Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: About To Be Punished


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: About To Be Punished Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/17/2008 8:12:26 PM   
Aylee


Posts: 24103
Joined: 10/14/2007
Status: offline 		Soooooo. . .

Have you been punished yet?

What advice did you take?

How did it work?

What happened?


If you are going to put things like this out there, you need to tell us how the story ended. 

_____________________________

Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam

I don’t always wgah’nagl fhtagn. But when I do, I ph’nglui mglw’nafh R’lyeh.

(in reply to YourhandMyAss)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/17/2008 8:16:09 PM   
subeos


Posts: 140
Joined: 5/23/2008
Status: offline 		The punishment has already been done, I am sure. I just wanted to say punishment before and after always made me think about doing better. I was actually scared when it happened, but thanked Him when it was over. It is meant AS a lesson.

slave eos

~To Thine Own Self Be True~

(in reply to YourhandMyAss)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/17/2008 8:23:22 PM   
subeos


Posts: 140
Joined: 5/23/2008
Status: offline 		Your profile is a bit confusing.  You will not change for anyone and want someone to love you for you ( good) But never want you to change.
Perhaps that is why the punushment is happening?
And I agree if your going to post this and not come back and tell, then that sucks for people who are trying to give advice

slave eos

~To Thine Own Self Be True~

(in reply to subeos)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/17/2008 9:52:40 PM   
submitchell


Posts: 3
Joined: 8/23/2005
Status: offline 		Take the paddle, learn from it.  politey ask why you are getting it.  Don't make that mistake again.

(in reply to YourhandMyAss)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/17/2008 11:23:40 PM   
Arastella


Posts: 262
Joined: 7/22/2006
Status: offline 		For those of you who are so eager for the update, yes I've been punished, and my ass hurts like a mofo.  But everytime I sit down, I remember.  Once He had me bent over I tried breathing techniques to keep me calm, my head clear, able to focus on the fact that He loves me enough to remedy the situation.  And for anyone who had read the other post about breaking down barriers and such... I haven't cried in 10 years, till tonight, because I was so ashamed, felt so bad, and was so desperate to please Him and knew I hadn't.  Apparently I wasn't all bad though, as He DID reward me with more orgasms than I've had in my lifetime after.  All good now.  Red bottomed, and the problem has been solved, is over and I am high as a kite on post-orgasm.  He was being QUITE generous as He simply happened to be really horny and wanted me.  Hey!  I'm not complaining!  Thanks to all who actually gave me good advice instead of shit and bitching.  Very much appreciated.

Humbly
Hilly


(in reply to submitchell)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/17/2008 11:42:33 PM   
dreamerdreaming


Posts: 2839
Status: offline 		What did you do wrong, specifically?



_____________________________

Download SLAVE LOVER. Explicit BDSM porn, with a plot! A love story, on a FemDom planet! http://www.amazon.com/Slave-Lover-Chronicles-Book-ebook/dp/B0031ERBLI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1261973416&sr=1

(in reply to Arastella)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 6:07:51 AM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		So how did he help you to not make careless mistakes in the future. What was going on that you couldn't take time to do things right and how is he going to change that by helping you schedule better? Or was this just as excuse for him to beat on you in order to get a hard on?

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to dreamerdreaming)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 7:24:37 AM   
daddysliloneds


Posts: 1351
Joined: 6/28/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Arastella

For those of you who are so eager for the update, yes I've been punished, and my ass hurts like a mofo.  But everytime I sit down, I remember.  Once He had me bent over I tried breathing techniques to keep me calm, my head clear, able to focus on the fact that He loves me enough to remedy the situation.  And for anyone who had read the other post about breaking down barriers and such... I haven't cried in 10 years, till tonight, because I was so ashamed, felt so bad, and was so desperate to please Him and knew I hadn't.  Apparently I wasn't all bad though, as He DID reward me with more orgasms than I've had in my lifetime after.  All good now.  Red bottomed, and the problem has been solved, is over and I am high as a kite on post-orgasm.  He was being QUITE generous as He simply happened to be really horny and wanted me.  Hey!  I'm not complaining!  Thanks to all who actually gave me good advice instead of shit and bitching.  Very much appreciated.

Humbly
Hilly


in my opinion, punishment followed by reward isn't punishment; it's role-play.


(in reply to Arastella)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 8:06:54 AM   
OttersSwim


Posts: 2860
Joined: 9/1/2008
Status: offline 		I am not sure what to think about this thread.  Your phrase of "so many careless mistakes today" gives the impression of small breaches of protocol or tasks...and makes me wonder if you were being punished for trivialities.

It seemed to cause a lot of anxiety for you...

Did you neglect a significant responsibility or task?  Were you disrespectful?  Inquiring minds want to know.   My opinion, punishment should be reserved for a serious breach of agreements, but to each their own.

_____________________________

I am on a journey of authenticity and self.

(in reply to Arastella)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 9:17:09 AM   
rc4otkVA


Posts: 52
Joined: 9/12/2005
Status: offline 		Fear and nervousness are what you should feel when you await well-deserved punishment from your Master. You should be able to find some comfort in knowing you are serving someone who wishes to improve you, and is dedicated enough to the effort of bettering your performance that he will give you the strong guidance and correction that you need and deserve.

(in reply to YourhandMyAss)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 10:46:28 AM   
Aylee


Posts: 24103
Joined: 10/14/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Arastella

For those of you who are so eager for the update, yes I've been punished, and my ass hurts like a mofo.  But everytime I sit down, I remember.  Once He had me bent over I tried breathing techniques to keep me calm, my head clear, able to focus on the fact that He loves me enough to remedy the situation.  And for anyone who had read the other post about breaking down barriers and such... I haven't cried in 10 years, till tonight, because I was so ashamed, felt so bad, and was so desperate to please Him and knew I hadn't.  Apparently I wasn't all bad though, as He DID reward me with more orgasms than I've had in my lifetime after.  All good now.  Red bottomed, and the problem has been solved, is over and I am high as a kite on post-orgasm.  He was being QUITE generous as He simply happened to be really horny and wanted me.  Hey!  I'm not complaining!  Thanks to all who actually gave me good advice instead of shit and bitching.  Very much appreciated.

Humbly
Hilly




Honestly, this sounds more like bragging.  If I was your D-type, I would wonder if you had learned ANYTHING from this. 

Of course, I would have handled all of your "careless mistakes" in a completely different manner. 

You would have had NOTHING to brag or boast about. 

_____________________________

Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam

I don’t always wgah’nagl fhtagn. But when I do, I ph’nglui mglw’nafh R’lyeh.

(in reply to Arastella)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 11:14:07 AM   
lizcgirl


Posts: 287
Joined: 4/13/2008
Status: offline 		I don't know, it didn't sound like she was bragging to me. I felt the same way after my worst punishment. I cried like a baby for the first time ever and even had to take a breather to just be able to handle it. The release of it was extremely helpful- sometimes people just need a good cry and if it takes a whoppin' to get it- so be it. I thought she was just more relieved and I don't blame her. If she learned her lesson and took her punishment well, let her enjoy the rewards she got too. Can't hurt.

_____________________________

Never make some one a priority when all you are to them is an option.


(in reply to Aylee)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 11:37:36 AM   
Aylee


Posts: 24103
Joined: 10/14/2007
Status: offline
quote:

more orgasms than I've had in my lifetime

I am high as a kite on post-orgasm

He simply happened to be really horny and wanted me.  Hey!  I'm not complaining

Thanks to all who actually gave me good advice instead of shit and bitching


Liz,

Comments like these just do not sound like sincere contrition to ME. 

Then again, I do not run a corpral punishment dynamic. 

I would prefer her brain hurt "like a mofo" from thinking about how to correct and prevent those mistakes than her rear.  I also do not reward people for accepting the consequences of their actions like an adult.  That is just expected. 

_____________________________

Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam

I don’t always wgah’nagl fhtagn. But when I do, I ph’nglui mglw’nafh R’lyeh.

(in reply to lizcgirl)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 11:55:15 AM   
lizcgirl


Posts: 287
Joined: 4/13/2008
Status: offline 		Very true. I don't get rewarded for taking my punishment either. I guess I tend to try and focus on the positive aspects instead of the negative- I would rather be motivated to please Him because it pleases Him, not because I'm afraid of punishment. Maybe she looks at it the same way, maybe on some level she wanted the punishment, who knows? But at least she picked herself up and moved on afterwards instead of lingering on it and whinning about it to every one.

_____________________________

Never make some one a priority when all you are to them is an option.


(in reply to Aylee)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 12:09:31 PM   
RealSub58


Posts: 1073
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Arastella

Master is on His way home and has ordered me to wait with the paddle to be punished.    Any advice?



















   
Any of the above might do, I suggest without pants

(in reply to Arastella)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 12:15:36 PM   
squ1rt


Posts: 10
Joined: 7/10/2008
Status: offline 		very pop-culture, yet brilliant advice that will work across languages and cultures!

(in reply to RealSub58)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 12:42:27 PM   
NuevaVida


Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline 		~ Fast Reply ~

Eh.  Sounds to me like she screwed up, she was going to be punished for it, and was nervous about it.  Also sounds like she got her punishment and after it was doled out, forgiveness was granted and they moved on.   Hopefully a lesson was learned and their bond was strengthened.  If so, more power to you both!

_____________________________

Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.



(in reply to squ1rt)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 1:58:26 PM   
VivaciousSub


Posts: 446
Joined: 9/7/2008
From: Tampa, FL
Status: offline 		<fast reply>

Not sure why the sex afterwards wasn't supposed to happen. She took her punishment well, has a sore, red ass from it - sitting for the next day or so would certainly remind me to behave - and perhaps it was her fear and anxiety awaiting the punishment that she should remember should she feel tempted to disobey in the future.

Additionally, I've seen other posts on this forum that note that punishment can indeed be followed by lots of love and forgiveness. Keeping her in a state of "Master's still mad at me!" after punishment isn't "after punishment" at all.


_____________________________

9.8m/s^2 + VivaciousSub + ground = ouchx10^9th

To yield readily--easily--to the persuasion of a friend is no merit.... To yield without conviction is no compliment to the understanding of either. ~ Pride and Prejudice

(in reply to NuevaVida)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 3:08:24 PM   
windchymes


Posts: 9410
Joined: 4/18/2005
Status: offline 		I think, deep down in, it was really "funishment"

_____________________________

You know it's going to be a GOOD blow job when she puts a Breathe Right strip on first.

Pick-up artists and garbage men should trade names.

(in reply to VivaciousSub)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: About To Be Punished - 9/18/2008 4:35:45 PM   
Usako


Posts: 697
Joined: 7/29/2006
From: NYC
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: VivaciousSub
Not sure why the sex afterwards wasn't supposed to happen. 


Well, I'm no expert on punishment when it comes to BDSM, however, it seems counter productive to punish someone then reward them with orgasms.

It's like spanking your offspring for being bad then giving him a candy bar after it.

But that's just what I take from it.

(in reply to VivaciousSub)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: About To Be Punished Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094