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Wheelchair Master - 9/24/2008 6:59:21 PM

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Would any subs be willing to submit to a dom who is disabled. also has anybody ever heard of a disabled dom

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/24/2008 7:03:01 PM

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I have known both subs and Doms in wheelchairs. I have dated a man in a wheelchair, he tried the whole Dom thing, but He just couldn't get into it.
This is definatly not something that being in a wheelchair would keep you from doing. There are plenty of subs who would not be willing to be owned by a Master in a wheelchair, but like any other issue that anyone else has, that is just a filter - they are not the right ones for you.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/24/2008 7:38:40 PM

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if they had a disabled mind then i wouldn't be able or willing to submit to them and wouldn't refer to them as a dominant...

now as to knowing physically disabled dominants; yeah, i know quite a few. i've belonged to them, submitted to them, and life was grand.

to me, dominance doesn't have shit to do with his body as much as it does with his mind.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/24/2008 8:06:13 PM

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I know both a fem sub and a male dom who are in wheelchairs..and I have also been aquainted with a Femdom who was legally blind...so disabilities only hamper you from living this life if you chose to let them.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/24/2008 8:48:12 PM

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My very best friend is a female sub in a wheelchair.
Yes, there are some people who would be turned off by a dominant or submissive or human being in a wheelchair. They're probably not going to post on this thread, but they're out there.
To me, as long as they have a positive attitude and an able mind, I wouldn't rule them out. Some of the most bad-ass people I know are in chairs or otherwise disabled.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/25/2008 5:24:52 AM

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if they had a disabled mind then i wouldn't be able or willing to submit to them and wouldn't refer to them as a dominant...

Ya know, I don't mind at all you saying you wouldn't submit. That is your choice, none of us can submit to everyone, so we all make choices like this.

But how can you say you would not refer to them as Dominant? If someone has a particular disability, then, in your mind, they shouldn't even be called Dominant? What is that about?

Of course, 'disabled mind' is obviously a euphamism, so perhaps i'm overreacting. What did you mean by disabled mind? Metally ill? I'm mentally ill, and have none many mentally ill subs and at least one or two metally ill Dominants (speaking of the diagnoised ones working on their issues - won't go into the ones that are just probables LOL.) Do you mean Retarded? How would that keep someone from being able to participate in the sex life they want and find the relationship they want? It might not be with you, but why should you state that it should not be at all?

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/25/2008 5:45:17 AM

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if they had a disabled mind then i wouldn't be able or willing to submit to them and wouldn't refer to them as a dominant...

Ya know, I don't mind at all you saying you wouldn't submit. That is your choice, none of us can submit to everyone, so we all make choices like this.

But how can you say you would not refer to them as Dominant? If someone has a particular disability, then, in your mind, they shouldn't even be called Dominant? What is that about?

Of course, 'disabled mind' is obviously a euphamism, so perhaps i'm overreacting. What did you mean by disabled mind? Metally ill? I'm mentally ill, and have none many mentally ill subs and at least one or two metally ill Dominants (speaking of the diagnoised ones working on their issues - won't go into the ones that are just probables LOL.) Do you mean Retarded? How would that keep someone from being able to participate in the sex life they want and find the relationship they want? It might not be with you, but why should you state that it should not be at all?

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/25/2008 10:57:49 AM

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tsatske,

I'm not sure what was meant by this but when I read it, I didn't read it as potentially offensive. I have a mental illness, manic-depression, and trust me if I had thought it was written with that kind of insinuation I would be malgruntled (new word of the moment).

I simply read it as "if they're not willing to put in the mental effort at being a Dom".

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/25/2008 11:42:36 AM

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If i was unowned i would not write someone off because they are in a wheelchair. Where is the rule that says Dom's have to be able bodied ? I must have missed that part. D's are more mental than physical so why would being in a whelchair be a problem. I would give it a chance see if we had anything in common. if we did not then that is why i would write you off ,not because you use a wheelchair.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/25/2008 11:53:44 AM

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Would any subs be willing to submit to a dom who is disabled. also has anybody ever heard of a disabled dom

Yes. And yes.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/25/2008 12:00:56 PM

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My late husband was an amputee in a wheelchair. I saw the MAN...not the chair.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/25/2008 1:47:46 PM

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In the myriad of non-relationships I currently have, there's two physically disabled persons, and two people with mental illnesses.

Both of the physically disabled persons are switches, and the top/bottom line there is kinda blurry.

I'm the bottom in the other two dynamics. Though arguably more in control during both of them.

I don't really see it as an issue, unless you're shaking so hard you can't hold the cane (has happened to moi).

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/26/2008 3:49:12 PM

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had to answer this one. my Dom is partialy in a wheelchair b/c He can't walk far without hurting.... doesn't keep Him from being what He is: a Dom. (and if it has anything to do with 'mental' He is also bipolar but takes meds....thankfully

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so to answer the question: yes

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/27/2008 6:12:24 AM

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I'm a right leg below the knee amputee & no one in D/s or vanilla questions my ability to do the everyday activities as someone with two legs. If someone has a problem with you, get as far away as you can. They have a problem because they are looking at the chair & not the person in the chair.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/27/2008 12:03:06 PM

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I dont see why someone being in a wheelchair would make them less a Dom. Theres more to Ds than being able to stand or use your lower half of your body. I would be a submissive to someone that was in a wheelchair or was missing an arm/leg/whatever. If the connection is there then the Ds relationship with be there as well.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/28/2008 8:35:32 PM

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When I was searching for a dominant I met a good one. As we got to know one another before meeting in person we found we had a lot of the same interests. My passion in life was rock climbing..he said so was his.

Anyway...in one conversation much later than the rock climbing one he then announced he was in a wheelchair and had been his entire life.
I dumped him. Not because of the chair but because he had lied to me for so long. How would I ever know what to believe and what not to after that?

He had no real reason for lying when confronted with it either. If he had told me from the beginning I may be with somebody else right now.
A lot of us have no issues with chairs. Just be honest from the start.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/28/2008 8:48:56 PM

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Would any subs be willing to submit to a dom who is disabled. also has anybody ever heard of a disabled dom

Yes, yes, and I've also come across people who are surprised that anyone disabled could ever be involved in BDSM.

In fact some of the most disabled people I have ever come across are those with apparently sound mind and bodies.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 9/29/2008 1:34:34 PM

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Would any subs be willing to submit to a dom who is disabled. also has anybody ever heard of a disabled dom

I think everyone has their "ideal" just like some Doms only want a sub that fits a certain body type i think some subs want a Dom that can physically throw em against a wall...............hmmmm wall............lol but i digress. for me it is about the mind. no matter your physical status you can not take all that i have to lay at your feet if you can not take my mind. i think there are a lot of us out there. just my two cents

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 10/1/2008 7:54:44 AM

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Anyway...in one conversation much later than the rock climbing one he then announced he was in a wheelchair and had been his entire life. I dumped him. Not because of the chair but because he had lied to me for so long. How would I ever know what to believe and what not to after that?

I am assuming that you first verified that he was lying? People in WC can learn to do all sorts of things, no matter how well grounded or open minded you think you are, they will surprise you. I would not have considered it a lie if he just didn't mention that he used different techniques, ect.
But, if he was lying, yes, that is right out. I am mentally ill - many Doms don't want that, but, nonetheless, I always talk about it IMMEDEATLY. no reason to surprise someone later, and have them feel lied to.

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RE: Wheelchair Master - 10/1/2008 8:09:16 AM

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I am assuming that you first verified that he was lying? People in WC can learn to do all sorts of things, no matter how well grounded or open minded you think you are, they will surprise you. I would not have considered it a lie if he just didn't mention that he used different techniques, ect.
But, if he was lying, yes, that is right out. I am mentally ill - many Doms don't want that, but, nonetheless, I always talk about it IMMEDEATLY. no reason to surprise someone later, and have them feel lied to.

Yes, I did that is why I said he lied. He told me he lied because I was too active of a person for him. He "assumed" someone like me would not like him if he had told the truth. Rock climbing, sky diving, etc are things he would like to do if he ever had use of his legs..so therefore he told me he did them all the time. Because I did them all the time.

Apparently lying to me saying he does them was ok because in reality he would love to do them if he was capable. At least that is what I was told.

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