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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/2/2005 12:00:25 AM   
Phoenxx


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Status: offline 		Since I work at home I do some of the house cleaning. The rest I make the kids do LOL...
However I do not fold clothes. They always look the same if I do. A round pile of cloth.
I do love to cook. And eat ;-)
I give fawn chores when I think they need being done and a time limit to get them done in. And punishment if they are not done on time.
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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/2/2005 4:18:27 AM   
sunshine333


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Status: offline 		i do all the domestic chores at my Master's house. i actually get offended if i see him doing something that i am, clearly, capable of doing. if we are both relaxing and he gets up to get a soda (which doesn't happen very often) i will feel like i'm not doing my job and get a little anxious over it.

i only work part time and he works a lot of hours. i like him (and he likes ) to come home to a clean house with food ready. i enjoy making his life easier and i'm pretty sure he appreciates this.

humbly,
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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/2/2005 7:58:41 AM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		Yes I'm the Dom and I help out with almost all the chores around the house. I also cook and she will come home to a candlelight dinner at least once a week. I'm retired and she's not. Besides I have much more important things for her to do when she's at home than mundane chores.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/2/2005 11:15:31 AM   
slavejali


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if we are both relaxing and he gets up to get a soda (which doesn't happen very often) i will feel like i'm not doing my job and get a little anxious over it.


i can relate to that feeling sunshine.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/2/2005 11:20:39 AM   
afmvdp


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Status: offline 		Call me old fashioned, but I'd rather work harder to make more in order for me not to have to even encounter that problem. I do well for myself but even if it required me to do better in order to take care of the bills, I would do so just to keep from having to worry about the domestics that my submissive would be far better skilled and prepared for.

I know for some it is an undeniable and they have no other choice but to do so, but I just feel that for myself, I would rather they worry about cleaning the house and I'll worry about financing it.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/3/2005 4:51:12 AM   
sunshine333


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Status: offline 		last night (the day after i made my post here), i was in the kitchen and heard the vacuum running in the living room. i ran in, assuming there must have been some emergency that couldn't wait the few seconds for me to get from one room to the next. i looked at my Master, obviously bewildered, and asked what he was doing. he said ... oh some of the ashes from the fire went onto the rug and i just wanted to get it up. i told him that i would have done that. he just smiled and said ... oh i know. and i'm not trying to bottom from the top, but i was here and just wanted it done.

we both cracked up.

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sunshine

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/3/2005 5:28:30 AM   
LadyCompassion


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quote:

1.How much does your Master/Mistress help around the home if at all?
2. Or if you dont have a Master/Mistress what are you expectations around domestic issues with potential partners?
3.Or if Your a Master?Mistress how much are you willing to do re domestics?


He and I generally share the workload becaue we are both equally busy with two jobs as well as college. We both think it is fair that way.

If he is busier than I am, I am more than willing to pull a little extra weight to make sure that things get done but I also make sure that he "repays" me for doing his share.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/3/2005 5:56:50 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		We are very much in that category of both working... we also both work very long hours.

Typically I am home first & I do all of the cooking. Since we have two teen daughters, dishes are done by them.

We share in Laundry. We will both wash when we have the chance & often we have to be content with a clean clothes pile.

We tend to do the shopping together. We have fun with it because it is actually a chance to spend some time together. When this weekly outing is sabotaged by a out-of-the-blue work related issue... we each just shop by cell phone & stop to pick up items on our way home from work.

It is our hopes that we will eventually meet with someone that would not only fill our personal needs as a partner in our poly family... but also that this person would be domestic based as far as household contribution. We expect that this won't take place for at least 5 more yrs. (until the kids mature)

In the meantime... household chores are not a sign of dominance or submission... they are an equally shared responsibility.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/3/2005 8:59:30 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		There are three adults in our house -- me, husband and slave -- so we divide chores three ways because it seems fair and the two of them work full time. Plus I was raised to be self efficient.

In general, Fox has taken some of what were my part of the chores and helps Tom with some of his.

So I clean our (Tom & I) bathroom while Fox gets his own.

I do 90% of the cooking though Fox helps 50% of the time and always sets the table. Tom does the dishes including putting them away after they are clean.

I do the laundry cause I'm very particular about how I want it done and I'm at home more and can do it -- everyone is responsible for putting away her/his own clothes; Fox does all the towels, he and Tom make the beds.

The guys divide the mowing and vaccuuming and dusting -- I do the mopping.

I am driving again (after a two year period of not being able to) so I go grocery shopping for 90% of our groceries -- the other 10% is at a coop once a week and Tom usually goes or Fox takes me. The guys bring in all the bags then Fox hands me things while I put them away because I have a system of where I want things to go.

In generally I see when things need doing, inform everyone what their job will be, set the times and dates and then they are done. Usually with the average amount of complaining from the spouse (why are vanilla relationships like this) but just a smile, a nod, and action from the slave.


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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/3/2005 10:01:46 AM   
ChereeAmoor


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Status: offline 		At our house, we all work, and I am pretty much the Cook. The household chores are mostly taken care of by the two teenagers we have still living here, and once they are gone I foresee three adults cleaning up after themselves. Master and slave is fun and all, but there is NO WAY that I am going to spend the rest of my life as the only person doing things like scrubbing the tub when I am not the only person using said tub.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/3/2005 10:35:49 AM   
cinnfulhussy


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Status: offline 		We both work outside the home full time. I do all the domestic chores, from grocery shopping to cooking to scrubbing the floors. He takes out the trash and does home repairs.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/3/2005 10:37:35 AM   
LadiesBladewing


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChereeAmoor

At our house, we all work, and I am pretty much the Cook.


I'm pretty much "the cook" at our house -- which is both good and bad. I enjoy cooking ... love it with a passion, in fact. I'm also a trained chef and chef de pâtisserie (pastry chef). I don't have much time to do it anymore (it's not part of my current outside work), but I still love it when I -can-.

OTOH, there are nights when I despise the whole idea of having to come home and cook. It would be really nice to have an alternative that -doesn't- involved fast food or restaurant take-out, or relegating the whole family to sandwiches or a salad.

Sometimes, good leadership means letting go of our stranglehold on things we love, in the interest of encouraging those whom we are guiding to strike out and take a chance and something that they might not do often or that they may feel like they don't do well. I've always been very possessive of the kitchen. One thing I'm looking forward to,though, which I think will benefit everyone in our household, is training our girl in some of our "family favorite" recipes, so she can do them confidently, since we've already seen how much joy it gives her to take care of us, and it comes with a bonus of becoming skilled in a new area. Good for her, good for us.

Lady Zephyr

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/4/2005 6:37:07 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		I have housekeepers and intend to continue when My sub moves in---that is for the cleaning, but we all (My teen and My sub) will help with the cooking, laundry--BUT to free up that pesky grocery shopping and persistent errand running is a dream---

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/4/2005 6:39:24 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Sometimes, good leadership means letting go of our stranglehold on things we love, in the interest of encouraging those whom we are guiding to strike out and take a chance and something that they might not do often or that they may feel like they don't do well. I've always been very possessive of the kitchen.

Yed LadiesBladewing, a lesson I had to learn when My teen wanted to learn to cook, it took Me awhile and now its a joy, I look only for subs who can and do like to cook so we can all take turns--

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/11/2005 9:49:00 AM   
clover


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Status: offline 		my Mistress and I share the domestic chores depending on who is working outside the home more. For example, in the past several months, school and homework has taken about 50 hours/wk. for me, while she worked from home about 20 hours/wk, so she has been doing most of the household chores.
Now that I'm out for a few weeks until next semester starts and she is starting a new job, I'll be doing most of the chores.
It's always worked out really well. She's good at everything I'm not, like cooking. Her pet peeves are clutter and general mess (like a pile of clothes waiting to be folded), and I'm the detail cleaner. The dust on a light fixture bothers me more than a cluttered desktop. So we each do what we're good at and it seems very natural.
Unfortunately, the new job is going to keep her away from home more than 300 days of the year, so the really hard part is going to come when school starts again and I'm left to take care of the house. But I don't mind, really. I'll need something to keep me busy while she's gone, anyway, and it will make me happy to give her a clean, relaxing home to return to after a long trip.

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RE: Helping with domestics? - 12/11/2005 9:52:30 PM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		the Owner takes care of all money matters and paying of bills. He takes care of anything vehicle related. He supervises all yard work. He carries in groceries and does anything requiring heavy lifting or major muscle power. He is in charge of the garage, killing spiders and bringing stray lizards back outside. I do everything else :)

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