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ORIGINAL: subenchanted

It was him, or someone pretending to be him. Same height, weight, age, town, similar profile text. I wrote to him asking about it and he claimed someone was imitating him. And, magic, presto, the profile disappeared almost certainly faster than the webmasters could ever have arranged.

There are some things that he's written that make me somewhat uneasy, but perhaps he's just had a lot of bad luck in life.

His first wife left him for another woman after aborting his child. His second wife cheated on him, but he stayed with her anyway through a huge health crisis that left her disabled. A few years later she filed for divorce, winning their Vermont country house and all assets because of her disability -- only to be magically healed the day after the decree signing at which point she got a full-time job.

Once freed from marriage he had a sub in every city. He ultimately choosing one of the many who had a drinking problem. Then came a "slave" who wanted more of the whip than he apparently preferred to dish out but he stuck with her for nearly a year anyway. That "romance" overlapped the previous relationship. Quick on the heels of that came his romance with a woman he got got pregnant. Her wealthy mother got so disapproved of his long hair and his politics that she launched a campaign to badger and bribe her into ditching him. This caused such emotional stress that the woman miscarried and refused to ever see him again. On top of all this, he also says that he's being discriminated against by the many women in charge of hiring free-lance artists.

So I'm not just worried about the duplicate profiles. This is a guy who writes a lot about how much he wants someone to cherish, yet I have this uneasy feeling he might not like women very much at all. They certainly seem to be the author of his every misfortune. Am I reading too much into all this? I'm away on a business trip and have a bad cold, so I'm not thinking very clearly and could use some feedback, if anyone has any.

Thanks in advance,

sub, enchanted

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'm sure YOU are the "special one."  Why would he act the same to you as he does to everyone else?

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ORIGINAL: subenchanted

There are some things that he's written that make me somewhat uneasy, but perhaps he's just had a lot of bad luck in life.

His first wife left him for another woman after aborting his child. His second wife cheated on him, but he stayed with her anyway through a huge health crisis that left her disabled. A few years later she filed for divorce, winning their Vermont country house and all assets because of her disability -- only to be magically healed the day after the decree signing at which point she got a full-time job.

Once freed from marriage he had a sub in every city. He ultimately choosing one of the many who had a drinking problem. Then came a "slave" who wanted more of the whip than he apparently preferred to dish out but he stuck with her for nearly a year anyway. That "romance" overlapped the previous relationship. Quick on the heels of that came his romance with a woman he got got pregnant. Her wealthy mother got so disapproved of his long hair and his politics that she launched a campaign to badger and bribe her into ditching him. This caused such emotional stress that the woman miscarried and refused to ever see him again. On top of all this, he also says that he's being discriminated against by the many women in charge of hiring free-lance artists.

So I'm not just worried about the duplicate profiles. This is a guy who writes a lot about how much he wants someone to cherish, yet I have this uneasy feeling he might not like women very much at all. They certainly seem to be the author of his every misfortune. Am I reading too much into all this? I'm away on a business trip and have a bad cold, so I'm not thinking very clearly and could use some feedback, if anyone has any.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: subenchanted
I've been having a fairly serious email conversation with a local dominant who has told me that he is writing to other women but telling them that he is serious about one (me). Four days ago I noticed that he created a new profile with roughly the same description but no picture, and removed his location from the one that I responded to. He's been using both quite actively, often at the same time.

I don't know what to make of this, but it strikes me as very odd. What in heaven's name is he up to?

Being a webmaster, and familiar with php forums, I will tell you that when you log into collarme, your cookies tell it who you are.  You cannot log 2 accounts at once from the same computer.  If you logged on account “A”, then open a new browser and logged account “B”, the moment you change pages, post or do anything with the A account, you would simply end up logged in twice under the B account.  The thought of using 2 separate computers with different cookies and logging 2 accounts is pretty strange.  I mean, you could log into chat rooms and carry on conversations with yourself.  If he starts sending chat requests to himself, you might consider finding someone more mentally stable. 

If you have never talked on the phone or met in person, I would think it more disconcerting he is “writing to other women telling them he is serious about you” than possible alt profiles he may or may not have created.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: subenchanted
I've been having a fairly serious email conversation with a local dominant who has told me that he is writing to other women but telling them that he is serious about one (me). Four days ago I noticed that he created a new profile with roughly the same description but no picture, and removed his location from the one that I responded to. He's been using both quite actively, often at the same time.

I don't know what to make of this, but it strikes me as very odd. What in heaven's name is he up to?

Being a webmaster, and familiar with php forums, I will tell you that when you log into collarme, your cookies tell it who you are.  You cannot log 2 accounts at once from the same computer.  If you logged on account “A”, then open a new browser and logged account “B”, the moment you change pages, post or do anything with the A account, you would simply end up logged in twice under the B account.  The thought of using 2 separate computers with different cookies and logging 2 accounts is pretty strange.  I mean, you could log into chat rooms and carry on conversations with yourself.  If he starts sending chat requests to himself, you might consider finding someone more mentally stable. 

If you have never talked on the phone or met in person, I would think it more disconcerting he is “writing to other women telling them he is serious about you” than possible alt profiles he may or may not have created.

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ORIGINAL: subenchanted



It was him, or someone pretending to be him. Same height, weight, age, town, similar profile text. I wrote to him asking about it and he claimed someone was imitating him. And, magic, presto, the profile disappeared almost certainly faster than the webmasters could ever have arranged.

There are some things that he's written that make me somewhat uneasy, but perhaps he's just had a lot of bad luck in life.

His first wife left him for another woman after aborting his child. His second wife cheated on him, but he stayed with her anyway through a huge health crisis that left her disabled. A few years later she filed for divorce, winning their Vermont country house and all assets because of her disability -- only to be magically healed the day after the decree signing at which point she got a full-time job.

Once freed from marriage he had a sub in every city. He ultimately choosing one of the many who had a drinking problem. Then came a "slave" who wanted more of the whip than he apparently preferred to dish out but he stuck with her for nearly a year anyway. That "romance" overlapped the previous relationship. Quick on the heels of that came his romance with a woman he got got pregnant. Her wealthy mother got so disapproved of his long hair and his politics that she launched a campaign to badger and bribe her into ditching him. This caused such emotional stress that the woman miscarried and refused to ever see him again. On top of all this, he also says that he's being discriminated against by the many women in charge of hiring free-lance artists.

So I'm not just worried about the duplicate profiles. This is a guy who writes a lot about how much he wants someone to cherish, yet I have this uneasy feeling he might not like women very much at all. They certainly seem to be the author of his every misfortune. Am I reading too much into all this? I'm away on a business trip and have a bad cold, so I'm not thinking very clearly and could use some feedback, if anyone has any.

Thanks in advance,

sub, enchanted

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ORIGINAL: subenchanted

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

If the new profile isn't from the same area, has no picture, doesn't have a lot of the same details - then maybe it isn't him. Maybe someone else generally copied from it to make their own profile.

You could make a second profile of your own and email his second, proving that neither of you are to be trusted. The easier way is to simply say that since he says he's more interested in you than in anyone else he's been speaking to, you would now like to meet for coffee next weekend. And then decide based on how you feel once you've met.

Until you meet, it just isn't real, even though it can feel real.

It was him, or someone pretending to be him. Same height, weight, age, town, similar profile text. I wrote to him asking about it and he claimed someone was imitating him. And, magic, presto, the profile disappeared almost certainly faster than the webmasters could ever have arranged.

There are some things that he's written that make me somewhat uneasy, but perhaps he's just had a lot of bad luck in life.

His first wife left him for another woman after aborting his child. His second wife cheated on him, but he stayed with her anyway through a huge health crisis that left her disabled. A few years later she filed for divorce, winning their Vermont country house and all assets because of her disability -- only to be magically healed the day after the decree signing at which point she got a full-time job.

Once freed from marriage he had a sub in every city. He ultimately choosing one of the many who had a drinking problem. Then came a "slave" who wanted more of the whip than he apparently preferred to dish out but he stuck with her for nearly a year anyway. That "romance" overlapped the previous relationship. Quick on the heels of that came his romance with a woman he got got pregnant. Her wealthy mother got so disapproved of his long hair and his politics that she launched a campaign to badger and bribe her into ditching him. This caused such emotional stress that the woman miscarried and refused to ever see him again. On top of all this, he also says that he's being discriminated against by the many women in charge of hiring free-lance artists.

So I'm not just worried about the duplicate profiles. This is a guy who writes a lot about how much he wants someone to cherish, yet I have this uneasy feeling he might not like women very much at all. They certainly seem to be the author of his every misfortune. Am I reading too much into all this? I'm away on a business trip and have a bad cold, so I'm not thinking very clearly and could use some feedback, if anyone has any.

Thanks in advance,

sub, enchanted

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ORIGINAL: subenchanted

I've been having a fairly serious email conversation with a local dominant who has told me that he is writing to other women but telling them that he is serious about one (me). Four days ago I noticed that he created a new profile with roughly the same description but no picture, and removed his location from the one that I responded to. He's been using both quite actively, often at the same time.

I don't know what to make of this, but it strikes me as very odd. What in heaven's name is he up to?