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Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 10:38:11 AM   
RuleMyWorld


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Status: offline 		What started me out on my journey (possibly like most of us?) was fantasizing about either submitting or dominating another individual.  These fantasies gave me an incredible sexual rush.  The desire for the fulfillment of these sexual rushes gave way to scenarios that I would hope to expereince with my partner.  Sometimes the reality of actually playing out these scenarios are not as exciting as the fantasy of thinking about them.  Sometimes they can be downright....."Holy shit, what was I thinking???" However they have all had the anticipation of being fun.....So, I guess I am wondering, how many are here for the fun of it?....for the sexual rush of it?  Those "do me, and I'll do you" funsters.  Anybody want this to be fun AND sexual at the same time???? Two people just exploring each others desires on both sides of the dom/sub dynamic without all the protocol bullshit (sorry to all who love that protocol bullshit). Slogging through some of these profiles, wow, there are some of you that take this way to seriously!.....not that that's a bad thing.  If it turns your crank, go for it.


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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 10:45:10 AM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		I have always been in it for the fun.  When it stops being fun whatever I'm doing.  I stop doing it.  It's not rocket science folks.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 11:37:08 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		just because someone lives D/s as a way of life and personal philosophy, rather than focuses on Top/bottom play and BDSM activities, does not mean that their lives or relationships are lacking in fun. but for me it is not about what "turns my crank" but what makes me feel whole and allows me to live a life of purpose and truth.

this weekend my Master and i will be going to an amusement park...that will be fun, lots of fun, i've been looking forward to it for ages. but sex? sex is about use and service, and it is for the pleasure of my Master or whatever man i have been called to serve. sex any other way just wouldn't feel right.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 11:57:36 AM   
djaleksandr


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Status: offline 		If it's not fun, I'm not into it. End of story.

Who says it shouldn't be fun?

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 12:07:53 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Sometimes we do errands, sometimes we have fun. Some stuff is to drive home a point and other stuff isn't.
We're not protocol or ritual minded but neither is d/s to us b.s., it is simply natural for him to take the lead and me to follow. Which doesn't negate us from having fun while he's in charge.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 12:10:45 PM   
PrincessJ77


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Status: offline 		I couldn't get into the protocol either.  I just giggled when others asked why I didn't refer to him as Master or Sir.  Sir Grumpsalot and Master Poopyhead got me a caning I never forgot.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 12:14:22 PM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		While I agree that there is room for plenty of fun and that being enmeshed in a D/s dynamic does not equate to there NOT being fun, for me D/s is where I want to live.  I like the ritual and the protocol and the acting like a normal couple and feel that it can all be mixed.  Yes, I agree...there are some who look at every little bit and piece and make it too serious on the side that shouldn't be...witness my posts on the "Eroticism of a sub..." thread BUT if it is all about fun all the time, then like anything else...from hot rods to motorcycles to reading...it would get pretty dull and fluffy.  If you are really into hot rods and having a nice one, you can buy it...but that takes work.  If you are really into hot rods and having a nice one, you can build it...but that takes work.  While work can be fun sometimes, it isn't always so.  The same holds true for relationships...while they can be...and should be...fun most of the time, it takes work to keep them that way and sometimes, the work isn't always fun.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 12:35:20 PM   
chiaThePet


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For myself, watching the amusement plastered across my Dominants face
after the nails are pulled out and I struggle to stay within the lines of the
paint by numbers canvas with my streaming, spurting blood is priceless.

Good times.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 12:48:07 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Who's to say protocol isn't fun for some people? 

We don't screw around with it- but both of us are of the firm opinion of "If it feels good, do it!" 

We are both bad for bringing new things home, and surprising the other with it- and the other day, we raided a medical warehouse for goodies.

Yum yum.

If BDSM was a drag, I wouldn't do it. No use forcing anything.


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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 12:55:41 PM   
E2Sweet


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Status: offline 		I like fun and I'd also like to experience some protocol and such too. Actually, I'd pretty much like to experience the gamut.

Don't be so hasty to disregard others' kinks as bullshit. In the OP that bit of advise indeed reads sort of on the funny side, but if you're serious about that, then you're probably going to piss some people off. So, in reply to your assertion that others need to take this 'less seriously', I'd say "Bite me", but that invitation is reserved for those who don't show up here and tell other people how to (and how not to) explore their own kinks.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 1:44:11 PM   
RuleMyWorld


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Status: offline 		Being the OP, I did not say some have to take it less seriously or even assert that.  I said some people take it way too serious...and in that respect lower the "fun" level.  I for one can understand a kink, as I am sure we all can in this lifestyle.  Some I want to do and some I would not touch with a 10 foot pole (not that I have anything against 10 foot poles)  Yeah, sometimes you just can't help pissing some people off when you offer your opinion. We're all different.  I'm just looking for the fun.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 1:47:52 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		I want it all - fun, seriousness, intensity, frivolity, love, lust, passion, goofiness, sex, roughness, gentleness, companionship, alone time, etc.  A healthy balance of the above and more would be ideal for me.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 1:54:57 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Still early on, but thus far I am having the time of my life! 

Take:  One Dominant Female and One Submissive Bunny Boy
Place:  Dominant Female and Subbie Boy in Wyoming Wilderness with food, tent, wine, and toy bag
Mix: Wind & Rain that traps said participants in tent for 3+ hours with toy bag
Enjoy: The Fun! 


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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 2:10:10 PM   
suessub


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Status: offline 		The fun goes out as the ego gets involved. The 'bad' seriousness arrives when it all becomes a matter of proving yourslef to be the Dom-ist Dom or the subby-ist sub. When the play and activities are underaken merely to re-enforce a chosen identity.

The 'fun' seriousness is about developing D/s dynamic in a growing relationship. Too much just playfulness may led a healthy relationship down a bad path. It's likes taking a hard hike to get to a breathtaking overlooking. Be too playful n the path and someone gets hurt (and not in a good way). But the fun comes about after the work.

This says nothing of those that instead chose to drive up to the closer overlook for a different view. All have fun. And perhaps the driving type, after awhile, decide to try the harder hikes. And the hikers get tired and just be some time driving to overlooks.

At the end of the day, each has had their idea of fun.

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 3:21:40 PM   
E2Sweet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RuleMyWorld

...Being the OP, I did not say some have to take it less seriously or even assert that...


Ahh phooey, I did indeed misquote you, I see. My apologies for that, as I'm usually more careful about that sort of thing. I should have actually phrased it:

So, in reply to your assertion that others take this 'way too seriously', I'd say "Bite me".

...and I say that mostly as a funny, with only a sprinkle of being mean-spirited and retaliatory toward the initial remark...


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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 3:57:05 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Ooooh E2Sweet > please say thats an invite and offer of  bites ???

quote:

ORIGINAL: E2Sweet

So, in reply to your assertion that others take this 'way too seriously', I'd say "Bite me".

...and I say that mostly as a funny, with only a sprinkle of being mean-spirited and retaliatory toward the initial remark...


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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 3:59:21 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Why do it if it isn't fun?

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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 4:13:32 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		It's called Play ain't it?
Of course its supposed to be fun.
And who says protocol and fun cannot be inclusive?
They sure are for me.


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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 4:43:12 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		The fun is at my house but,  you'll also find that "protocol bullshit" here too.  Somehow my start in the lifestyle had nothing to do with fantasies.  I think rather the lifestyle found me, I didn't find it.  If the lifestyle would stop following me around I would have left it long ago and become a Mormon with 9 wives and 50 children in Utah somewhere.  I wouldn't even be posting on this forum right now, I'd be riding my horse or a few of the wives.



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RE: Where's the Fun??? - 9/24/2008 5:30:07 PM   
beargonewild


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Status: offline 		It seems we each seek our own level of fun and protocol when we engage in this BDSM life. I for one was and is not much for high protocol in a D/s relationship thus I do not actively seek a a partner who is geared in that manner. I do know someone who is geared and prefers strict protocol with his family and that is what works for him. I've always been the mind where I seek the fun and the pleasure this life brings to me and do want and need a measure of protocol to balance things out. Quite often it's the fantasies which lead me to explore deeper and deeper, the trick is being able to gauge when the reality is just as good as the fantasy or if the fantasy must remains a fantasy.

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