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Slaveboiz -> Bikers to Baptist a note on protocols (11/30/2005 6:51:28 PM)
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“Bikers to Baptists”
By slave ziggy.
The word “protocol” seems to stir up a lot of conversation as to the correctness of some protocols over others, with little conversation about protocols and their over all intent, meaning or purpose.
Protocols, as we know them, are acceptable standards of behavior or actions within any given social structure. It is best know in the vanilla world as good manners.
As it pertains to the Master slave relationship, it is a set of expected behaviors that help shape and guide the relationship’s dynamics. It denotes the preferences of the Master, which is reflected in the slave’s behavior or interactions with the Master on a day to day basis.
Why do we have protocols?: Within the Master slave relationship protocols assist in creating the desired dynamics; by this I mean that they foster not only the mind set of the Master and the slave but also creates and sense of discipline and order that supports the Master slave dynamic. Without protocols creating an environment of discipline and order for the slave may be hard to achieve. In addition to the above; protocols also act as ritualistic behaviors which foster the connectedness between both the Master and the slave.
In our Master slave relationship we have found that protocols also serve as good manners for various social situations and so we have divided protocols into two main parts.
Personal protocols: Those standards or rules of behavior set by the Master as to the slave’s behavior while interacting with the Master which denotes the level of discipline and respect required by the Master. Some Masters have very elaborate protocols, while others have simple guideline for behavior. These protocols vary widely from Master to Master but all maintain the goal of respect, good order and a sense of discipline.
Whichever you choice we recommend making them not only doable but enforceable. We also recommend adding protocols to your relationship gradually rather then all at once. “It is better to add to your relationship then to subtract from it.”
Social protocols: Here is where many of us get into a quandary, while social protocols in the Master slave relationship are still unique to that relationship, they still must be doable with regards to any given social situation.
Whether we are at home or at a high leather function we are never without some form of protocol. The best protocols are either noticeable or not, depending on the desires of the Master. However, a protocol should be appropriate the situation and not cause undue attention. For example: At home I may not be allowed to sit on the furniture but while at a Munch at Shoney’s sitting at Mistress’ feet may not be appropriate for the environment and may cause undue attention to the group we are with.
It is because of this idea that protocols should fit any given situation; she developed a level system for social protocols to go along with her own personal protocols. These protocols are divided into four main parts: Here are some ideas of the levels one may use to get started.
Level One
1. The slave will observe all protocols established by Mistress in training. (To include the house rules.)
2. The slave shall address all Tops/Doms/ Masters as Sir or Ma’am.
3. The slave must ask permission before leaving Mistress’ presence.
3. Subslave may not engage in conversation or play of a D/s nature without the expressed permission of Mistress.
4. Sub/slave may socialize freely. However, he or she may not be gone for extended periods of time without checking in with Mistress periodically.
Level Two
1. The slave will observe all protocols established by Mistress in training. (To include the house rules.)
2. The slave must ask permission before leaving Mistress’ presence.
3. The slave may socialize freely for no longer then 20 minutes without checking in with Mistress.
4. The slave shall address all Tops/Doms/ Masters as Sir or Ma’am.
5. The slave may not engage in conversation or play of a D/s nature without the expressed permission of Mistress.
Level Three
1. The slave will observe all protocols established by Mistress in training. (To include the house rules.)
2. The slave must ask permission before leaving Mistress’ presence.
3. The slave may socialize freely for no longer then 15 minutes without checking in with Mistress.
4. The slave shall address all Tops/Doms/ Masters as Sir or Ma’am.
5. The slave may not engage in conversation or play of a D/s nature without the expressed permission of Mistress.
6. The slave will remain in attendance to Mistress at all times unless instructed to do otherwise.
7. The slave should remain within the line of sight of Mistress at all times while socializing.
Level four
1. The slave will observe all protocols established by Mistress in training. (To include the house rules.)
2. The slave must ask permission before leaving Mistress’ presence.
3. The slave may not speak unless spoken to.
4. The slave shall address all Tops/Doms/ Masters as Sir or Ma’am.
5. Sub/slave may not engage in conversation or play of a D/s nature without the expressed permission of Mistress.
6. The slave will remain in attendance to Mistress at all times unless instructed to do otherwise.
7. The slave should remain within the line of sight of Mistress at all times while socializing.
General ideas to consider:
1. No protocol should outweigh good judgment and or good common sense
2. The slave should realize that the levels of protocol are set by Master and can change from one level to another. The challenge for those who serve is that those changes in levels should be as fluid as service and only noticeable when the Master deems necessary.
Each of these protocol were devised to help the slave to move from one social interaction to another without losing the need or desire to maintain the Master slave dynamic.
As teachers in the community part of teaching is being accessible to others. Usually, the higher the protocol the less interactions that slave is allowed to have with others around him or her. This would seem counter productive to the over all goal of allowing people to know me, as a person, a slave and as a teacher. But still there is the expectation that some form of protocol is in place.
Most Master slave relationships follow this in some form or another. However because we have embarked on this wonderful journey of teaching we find it was necessary to define our levels of protocols so that we might share them more easily with others.
Again this is an idea for forming protocols that meet the needs of the situation and of the Master.
In conclusion, while developing levels of protocol remember to; one, make them doable two, create ones that foster the Master slave dynamics in a positive way and three make them fit as many social situations as possible.
Thank you for your time and consideration
slave ziggy
SE slave 2006
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