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Gets out the nice hairbrush and brushes IrishMist's hair while we wait for our new CM language books to be delivered

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ORIGINAL: riskrewarded

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ORIGINAL: dommemagnet

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ORIGINAL: LadySonelle


As for insisting on respect, I will say that a certain degree of decorum is asked. The slave who signed off with Me last night with the closing phrase "G'night Kiddo!" is NOT going to get much of My attention until he shapes up! I am NOBODY'S "Kiddo"! Really!

Lady Sonelle

Well put! Respect is earned however a certain amount of respect is due anyone that hasn't proven they are unworthy of it. At least that's the way I see life myopically. Manners are justified at all times which is what I believe you are referring to as decorum. There's no excuse for poor manners excepting with those that have already proven they are the northbound end of a southbound horse.

I have to disagree strongly here as well except for the part where magnet says hes being myopic, manners are pretty fluid from place to place.

When I lived in Pittsburgh youd never nudge a person out of your way to get across the street but if a person was stopped at a green light you sure as heck would honk your horn. When I lived in New York a person gawking and holding up foot traffic gets knocked out of the way and its not rude, that person is rude for holding up foot traffic.

When I was in Australia saying "G'night Kiddo" is a very friendly way to say goodbye as its a pretty informal culture, unless one tells the person its a problem its pretty silly to expect people to read their mind and act accordingly.

Unless hes yours right?

And if hes yours maybe you have to work on training huh?

Dom/mes dealing with Dom/mes are bound to have alot of differing ideas on how to do this or that. If you are to enjoy the company of people in your own community and to learn form other people like we all must one must get over their own ideas of cultural norms in a broad community such as this one.

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ORIGINAL: Oumae

Lol! Got to love the irony of a Dom posting giving out about other Dom/mes wanting things their way instead of his way.

Oumae

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I have to say, I'm a little taken back by this posters condescension towards Dominants as a whole in regards to the fact that she doesn't feel that she should have to attain or adhere to certain standards or practices in order to be with them. Isn't that sort of an absurd notion being as to many the entire relationship is based upon the following of rules and the need to obey and do what is expected of you. In terms of them being petty, I would say they would be no more petty than any other faction of humanity. Certain people have certain aesthetic, behavioristic and/or idealistic requirements to match up in their own minds with what they desire and enjoy and why would that ever possibly be a bad thing? If you feel outcasted because you didn't meet up with the expectations of someone, that doesn't make them petty, it makes you an improper match. So just move along and hope to find someone whose expecations and needs you are able to meet. It really isn't some intrinsic fault within the system or the people within it

afmvdp

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And sorry lady who wants to spray me with troll be gone but glenda gave me these ruby slippers and told me BAD witches cant hurt me while I wear them.

riskrewarded

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I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them. This sort of provincial thinking really is devisive and petty.

People have differing taste and likes, if one sets things up to their own liking and expects others to just change if they enter their own little world, that world will be very bland indeed.

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ORIGINAL: afmvdp

I have to say, I'm a little taken back by this posters condescension towards Dominants as a whole in regards to the fact that she doesn't feel that she should have to attain or adhere to certain standards or practices in order to be with them...

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ORIGINAL: riskrewarded

I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them. This sort of provincial thinking really is devisive and petty.
It makes it so hard for people with differing cultures and attitudes to relate and form a community.
This sort of small town thinking isnt very effective especially on the internet where one is bound to meet people who have different tastes and proceedures for doing just about everything.
The pendants will say, oh if only they did things properly!!, oh if only they read the rules!!
People have differing taste and likes, if one sets things up to their own liking and expects others to just change if they enter their own little world, that world will be very bland indeed.
I was raised in Michigan so I understand that small town mindset but a community of people with differing ideas and ways of doing things is such a joy if we are just not so myopic as to insist on comformity.

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Huih? Have you read my profile? Have you read my posts? What do you base these insults on?

candystripper

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I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them. This sort of provincial thinking really is devisive and petty.

People have differing taste and likes, if one sets things up to their own liking and expects others to just change if they enter their own little world, that world will be very bland indeed.

i think we all create our own little worlds reflective of our belief systems and how we think. i think if we try to be all things to all people just for the sake of including everyone, that is the ingredient for blandness.
i think its perfectly ok for people to accept their own differences then find compatible people to surround ourselves with.

i think the words tolerance and acceptance are misunderstood concepts...it doesnt mean we have to embrace everything and everyone, it just means to leave others be to the way they wish to live their lives to me. it doesnt mean we have to all live the same.

Essentially i am saying, that by calling people petty for not desiring people in their lives that are too different in belief and way of life, i think you are expressing exactly what you are accusing others of.

If however, people have created their own little world and expect everyone to conform to it generally, thats an unhealthy attitude..but if its simply, you cant enter my life unless you are compatible with it...then i just put that down to someone who knows themself...and if you dont fit...dont force it...find someone you do fit with.

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ORIGINAL: riskrewarded

Maybe Im not clear but Im talking in more of a community sense, and in the BDSM community dont we learn from people quite unlike ourselves?

One of my favorite discussions at TES in New York was led by a lesbian butch Domme, I dont see how anyone can think excluding her knowledge and input would be positive simply because of predetermined ideas about this womans sexual orientation.

Expanding ones horizons to include other points of view does not mean one must forsake their own or not be self realized as many posters here seem to suggest.

In my experience either one gains knowledge or they become less wise, if one decides they have all the knowledge they ever need and others can just piss off to me that is very petty.

I dont see how having this opinion in fact would make me petty, that sounds like fairly circular logic and invalid.

Feeling that one can stay in their own little hole and never deal with the rest of the world is fairly unlikely in todays world.

To me its seems that alot of the posters on this thread are equating Dominance with self imposed ignorance.

Im just as in my own box as anyone here but if one doesnt attempt to get outside their own self I dont see what kind of wisdom they can offer a submisive or anyone for that matter.

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Lol! Got to love the irony of a Dom posting giving out about other Dom/mes wanting things their way instead of his way.
Oumae

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ORIGINAL: riskrewarded


Maybe Im not clear but Im talking in more of a community sense, and in the BDSM community dont we learn from people quite unlike ourselves?

One of my favorite discussions at TES in New York was led by a lesbian butch Domme, I dont see how anyone can think excluding her knowledge and input would be positive simply because of predetermined ideas about this womans sexual orientation.

Expanding ones horizons to include other points of view does not mean one must forsake their own or not be self realized as many posters here seem to suggest.

In my experience either one gains knowledge or they become less wise, if one decides they have all the knowledge they ever need and others can just piss off to me that is very petty.

I dont see how having this opinion in fact would make me petty, that sounds like fairly circular logic and invalid.

Feeling that one can stay in their own little hole and never deal with the rest of the world is fairly unlikely in todays world.

To me its seems that alot of the posters on this thread are equating Dominance with self imposed ignorance.

Im just as in my own box as anyone here but if one doesnt attempt to get outside their own self I dont see what kind of wisdom they can offer a submisive or anyone for that matter.

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I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them. This sort of provincial thinking really is devisive and petty.
It makes it so hard for people with differing cultures and attitudes to relate and form a community.