Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: my take on financial domination


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: my take on financial domination Page: <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/24/2008 6:23:46 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline
I've known a few dominants who incorporated financial domination in their relationship, even been owned by a few.  It's not that "out" because male doms using their slaves in financial ways is very "icky" to heterosexuals who mainly want a stereotypical old fashioned relationship where the woman is a kept spoiled "strong" pet.

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to tazzygirl)
Profile   Post #: 81
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/24/2008 8:24:15 PM   
CruelDesires


Posts: 824
Joined: 11/20/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

i have a follow up question

the "tributes" that are paid.. what happens to that money?


The money I get pays for my World Of Warcraft and Everquest accounts and my X-box live.

C-D

_____________________________

Reputation is what other people know about you. Honor is what you know about yourself.
Lois McMaster Bujold, "A Civil Campaign", 1999

(in reply to tazzygirl)
Profile   Post #: 82
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/24/2008 9:05:26 PM   
DomDolf


Posts: 363
Joined: 7/11/2008
Status: offline
BIG DISCLAIMER...... Quick reply- Not directed at any one person-  but the mentality. If I don't mention your name then I do not know you well enough to form a complete opinion of you.

If you stop seeing someone because they cannot provide tribute to you then you are a prostitute. In my opinion, you are also a scum bag and deserve to be bitch slapped with a baseball bat just like all those people that take advantage of the elderly and mentally ill. You have become nothing more than an "uncommon" thief. NOTHING disgusts me more than selfish, one-way, masked BS like this. Talk it up all you want it's a lie and those promoting it are mental amoebas, in my opinion.

Now, before some snot nosed teenager or some other slime ball pretending to have a clue comes at me as if I am the idiot, let me warn you I am not the one to play punk ass with. I have stated my opinion, suck it up and drive on. My opinion has ZERO chance of changing on this topic.

Dolf

< Message edited by DomDolf -- 9/24/2008 9:20:38 PM >

(in reply to CruelDesires)
Profile   Post #: 83
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/24/2008 9:24:08 PM   
NuevaVida


Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

i have a follow up question

the "tributes" that are paid.. what happens to that money?


Well, surely it's reported at tax time. 

_____________________________

Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.



(in reply to tazzygirl)
Profile   Post #: 84
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/24/2008 10:12:10 PM   
zakkan


Posts: 606
Joined: 4/15/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DomDolf

If you stop seeing someone because they cannot provide tribute to you then you are a prostitute. In my opinion, you are also a scum bag and deserve to be bitch slapped with a baseball bat just like all those people that take advantage of the elderly and mentally ill. You have become nothing more than an "uncommon" thief. NOTHING disgusts me more than selfish, one-way, masked BS like this. Talk it up all you want it's a lie and those promoting it are mental amoebas, in my opinion.


WELL SAID
It seems someone is using this thread to find potential clients too.


_____________________________

Silence! I keel you!

(in reply to DomDolf)
Profile   Post #: 85
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/24/2008 11:36:36 PM   
Lynnxz


Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DomDolf

BIG DISCLAIMER...... Quick reply- Not directed at any one person-  but the mentality. If I don't mention your name then I do not know you well enough to form a complete opinion of you.

If you stop seeing someone because they cannot provide tribute to you then you are a prostitute. In my opinion, you are also a scum bag and deserve to be bitch slapped with a baseball bat just like all those people that take advantage of the elderly and mentally ill. You have become nothing more than an "uncommon" thief. NOTHING disgusts me more than selfish, one-way, masked BS like this. Talk it up all you want it's a lie and those promoting it are mental amoebas, in my opinion.

Now, before some snot nosed teenager or some other slime ball pretending to have a clue comes at me as if I am the idiot, let me warn you I am not the one to play punk ass with. I have stated my opinion, suck it up and drive on. My opinion has ZERO chance of changing on this topic.

Dolf


I so called it!

-Snot nosed slimeball


_____________________________

HBIC



(in reply to DomDolf)
Profile   Post #: 86
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 6:51:56 AM   
CreativeDominant


Posts: 11032
Joined: 3/11/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

i have a follow up question

the "tributes" that are paid.. what happens to that money?


Well, surely it's reported at tax time. 


Yeah...righhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhht.    And tis almost time for Santy Claus.

(in reply to NuevaVida)
Profile   Post #: 87
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 6:55:34 AM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline
Wouldn't that be a hoot?  She boots him because he stops paying that "voluntary tribute" (yeah yeah, don't get me started on the definition of "tribute"), and he sends her a 1099-MISC for miscellaneous income at the end of the year.  Bwah hah hah hah hah.


Cali


_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to CreativeDominant)
Profile   Post #: 88
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 6:57:20 AM   
CreativeDominant


Posts: 11032
Joined: 3/11/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Wouldn't that be a hoot?  She boots him because he stops paying that "voluntary tribute" (yeah yeah, don't get me started on the definition of "tribute"), and he sends her a 1099-MISC for miscellaneous income at the end of the year.  Bwah hah hah hah hah.


Cali



It would be a hoot...and you know what makes it funnier?  I have a feeling that if she'd have a BUNCH of them to fill out... 

(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 89
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 6:57:23 AM   
NuevaVida


Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline
Now, would it be claimed as charity or payment for services rendered, I wonder? 

_____________________________

Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.



(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 90
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 8:13:42 AM   
marieToo


Posts: 3595
Joined: 5/21/2006
From: Jersey
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DomDolf

If you stop seeing someone because they cannot provide tribute to you then you are a prostitute.


I'm not a big fan of tribute seekers myself.  But prostition involves sex.  From what I understand these "Pros" don't have sex with their clients.  If they do, and take money for it, then I would agree that they are prostitutes.


quote:

In my opinion, you are also a scum bag and deserve to be bitch slapped with a baseball bat just like all those people that take advantage of the elderly and mentally ill. You have become nothing more than an "uncommon" thief. NOTHING disgusts me more than selfish, one-way, masked BS like this. Talk it up all you want it's a lie and those promoting it are mental amoebas, in my opinion.


I used to feel this way too, with regard to both the tribute seekers who provide professional services, and also those in personal relationships in which one gives the other their money as a form of service.  In some cases of course I do think that weak-minded individuals are being exploited.  And I find that kind of sad for those who believe they cannot find love or fulfillment without paying for it.  But what about those who do this willingly?

Let's say a sub male goes to a pro domme and pays her to get slapped around and degraded,  all he did was purchase a service.  And all she did was provide one in exchange for payment.  As long as the client is a willing particpant who went out of his way to seek this service out, I can't see this as exploitation no matter what angle I look at it from.  I personally wouldn't patronize a pro, nor would I choose that career path for myself, but if it floats their boats who are they hurting if both parties (client and pro) are happy with the arrangement?

As far as people who exist in relationships where one takes the other's money, and a weak-minded individual is being unwittingly victimized  by someone less than ethical, I agree the baseball bat should fly. lol.  On the other hand, someone might actually feel objectified when they go to work and hand over their money to their partner.  And maybe objectification is their particular bent.

The fact that I don't think financial domination is prudent keeps me from being involved in it, but then a lot people might say that about breath play too, or about any of the stuff we do.  Sure, there's some risk to this, but shouldn't it be up to the individual how much calculated risk they are willing to take in order to realize their desires?

Honestly, a while back I would have reacted just like you did, thinking only about the victims who are out there, but there are those who are doing this by choice for whatever their reasons. 

And the implication on this thread that people who engage in this practice must be guilty of tax evasion is perhaps the greatest stereotypical judgment I've seen here yet.  

_____________________________

marie.


I give good agita.









(in reply to DomDolf)
Profile   Post #: 91
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 8:41:30 AM   
DeviantLady


Posts: 38
Joined: 9/12/2006
Status: offline
So the Domme that is into FD or asks for a tribute for her time is a prostitute or wrong?

However, the same Dom/me that asks for sexual favours from someone who is not their sub or infact who is that is okay? So it is only money that is the problem. Personally I think that the Dom/mes that say I am a Dom/me come suck my dick or fuck me because I am dominant and you will sexually please me are the ones that are sick and wrong.

(in reply to marieToo)
Profile   Post #: 92
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 8:59:21 AM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DeviantLady
So the Domme that is into FD or asks for a tribute for her time is a prostitute or wrong?


Ask or require?  Usually it's "require."  If nothing else, she certainly has a poor grasp of the English language.  You cannot "require" a tribute, which is a gift; the act of requirement negates the definition of "tribute".


Cali


_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to DeviantLady)
Profile   Post #: 93
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 9:05:14 AM   
Lynnxz


Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline
Ooo wait.. .what if a financial domme pays a financial domme for an hour of her time?

Does the world implode out of sheer greed and snotnosery? There's so much evil and mental ameboing going on, I'd think it'd be much like the Hadron Collider going off.


_____________________________

HBIC



(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 94
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 10:08:02 AM   
Venatrix


Posts: 2238
Joined: 11/28/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DeviantLady

So the Domme that is into FD or asks for a tribute for her time is a prostitute or wrong?



Actually, the definition of prostitution is really quite simple.  Let's assume a traditional male paying the female for sex situation.  If the woman will only have sex with the man if he gives her money, it's prostitution.  If you want to tart it up by calling it financial domination or tribute, it's still prostitution.  If no sex is involved, it's not prostitution. 

I've never asked for money for my time.  I wouldn't cheapen my dominance by selling it as a commodity that can be bought by the highest bidder.

(in reply to DeviantLady)
Profile   Post #: 95
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 10:14:40 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: mistressbadgirl

There is a great debate when it comes to the subject of Financial Domination. To some its veiwed simply as thievery( per a profile i read earlier) and/or prostitution(as read in many others). In MY opinionI believe those opinions give the submisive a way to top from the bottom.( for those that dont know what t In the true nature of submission, the submissive is required to be obidient and never question the desires of his Owner. Anytime the submissive is awarded the valuble time of a Dominant he/she should treat it as the honor it is.  Gifts/tribute is only a way for a slave to show his appreciation for even being taken on as a submissive in the first place.



Submitting to me, serving me........is tribute enough. I am not a Paypal dominant.

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to mistressbadgirl)
Profile   Post #: 96
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 11:00:10 AM   
zakkan


Posts: 606
Joined: 4/15/2008
Status: offline
I wonder... Are there any male financial doms?

_____________________________

Silence! I keel you!

(in reply to LaTigresse)
Profile   Post #: 97
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 11:35:15 AM   
CreativeDominant


Posts: 11032
Joined: 3/11/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: zakkan

I wonder... Are there any male financial doms?


I asked the same question...GT said her ex was one but she noted that he was the house dominant at the club and wasn't sure when I asked whether or not the tribute he got was for being house dominant OR from his submissives.

I know that I have yet to see a male dominant come on here and claim to be in financial domination.

(in reply to zakkan)
Profile   Post #: 98
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 11:36:59 AM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline
I've seen a few profiles of British doms that mention training for pay... does that count?

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to CreativeDominant)
Profile   Post #: 99
RE: my take on financial domination - 9/25/2008 11:37:28 AM   
zakkan


Posts: 606
Joined: 4/15/2008
Status: offline
Oh dear... 

If the OP meets a male financial dom, its going to get really interesting.


_____________________________

Silence! I keel you!

(in reply to CreativeDominant)
Profile   Post #: 100
Page:   <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: my take on financial domination Page: <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.168