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kidwithknife -> RE: No sex for slaves (9/17/2008 5:07:38 PM)
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Have you considered asking the dominant in question?
Anything else is just second guessing.
the.dark.
This.
Apart from anything else, some questions occur to me straight away.
Does he not have sex full stop or does he just not have sex with his slaves?
How is he defining sex?
Does he recieve sexual pleasure in some way from his slaves? Or vice versa?
How does he see his relationship with his slaves?
Does he watch his slaves have sex with other people?
Because without that kind of information, I don't think it's even possible to make a vaguely educated guess as to his motivations for me. So these are just some possiblilties.
He's asexual.
His main kink is voyeurism.
His prefered role is that of a 'mentor'.
He specifically means "penetrative sex" and he simply prefers other sexual activity.
Or, obviously, any of the other possible options already mentioned. Or one that hasn't been.
It does amuse me somewhat that a sizeable percentage of the suggestions so far have started from a position of assuming bad faith.
Obviously, there are no parallels between automatically assuming that someone who is not having sex must be doing it for dubious reasons and unfair judgements that are made of more 'conventional' BDSM relationships. And there is absolutely no chance that some people appear to be more influenced by societal expectations of sexual behaviour than they'd like to think.
And it would be utterly churlish of me to insinuate otherwise.
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