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Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 7:22:06 PM

johnnyak

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Im a member on this site and a few others for that matter a fairly long time.Basically
I have still never visited nor met a Domme which is pretty much drivin me crazy
at the moment.Maybe they "smell" my desperation or maybe my age is a big factor but
it seems very hard to even get talking with a Domme...whether it be for me looking to
meet a Domme to serve or to maybe befirend a Domme.Anyway im close to visiting a
Pro-Domme to get my first experience out of the way but i guess deep down i want
to serve a Domme for the first time who i have talked with honestly long before i visit her.
Thats where this site comes in.Ive spoke to alot of Dommes,sent photos,answered them
honestly and then all of a sudden i never hear from them again

...Basically im asking
would it be best to visit a Pro-Domme to get some experience?? Maybe it would
help me better approach Dommes on this site ? Whatever i am doing its obviously off-putting for them.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 7:29:51 PM

MsLadySue

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Perhaps your age is the problem. You mention various interests but what you don't say is you have no experience with any of them. It could be the Dominants lose interest when they find out you have no real time experience.

my spelling sucks

< Message edited by MsLadySue -- 9/26/2008 7:30:34 PM >

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 7:30:16 PM

WyldHrt

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First off, try putting something in your profile about who you are and what you have to offer, not just what you want a Domme to do to you. As it is, your profile reads like a "do me" sub, which is going to turn off any Domme looking for a real relationship.

As this is the "Ask a Mistress" forum, I'll now shut my subbly yap and let the Dommes answer, lol.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 7:33:11 PM

NumberSix

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Doooooooooooooooooooooooode.

I am befriending you right now, but you may mistake this.

I have a wide range of interests which would include,CP,Spanking,Foot/body worship,tease and denial,queening,otk.Im open minded,eager,willing to learn,love to share opinions and always very honest and hope to be given a chance with a Domme.Upon contacting a Domme i will send a picture.I apolagise for not having photos on my profile.

Can you play chess? Can you serve tea? How do you look in a suit?
do you eat with your mouth closed?

what do you do for a living, do you have skills besides licking pussy that could be useful when them girls wear your ass out for that?

a little polish, a little poise, they have a pussy, can give it out with both hands, aint a big deal to them.

So, you are a guy, (she likes guys, btw) and she is a girl. You want some pussy, she wants to give you some pussy.

It aint her focus.

Your job, should you decide to accept the mission, Mr Phelps-------- is to find out what that focus is, and how you can further that vision.

The entire internet will self-destruct in five seconds.

Good Fuckin' Luck.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 7:36:13 PM

LadyLupineNYC

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His youth is not an issue forme; I like em young

. Your profile does need some revampling and editing. ProDommes (if well chosen) are great to experiment, learn what works and doesn't work for you etc so that you would be able to be more clear about what it is you are seeking and what it you would might want in a Domme. Have faith, with the right additude you will be able to find a good 'fit' for you.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 7:44:51 PM

johnnyak

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LOL....point taken NumberSix.Gathering by the 3 responses we can safely assume my profile
pretty much....ehm...well it blows.In light of this i'll have to delete it Asap and create a new
one before i attract a truckload of "your profile is shit" msgs....I do think age is also a factor though
despite my useless profile.The reason i say that is initiating the conversation with the Domme seems fine.
We exchange 3,4 messages...then it happens...again....no response.Anyway consider the profile wiped!

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 7:49:13 PM

LadyLupineNYC

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You don't have to deleat the profile, just re-write.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 8:00:40 PM

johnnyak

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I'll have to re-write it tomorrow LadyLupine.Maybe look over other sub profiles and get an idea of
how to build up a proper profile.I guess its important to get a decent one up there.I actually read over my last one and cringed...nearly vomited..
then i felt dizzy...Then in a rare moment of decisiveness i deleted that sh!t

....It was awful!
I liked your idea about the Pro-Domme.That if chosen right,it would give me a clearer indication
of what i am after.It would clear alot of things up for me.Alot of doubts and questions about
my "submisiveness"

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 8:08:03 PM

NumberSix

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Fuck all them other profiles johnny...

Dare to be different.

What you got going for you?

Weave an intriguing saga about what you are doing and what you want and what you hope and what you dream and the place you stand on this earth when you are not sucking pussy or ass for the balance of the 23 hours and 95 minutes of the day that is left over.

Seriously,

Ron (these girls is human, keep it in your pants, it will be used eventually, and you will be just fine)

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 8:41:06 PM

johnnyak

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I was only lookin to get an idea of layout and not content on other profiles..
I should really get my priorities in check.Here on rabbiting on
about how difficult it is to affiliate and "meet" Dommes and
I've never even served a Domme yet.For all i know that submissive streak
in me could fade off after my first session.As in..."That was awesome.I can
now tick that off my list..hmm...whats nect...skydiving..right,off i go"...
I'll have to state in my profile i dont know how submissive i actually am.
Fantasy sometimes does'nt match reality.I think it will for me in this case
but i cant rule it out.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 8:45:29 PM

NumberSix

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That sort of insight, expressed honestly, could lead to many fascinating conversations, and perhaps some intrigue.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 8:57:01 PM

WyldHrt

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I agree with Number 6. Being honest about who you are is the best way to catch the interest of someone who is most likely to be a match for you. I've met a few people from CM, and though I haven't found a Dom, I've made some good friends who share my non-kinky interests.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 10:21:37 PM

MsMillgrove

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Here's an idea no one has mentioned. It's not about your youth, your profile, or your emails that end with no followup. It's time. You spent a year already "thinking" about contacting the pro domme. (I checked your journal)

I dunno exactly where you are in Ireland or what the local scene is like there, but there must be some place, a club or a munch that you could visit. Your youth and inexperience is a plus. You don't have bad habits or unhappy past experiences, you're a blank slate.

The reason why you're not serving a mistress is because you aren't sure you really want to do it. You're delaying the action with distractions like rewriting the profile or adding photos etc. When you finish that up, you'll find another reason to delay.

If you'd wanted to meet someone, you'd have done it already. You'd probably be having too much fun with your mistress right now to be on the boards or off skydiving.

Yes, I know. Harsh words, but prove me wrong! I'd be thrilled to see your "positive experience" post come up on that section in the forums.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/26/2008 10:44:13 PM

AcademyForSlaves

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Hi.

I can't speak for the Dommes you contacted but I can't see why they wouldn't reply back. you seem like a really nice guy that's serious and willing. Maybe try contacting them a second time and politely ask them for a reason. Don't forget there's more slaves than Dommes so they can get busy answering all the applicants and emails. We get about 200 emails a day but then we always reply back right away. :)

Hope this helps.

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/27/2008 5:15:45 PM

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You will never, ever attract a Domme unless your profile mentions chocolate, shoes, shopping, or well off. Ok?

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/27/2008 5:21:09 PM

E2Sweet

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyLupineNYC

You don't have to deleat the profile, just re-write.

I love this!...you're running for public office aren't you?...

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/27/2008 5:22:28 PM

LadyLupineNYC

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Please tell me you are joking tweedydaddy.

1) I am not a fan of chocolate
2) While I do indulge in shoes shopping on occasion, it is generally only either for new work shoes for for my boy
3) The shopping I do I use my own money
4) I supposed my slave financially since he is in school full time.

I doubt I am all that unique and when my boy & I firts started talking none of those items were mentioned in his profile other than his love of feet and foot worship (which I was not 'in to' at the time)...

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RE: Domme trouble - 9/27/2008 5:24:28 PM

LadyLupineNYC

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quote:

ORIGINAL: E2Sweet

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyLupineNYC

You don't have to deleat the profile, just re-write.

I love this!...you're running for public office aren't you?...

I have just never saw the utility of deleating an entire profile, esp when it takes days to get photo approval, of deleating something whole hog when all it really needs its tossing some lipstick on it

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