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What do I do? - 9/24/2008 9:38:32 PM

Mandifairy1114

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Okay I dont know what to do. I am into this and am new and wants to learn more. I am very submission and my husband is very dominant. I just wish he could be more dominant. He wants to have a 3 some or have another couple that is dominant to help him learn more. I dont know where I could find more information at. Could anyone help me? Any sites or information would be good? thanks

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RE: What do I do? - 9/24/2008 9:43:11 PM

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try your local community, google munches, BDSM events, or BDSM groups (and your local area.....city state).

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RE: What do I do? - 9/24/2008 9:48:32 PM

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How do I find more information about my area? I am in Southeast GA.

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RE: What do I do? - 9/24/2008 10:01:55 PM

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http://www.domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=org&uid=default&state=GEORGIA&view_records=View+Records&ww=on

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RE: What do I do? - 9/25/2008 2:51:42 AM

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We have active groups here in Augusta and I believe there is a local group down in the Savannah area.

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RE: What do I do? - 9/25/2008 8:59:00 AM

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If it is really true that you are very submissive and he is very dominant, then the only "rub" here (from a pure D/s standpoint, ignoring kink), is whether or not he feels it is OK for him to control you. There's obviously some societal unlearning that needs to be done. The good news is that there is nobody better positioned to help him unlearn than you.

Try kneeling at his feet and saying somethin akin to, "I LIKE this! It's good for me. I enjoy it. You aren't taking anything from me that I don't want to give. Have faith that if you cross a line, I'll have your back. I'm not weak."

That oughta do it. At the end of the day, it is the smile on my wife's face that reassures me that I am doing GOOD thigns for the woman I love. Any new dominant who is also a healthy and well balanced human being is going to have some conflicts here. Help him sort through them.

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RE: What do I do? - 9/25/2008 9:01:05 AM

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Try kneeling at his feet and saying somethin akin to, "I LIKE this! It's good for me. I enjoy it. You aren't taking anything from me that I don't want to give. Have faith that if you cross a line, I'll have your back. I'm not weak."
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RE: What do I do? - 9/25/2008 10:30:00 AM

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The last thing I would suggest is opening the marriage when your dynamic isn't solid.
Doesn't sound like he really wants to learn but is more focused on fucking others.

If he wants to learn, tell him to read here. Join a local group and have him ask a dom to mentor him, you ask a sub to mentor you. And to prevent that 'let's swap' mentality, not a dom/sub couple, plus set up boundaries re sharing.

Read books; Loving Dominant, S & M 101, Screw the Roses, Erotic Bondage, New Topping Book, New Bottoming Book.

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RE: What do I do? - 9/25/2008 5:12:57 PM

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you want him to be more dominant how? how is he going to learn that from someone else, such as a couple being with the two of you; is he going to submit?

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RE: What do I do? - 9/25/2008 5:26:30 PM

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Try kneeling at his feet and saying somethin akin to, "I LIKE this! It's good for me. I enjoy it. You aren't taking anything from me that I don't want to give. Have faith that if you cross a line, I'll have your back. I'm not weak."
~Jeff

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Echo.

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