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newbie - 9/21/2008 4:56:18 AM

subthis1

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I'm very new to BDSM and I've had submissive tendencies all my life, but now recently have decided to pursue them. I can remember when I was young (too young) a neighbor friend and I talked about tying me to s tree so he could play with me.
Now, since my wife has no interest at all in BDSM, I need total discretion.

If anyone would like to discuss anything, please feel free to e-mail me and chat about things.

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RE: newbie - 9/21/2008 6:14:52 AM

wandersalone

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Sorry I realise you haven't asked this....however.... There are some good books which others will be able to give the names of that may help you to broach the subject once more with your wife. If you post on the Ask A Mistress forum you may be able to talk with other male subs who had this discussion with their wives and see how they went.

I wish you all the best and welcome to the forums.

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RE: newbie - 9/21/2008 10:14:45 AM

Deliena

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subthis1 hopefully you'll find a way to integrate BDSM into your life and do it in such a way as your wife can support you. You aren't the only person in the world with a partner who doesn't have an interest and there are people here with experience of how to live in a situation like yours. Welcome to CM

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RE: newbie - 9/21/2008 10:29:28 AM

barryjon

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hi am new submissive, married to a wife with no BDSM interest at all, have met and chatted with a Mistress and have been invited for a session with her on Wednesday. Its a whole new life and my head is in a spin!

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RE: newbie - 9/21/2008 10:51:44 AM

Mousefriend

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Hello I am new to my involvement in the scene but not new to the scene itself. I have alot of people in my life that are either doms or subs. Mostly doms. I never given my tendencies towards being a sub much thought until about a year ago. Personality wise I always seem very dominate but when it came to relationships I Hated being the one in control. After discussing this we a good friend who is a Mistress she helped me understand that I was a alpha submissive. In a group of subs I tend to be bossy and dominate. But what I was looking for was someone stronger in personality then myself. Unfortunately I am not sure how to proceed with is. I have been to a few events but I have difficultly break threw form a spectator to a potential participate. I guess I am just not sure how to do this safely and considerately.

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RE: newbie - 9/21/2008 8:47:31 PM

ResidentSadist

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Welcome aboard.
I used to live in Birmingham. Good to see you here.

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