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RE: Need advice- what have you girlies done? what would... - 9/18/2008 12:37:05 PM

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Unless I am missing something, there is NOTHING to suggest in this thread that he 'zoomed in on her as a minor'. That is just people jumping to concluesions. As for all the other stuff, that too is second guessing another person instead of sticking to what we actually know and thats not helpful.
Shes 18 and? By 16 I had left home and living with someone, by 18 I was engaged to a man 5 years my senior and at 19 married for over 15 years to that man whom I consider to be one of my best friends still. So are you suggesting that my life and all I have done is a mistake? Because I sure as hell don't.
Sure, some people grow old and get jaded, but why do people have to inflict that on someone just starting out in life? Lets give out a bit of positivity for a change - at 18 she might not have age on her side, but there are a hell of enough 40+ people who don't have experience either and are probably less mature than some half their age.
Have you even read her profile? Or his? Neither strike me as negative in any way in comparrison to some you can go read and they both come across as pretty fun loving and just enjoying life.

Many people should take a leaf out of their books IMO and lighten up. I swear, if I become as negative and jaded as some of the responses people give on here, I would just give up and become a nun. And that aint going to happen anytime soon. I sometimes wonder if people even enjoy relationships and all that you can discover from them.

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RE: Need advice- what have you girlies done? what would... - 9/18/2008 3:08:33 PM

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My advice is much the same as others safety first. I am not saying ths man is a bad man but it is always good to be safe. I would suggest you do the meet in a public place, what if it turns out not like you thought it would be? Do you really want to be alone with this guy in a room. All that said it may turn out wonderful. I myself met Master in a Starbucks and we talked for ther next 3 days for 15 hours. Of course we had the luxury of living 2 towns away from each other. I guess my main advice to you is be safe and have fun.

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RE: Need advice- what have you girlies done? what would... - 9/18/2008 3:37:29 PM

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RE: Need advice- what have you girlies done? what would... - 9/18/2008 3:54:41 PM

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This is the main reason I don't usually chime in on these types of questions. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. I think everyone here is giving the best advice they know how to give. The OP is a young girl who asked for advice and what other, older submissives would do in this situation and that's what's being given. Some will say have "safety checks" in place and some will say to trust your instinct. The ultimate decision of what will be done is hers but everyone's advice has a place, no matter what it is.

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RE: Need advice- what have you girlies done? what would... - 9/18/2008 4:04:34 PM

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I shared with the OP the same advice I would share with one of my daughters. I am all for having fun, and taking risks and being able to come out on the other side and go "whew! That was FUN!" And I agree not every 18 year old is not the same, some are very level-headed and grownup, and there are plenty of people out there that are well past middle-aged that don't have the sense God gave a junebug. I myself was married, with a child, in my own home by the age of 19. And stayed that way for 13 years. However, I will stand by the sound advice that was given here, I don't think that any one of us is trying to be a downer, but instead trying to share some of our wisdom that is the benefit of life experience.

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RE: Need advice- what have you girlies done? what would... - 9/18/2008 8:21:55 PM

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Well said Katy. Not including my times as a sex worker, I've met tons of people from online and had sex with them, invited them to my home, went to hotels privately with them...all before I was 21. My mother was fairly livid the first time, I was 18 and hadn't started college yet. He was 31 from Idaho. So I hid the rest from her.

I agree it's silly to try and suggest you have a connection before you meet and form a connection. You have what you have now, you have no idea what that will become in a few months or years. If you can trust your judgement, then there's no problem.

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