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A very nice problem - 9/23/2008 8:53:37 AM

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When I don't have someone to play with, I put that part of my brain in sleep mode. Play can be anything from a submissive man to just talk with and be friendly, to full on scenes. Obviously I don't own anyone at the moment and I'm still looking.

I met a very nice man that I've been talking to on CM Sunday evening for a late dinner when he drove through my area on his way to his new duty station. We stayed up for hours talking, laughing, having serious conversations. I had a blast and I'd like to think he did as well. I'm hoping we stay in contact after he gets settled into his new place.

My problem? He kicked that sleeping part of my brain into over drive. I'd say on a scale from 1-10 my frustration level is about an eight. What do you do when you don't have anyone to play with and get out your ideas and frustrations on? I know it will go away, but if there's any advice you might have on how to distract myself, it's appreciated.

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RE: A very nice problem - 9/23/2008 9:10:59 AM

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One option is to masturbate ;-)

I went to this class about chakras and the like a few years ago. And the instructor discouraged us from fantasizing or masturbating without permission about a person one is just getting to know. The reason was that the person could energetically pick up on it and could feel uncomfortable by it. She asked us if we have liked someone and then spontaneously developed an uncomfortable feeling towards the person, and suggested that this phenomenon is what must have occurred.

I have no position about whether or not such occurs due to energies and chakras (I expect any such spontaneous change in feelings has more to do with emotional intelligence and instincts which influence chemistry felt) but it has become a rule I often observe.

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RE: A very nice problem - 9/23/2008 9:11:41 AM

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When I don't have someone to play with, I put that part of my brain in sleep mode. Play can be anything from a submissive man to just talk with and be friendly, to full on scenes. Obviously I don't own anyone at the moment and I'm still looking.

I met a very nice man that I've been talking to on CM Sunday evening for a late dinner when he drove through my area on his way to his new duty station. We stayed up for hours talking, laughing, having serious conversations. I had a blast and I'd like to think he did as well. I'm hoping we stay in contact after he gets settled into his new place.

My problem? He kicked that sleeping part of my brain into over drive. I'd say on a scale from 1-10 my frustration level is about an eight. What do you do when you don't have anyone to play with and get out your ideas and frustrations on? I know it will go away, but if there's any advice you might have on how to distract myself, it's appreciated.

Writing fantasies...especially very long, drawn out outrageous ones...
Masturbation
Going to the gym/working out
Phone sex

Just a few of the ways I deal with it. I love being in that mood though..
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RE: A very nice problem - 9/23/2008 9:22:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

One option is to masturbate ;-)

I went to this class about chakras and the like a few years ago. And the instructor discouraged us from fantasizing or masturbating without permission about a person one is just getting to know. The reason was that the person could energetically pick up on it and could feel uncomfortable by it. She asked us if we have liked someone and then spontaneously developed an uncomfortable feeling towards the person, and suggested that this phenomenon is what must have occurred.

I have no position about whether or not such occurs due to energies and chakras (I expect any such spontaneous change in feelings has more to do with emotional intelligence and instincts which influence chemistry felt) but it has become a rule I often observe.

Cheers,

Sea

TMI time! I don't ever think about a specific person when 'doing the deed'. I'll read some erotica or something but have never been able to focus on one person and what I'd like to do with them. I do think your answer is interesting, though. I've always been curious about those sorts of things but don't know of any classes or groups on my area.

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Writing fantasies...especially very long, drawn out outrageous ones...
Masturbation
Going to the gym/working out
Phone sex

Just a few of the ways I deal with it. I love being in that mood though..
Akasha

All very good ideas, thank you. :)

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RE: A very nice problem - 9/23/2008 7:25:34 PM

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I'm happy. He contacted me earlier to ask if I'd be interested in going hiking with him. We've made plans and I know we're going to have a blast. We are not interested in pushing anything anywhere in any hurry, but it will be nice to be with someone like him since we seem to understand each other as well as two people can with limited contact. Can the week get any better?

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RE: A very nice problem - 9/24/2008 11:03:05 AM

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How can you have phone sex if these women won't give you their phone number. undergoundsea I believe your instructor was right.

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RE: A very nice problem - 9/24/2008 3:11:33 PM

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I have to agree with Akasha... write and post, us HNG's need wank material; oops, i mean the trolls need fodder.

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RE: A very nice problem - 9/24/2008 4:59:23 PM

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