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daddysliloneds -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 6:52:58 AM)
nice passive-aggressive way of making sure all the dominant men here know you are single, new and looking.

DarkSteven -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 6:58:31 AM)
It is extremely disrespectful if you are in a relationship with a Dom. It is NOT disrespectful with a casual acquaintance. I have a rule for chat. If I ask a question, I expect either a direct response or else a statement that she does not feel comfortable answering at that point. I've yet to meet anyone who has a problem with that.

OsideGirl -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 7:28:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven It is extremely disrespectful if you are in a relationship with a Dom. It is NOT disrespectful with a casual acquaintance. The OP is talking about initial contact....so obviously she's not in a relationship with the Dom. She's talking about someone that isn't even up to the level of a casual acquaintance. It's the first IM or email she's talking about.

sunshinemiss -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 8:13:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Ignore the guys above me- it's disrespectful to even think of not answering a question any dom asks you at any time on any subject. You need to learn to be open to all in every way and surrender to their domliness. They know better than you and you will learn your place. Why LA, I never knew you had it in you. I am so proud.. sniff sniff. sunshine

sirsholly -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 8:16:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: persephonee ~FR~ Of course, if he says, "Kneel before me bitch"....ya betta get to kneelin......my only concern in this regard, is how do you spell the sound your knees make on the way down??? Is it crrrreeeeaaaaakkk....or is it more of a snap ing sound?? spewed coffee

tazzygirl -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 12:51:58 PM)
~grins at the passive-agressive comment~ at 37, not everyone is as knowledgeable about everything as everyone else we all began somewhere.. sometime.. at some age i didnt even have a lable for what i am until i hit 33 (edited because i still havent taken typing 101 yet)

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 12:59:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlslave Masters, i am new and looking to meet a Dom man. in my correspondence i find i am asked personal questions about sexual acts i am willing to perform. it seems inappropriate to be asked things such as this by persons i never met. i am not at all interested in discussing those things, which, frankly i can't even determine in a vacuum without a Dom. but is not that i don't know the answer, as much as i think it inappropriate to discuss with a cyber person who may not even be real. so, i find myself refusing to answer such questions. do you consider this disrespectful? NO its not disrespectful...., those that take this line in chat are probably typing with one hand and stroking their cock with the other..My two cents..

Kirata -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 3:11:24 PM)
I don't ask questions like that. Maybe there's a clue there. K.

persephonee -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 3:20:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: persephonee ~FR~ Of course, if he says, "Kneel before me bitch"....ya betta get to kneelin......my only concern in this regard, is how do you spell the sound your knees make on the way down??? Is it crrrreeeeaaaaakkk....or is it more of a snap ing sound?? spewed coffee im only trying to get this here thang we are doin right....now, wipe your chin and help a girl out....[:D]

JewAndCelt -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 4:00:06 PM)
I happen to have been raised the 'Old Fashioned' way. I wouldn't walk up to a complete stranger off the street and make lewd comments, much less demand they do something (i.e. kneel, suck my cock, etc.). That's where 'getting to know your boundaries' comes in; When my wife and I first met, there wasn't much of the lifestyle even mentioned, let alone any orders given. I let her find out for herself that I am indeed what I say I am. We grew into our respective roles by degree, all the while learning what we could of each other. It's a continuous process, I believe; there is a time and place for certain behaviours for each of us, lifestyle or otherwise.

CoffinDancer -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 6:45:13 PM)
In my opinion..... Any serious Dom will want to know about you before asking sexual questions. At least during the first chat. The sexual acts you are or are not willing to perform is an important topic so the next chat may include things like, bjs, gag reflexes, a good hard anal pounding etc [:)]. If you're not comfortable talking about these things you may be in the wrong place.

goodgirlslave -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 7:03:22 PM)
Sir, when I posted my question, i assumed it was a board where "Masters" affiliated with the site would answer questions from subs. I had no idea i would see replys from other subs; much less ones not exactly supportive of the fact i am new and alone trying to figure this out. with regard to your reply, while acknowleding ones own subconscious motivations may not be obvious to oneself, i believe your perception of my motivation for my post (a passive-aggressive way to get attention from Dom Men) is incorrect. in fact, by the time of my post, i had made clear on my profile i was looking for siter-subs, and not accepting mail from singe Dom men. in fact, shortly after my post, when i read hurtful replies (from subs no less), i supressed my profile altogether. being told my question was contrived for attention, makes me wonder, what did i do to annoy a sister sub and Dom Master I never met.

CruelDesires -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 7:27:51 PM)
Welcome to the internet. Some folks are angry and project that upon others. Some are jaded and do the same. Some misinterpret what you write and leap to assumptions. Just ignore the ones who bother you and you will do fine. By the way. Do you like anal sex on the first date? [:D][;)] C-D

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 8:16:03 PM)
Stop calling subs sisters. Just because we happen to have a similar relationship orientation does NOT make us any more closer or bonded. In fact, stop putting any artificial meaning into any orientation. Someone being a dom or sub or anything should not change how you act towards them. Only UNTIL you CHOOSE a particular relationship should you do that. The sooner you get that through your mind, the better off you will be. And thanks Sunshine and Calif- I usually supress that part of me, but it's very much alive :)

tazzygirl -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 8:25:46 PM)
finally!! someone who sees being called "sister" as i do

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 8:27:22 PM)
Tazz it's not that uncommon to find subs who dislike it. Unfortunately there are many who do and encourage it. Females tend to want to be part of social groups and belong and will force superficial affectations wherever they can to achieve that sense.

tazzygirl -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 8:45:46 PM)
it also seems to be the huge "in" thing among gorean slaves. the first time someone called me sister, i responded with... how do you know my mother and how long has she been lying to me? (im one out of five children.. only girl) i find it annoying to say the least... its a term of affection i use for an extremely rare few

E2Sweet -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 9:00:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlslave ...do you consider this disrespectful? Absolutely not! I say you have to steer clear of the nonsense as best you can, and at the same time, also protect your sanity. Cyber sex with guys from CM is likely not going to get you any closer to finding that which you are seeking, so in my view, why bother with that and waste your time... and that's usually where those kinds of questions lead.... Its a pointless distraction I say... The best way I've found to beat the fakes (believe me, I've had my share of guys posing as dominant females) and not waste your time is to simply not dabble in the more sexual online exchanges at all, or at least until you know who the person is to some extent. If the questions go all sexual early, just make it clear you're not comfortable, and if the tone doesn't change, you're probably talking to a horny idiot anyway...[;)]

OsideGirl -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 9:05:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Tazz it's not that uncommon to find subs who dislike it. Unfortunately there are many who do and encourage it. Females tend to want to be part of social groups and belong and will force superficial affectations wherever they can to achieve that sense. Add me to that list too. It annoys the heck out of me. Just like I dislike being called dear, pet, baby and sweetheart by people I don't know.

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: appropriate cyper chat (9/18/2008 10:03:37 PM)
Well, many people are wanting to see how sexual and kink compatible they are with you. Basically, cutting to chase and finding out this stuff upfront instead of many weeks or monthes down the road. This lifestyle allows us to be open and honest about kinks and sex with one another, along with our relationship structures and everything else. I myself don't mind talking about sex, provided other vanilla things and questions are mixed into the conversation. If somebody is only focused upon the sex and the other things are missing, I tend to get a little turned off by it. I don't have a problem talking about sex and sexual kinks. Why not? That's all part of why you are here on CM and not some Vanilla Dating site. lol

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