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housemouse61 -> RE: Can a skilled Dominant be sufficient to help a sub with a drug problem? (9/24/2008 4:58:46 PM)
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If i may expand on SailingBum's reply...
They do, indeed, need professional help. BUT, they also need to *want* and be willing to accept that help. And they need a strong support system of *new* friends and family to stand behind them and encourage every step of the way. One of the main factors that cause addicts to relapse is that it is often difficult for them to change their "people, places and playthings". And in that capacity, alone, a Dominant can be helpful by introducing the addicted to sub to friends who don't use and can be supportive of the addict's desire to get clean and sober. However, in my opinion, a Dominant should never take on a sub in a D/s relationship as the potential for "trap doors" is too great. In the capacity of supportive Friend, a Dominant can do wonders. But, to pursue a relationship with a submissive with addiction issues could actually do more harm than good in the long run.
People tend to change when they are coming off of addiction: even their personality. Drugs and alcohol distort a person's perception of reality and when they get clean that, too, changes perception. It also changes emotional make-up. What was needed during the "clean-up" process may no longer be needed once the addict has succeeded in getting clean. And during this time, it's not unusual for addicts to want to face life on it's own terms w/o a human "crutch".
As a Dominant, One can be supportive, encouraging and can even help with some of the "leg work" to get the addicted submissive to the professional help he/she needs to get clean.
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