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Being a stress puppet - 12/1/2005 10:57:10 PM   
LindaLashes


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Status: offline 		I was wondering if my mistress has had a rough day making her annoyed and grumpy, would it be a good iniative to offer my service as a physical outlet? By this I mean my mistress getting a chance to blow off some steam hitting me a bit with a crop or a paddle, if it makes her feel better afterwards.

It´s widely recognized that this kind of outlet is used even in companies, for instance in Japan there´s a huge company that has this policy,, maybe a factory worker gets pissed and bored of his work, goes down to a small basement where there´s a blow-up doll resembling the company boss. The worker punches the doll, kicks it maybe and blows some steam, feels better and goes back to work without anyone coming down on that particular worker.

Sorry about that extra pshycology stuff

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/1/2005 11:01:40 PM   
Alixandria


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Status: offline 		I think it would depend on the psychology of your mistress. Speaking for myself, though, while the stress relief would be possibly great at the time, I would end up feeling tremendous guilt after the fact simply because I would see it as losing control. The guilt would outweigh by lots any relief I may have experienced during the "blowing off steam" period.

Far better, you offer a comfy chair and a beer and set the stereo to my favourite tunes instead. OK, a hug would be kinda cool too.

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/1/2005 11:06:59 PM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		Your intentions are good but the course of action would most likely damage the relationship between you and your Domme. Alixandria offers some lovely ideas for stress reduction. And if your Domme does need a more agressive release, you could set up a punching bag in the garage for Her, or drive Her to a kick-boxing class, join Her for a long distance run, etc.

Slaves are valuable property. It is a common saying that "if you break your toys you won't be able to play with them anymore".

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/1/2005 11:14:18 PM   
LindaLashes


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Status: offline 		Ok I see your points clearly Alixandria and Vendaval. Thanks

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 5:51:35 AM   
orfunboi


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Status: offline 		i guess it would depend on the Mistress, my ex would never play when she was angry or upset, so that would not have worked for me.

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 6:12:03 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I don't do SM when I'm angry and being offered a "target" by my slave usually sends the message instead that I need to the source of my anger and frustrations. In that sense, his offering himself is a good way to snap me from my internal dialogues and get me thinking about solutions.

However I have been known to just walk up to him and give him "that look" (he knows what it is he says) and say, "take off your glasses or remove you clothes" and then "fetch my X" and hurt him to release some stress. That's my initiative though and I do when I'm calmer.


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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 9:32:14 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't use my playmate as a stress reliever in the s/m sense, ever. Too dangerous for us both.

That blow-up doll, now......... K, can I borrow Boxing Bob sometime?

:)F

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 2:43:19 PM   
FTopinMichigan


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I wouldn't use my playmate as a stress reliever in the s/m sense, ever. Too dangerous for us both.

That blow-up doll, now......... K, can I borrow Boxing Bob sometime?

:)F



Yes, you can use him...he's quite "easy."

But you know what...when I box/punch, or practice my kicks on Bob, I "never" do it when I'm angry. Even on an object, such as my "Bob"...I won't use him when stressed or angry. I felt it would perpetrate an unwanted aggression, and possible violent nature in me, if it worked to relieve tension/stress. I do deep breathing (not in a sensual context ), and Bob gathers dust when I'm stressed. Fortunately, my stress level is almost nil these days. Bob is happy!

K

PS Just an FYI..."Boxing Bob" is a karate dummy for kickboxing and boxing


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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 2:57:20 PM   
LadyAngelika


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Status: offline 		When I've had a hard day, the best thing in the world my boy could give me is a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon and a foot massage.

My primary purpose for engaging in any kind of s/m play or sex is out of desire, and even better when it's love. Of course "play" can also release tension, but as Tammy Jo mentioned, for me it comes way later after the fire has been brought down to a braise.

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 3:01:14 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LindaLashes

I was wondering if my mistress has had a rough day making her annoyed and grumpy, would it be a good iniative to offer my service as a physical outlet? By this I mean my mistress getting a chance to blow off some steam hitting me a bit with a crop or a paddle, if it makes her feel better afterwards.

It´s widely recognized that this kind of outlet is used even in companies, for instance in Japan there´s a huge company that has this policy,, maybe a factory worker gets pissed and bored of his work, goes down to a small basement where there´s a blow-up doll resembling the company boss. The worker punches the doll, kicks it maybe and blows some steam, feels better and goes back to work without anyone coming down on that particular worker.

Sorry about that extra pshycology stuff


I have never, nor will I ever, use My sub in that fashion as a stress reliever. I value him to much. I think it is very sweet of you to offer yourself up as a punching bag for your Mistress, but in the long run, I agree with others here, it will damage your relationship with Her. Alixandria had some execellent advice, offer to make a drink for your Mistress and sit quietly til she needs you. For Me, if I have had a bad day, it is nice to know that My sub is waiting for Me and will do his level best to help Me ease the stresses of the day. That alone, is sometimes enough.



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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 3:13:00 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		If there was still sulfite-free wine in the universe, I would agree with you 100%, LA!

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 3:59:02 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		NO it is opening you up to abuse, pure and simple, physical battery is not the way to relieve stress and I will damn any dominant that thinks that way--don't go there--

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 4:18:56 PM   
LindaLashes


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I guess my thought was bit short sighted, I see that now and wont spend another thought on it or even propose it to Mistress..

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 4:24:43 PM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LindaLashes

Yeah, I guess my thought was bit short sighted, I see that now and wont spend another thought on it or even propose it to Mistress..


Good plan. Here is some good reading for you ;)

- LA


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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 5:28:42 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		Honestly, this is a service I would love to provide. I would -love- to be able to offer a physical/agressive outlet for my partner.

however, this isn't the kind of thing that would appeal to him. However, my previous partner very much enjoyed this kind of service.


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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 5:59:47 PM   
HouseofBear


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Status: offline 		As stated by the other fem doms in here, I would never use a sub/slave as an outlet when I was angry or upset. I am much more protective of my property, grinz. The glass of wine and foot worship sound wonderful however!

Lady Ursa

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/2/2005 8:40:19 PM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LindaLashes

Yeah, I guess my thought was bit short sighted, I see that now and wont spend another thought on it or even propose it to Mistress..


Actually I think you should talk to her about this.

That is really the best way to communicate and figure out what each of you needs.

It could be that she agrees with most people on here and in the heat of any emotions may not think SM is a good idea. It could that she would be thrilled with the idea. Ultimately it needs to be a decision you both make and that you both have safewords out of in case you decide to try it but it doesn't work out.

Bringing up the topic could also give you and she other ideas.

Usually I need someone to listen to me yell and bitch and maybe cry and then hold me -- as I said (though it seems to have gotten lost) I use SM later when I'm calm and entirely in control of my emotions again -- the motivations are varied.

Sometimes I need to just talk a walk, literally and be left alone -- though my slave and my spouse both have this habit of following me when I do that they know enough to stay several feet away as they follow.

Sometimes I feel the craving for chocolate or other types of food -- a very bad thing cause frankly I'm fat enough and channeling my emotions into food (as I have done all my life) isn't very healthy for me.

And sometimes I need to hit and hurt things. Note the word "things" here -- not people but a pillow or the bed or to thrown stuffed animals around or even go throw rocks out in the quarry or rip paper up with my hands.

You can't know what to offer your mistress though unless you talk to her first.


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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/4/2005 1:29:41 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

I wouldn't use my playmate as a stress reliever in the s/m sense, ever. Too dangerous for us both.

That blow-up doll, now......... K, can I borrow Boxing Bob sometime?

:)F


I found a darth maul (sp?) blow up in the kiddy section of walmart...on sale for $.50 no less BONUS :) He's good for kicking, hitting, flogger practice and he he well other pervables. Best part after a hard day he doesn't bitch, piss, moan or make a mess unless you pop him...then he just farts and flies out the window. THIS is a sure sign the universe is just against you and you should concede defeat & head to bed for the next round tomorrow.

I think that a sub can make themselves most useful during these times by ASKING HOW THEY CAN HELP!!! Usually something as simple as a massage and just listening have the most use. Offering yourself for intentional abuse can be damaging not only to the relationship but also your Top.

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/15/2005 8:19:35 PM   
jamesthehumanrug


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Status: offline 		greetings linda
lashes
happy holidays
i dont know if i travel in circles with jelous wimpy slaves after my mistresses but the minute i suggested that someone wanted to make me a crash dummy,with my mistress in the car in nyny
no lie

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RE: Being a stress puppet - 12/17/2005 9:46:15 PM   
EmpressKatherine


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Status: offline 		you will be a good slave by being a blow-up doll.
Good luck.

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