a public forum...if you post something, you can expect people to reply...you should also expect that some of them may not agree with what you say.

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RE: age problems:( - 12/2/2005 9:19:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: GordonFreeman

What is the purpose of nit-picking my reply there, perverseangelic? You don't agree with my points - who cares?

Christ almighty, it is all coming back to me. What a humourless place this is.

's funny, I understood the teasing in your text, and I thought that it would come through in mine as well. Alas for a text-based medium!

I was joking, for the most part. Or at least, commenting in levity, in the same spirit you made your comment.

I -was- serious, though, in one point-- that young individuals can have "expert" level experience at some thing, because you seemed to be saying they couldn't. Please correct me if I'm wrong in my reading.

Also, I -agreed- with some parts of what you said, and said nothing mean at -all- about your points, except to disagree with them. I'm not entirely sure what you took exception to, except that my tone didnt' come through clearly.

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