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gaymaleslave4sir -> Relocation (9/27/2008 1:07:03 AM)
how safe is it to relocation to be with a Master?

mhawk -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 1:44:15 AM)
i beleive it all begins with how open has your communication been together and how long have you been planning relocation and getting to know eachother.

littlemisssnarf -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 2:49:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gaymaleslave4sir how safe is it to relocation to be with a Master? If you're having to ask that question in here darling - then probably not very!

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 3:34:47 AM)
How safe would it be for you to relocate for any person you've met over the internet? The same risks apply. Just because you're in this community, don't throw away your good sense. Master Fire

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 3:38:26 AM)
I believe one should take the time to get to know someone and be confident in who they are. I would also verify that they are who they say they are. Then I would take the time for a number of visits. I would make sure they visited me first. I think its important to know if they would go through the effort to see you. I would expect them to stay in a hotel initially. If Visiting them for the first time(which I personally wouldnt do on a first meet), I would stay at a hotel. Many have bi-passed this process with disastorous results. Yes, there have been a few where it worked out with out these steps. But i believe it is important to ensure your safety. I personally would never relocate or have a long distant relationship. I like people local so I am not put in a position of being somewhere unfamiliar,with no escape. I once turned down a compelling free trip to canada because there was no way I was going to be with a stranger in a foreign country. I do believe you have to think worse case scenario and how you would handle it.

girlivy -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 3:44:19 AM)
As safe as moving anywhere else IF common sense is in place.

simpleplan2 -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 3:48:32 AM)
I agree. I can't even understand why you'd ask such a question. Do you know the person? Have you met the person? Are there jobs available in your profession? Do you have a back out plan? Geesh! Think about it and don't rely on people you don't know to answer a question that really only you can answer.

DesFIP -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 4:54:44 AM)
As safe as relocating for anyone else including a college boyfriend. There is no guarantee that people who enjoyed dating will be compatible roommates. No guarantee that you will adapt to a new city. No guarantee that you will find a new job, make new friends. Date first, don't move sight unseen. And don't be pressured to do something that will be difficult for you until you feel more comfortable.

leadership527 -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 9:30:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlemisssnarf If you're having to ask that question in here darling - then probably not very! claps

antipode -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 9:33:39 AM)
Whatchawant, insurance?

AquaticSub -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 9:55:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gaymaleslave4sir how safe is it to relocation to be with a Master? Depends on the people in question and how much prep work went into it.

sub4hire -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 11:52:23 AM)
Well for some people who did their research beforehand and knew who they were moving with..its great. For those who don't end up like slavemasters victims. Dead. Value yourself first and foremost. Don't make a move until you are comfortable, not because someone else is pushing you to make a move. Find out what your life is going to be like. Is this a place that would welcome your mother if she wanted to come to visit? If she did, would she gasp and tell you to get away from the abuser? There are so many things to consider but your safety and well being is number one.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Relocation (9/27/2008 5:49:30 PM)
For me, it was 100% safe. But then, I knew MasterK for 2 years when I moved accross country to be with him. I knew him well, and he had my trust and love 100% (not an easy thing, as I had a lot of walls built up to keep people out). I recommend an extended period of time getting to know your Dom/Master before you commence with preparations for a move.

stella41b -> RE: Relocation (9/28/2008 9:18:24 PM)
Just as safe as meeting someone for coffee. Trust me, I've done both and relocated across a continent for someone. However I guess the actual pertinent question would be, how safe is your relationship with your Master?

vampchick88 -> RE: Relocation (9/29/2008 2:51:59 PM)
I'm a Domme who will be relocating to be with my pet. My advise is to get to know the person, over the phone, emails, etc. But try to meet up with them at least a time or two before just jumping into it. Myself and pet are wary people, I had a six week long stay with pet over the summer as a mini 'test drive' after previously meeting once before. The weeks went by too quickly, we meshed, sparked, everything went much better than we had visioned. I know this part might be hard but be patient and take things carefully. I did and pet is the best thing that's ever happened to me. he's my all, my joy, happiness, and my One and Only. Good futures are worth the time to really get to know exactly what your getting into.

Lockit -> RE: Relocation (9/29/2008 4:38:23 PM)
Make it safe. Have a plan A.. B and C if needed. Then whatever happens, you are not stranded... lost... scared or whatever. If someone is dangerous... even a good plan can go by the wayside. Just be as smart as you can be and have your ass covered for just about anything you would need to cover it for. Good luck!

stella41b -> RE: Relocation (9/29/2008 4:42:08 PM)
Oh and wearing white socks on Virgin Trains will keep you safe if relocating in the UK.

peppermint -> RE: Relocation (9/29/2008 5:22:58 PM)
I did it safely. We knew each other 6 months and had been able to actually spend a month of that together in same place several times. We talked on phone each and every night. He had met my sons, their wives, and the grand UMs. I met his son, daughter, their spouses, and his grand UMs. Even then I took a leave of absense from my work so that I could go back to a job if it didnt work out in 6 weeks. Use your common sense..or you could get hurt, financially as well as physically. Know exactly what you are getting into...and if you haven't met this Master face to face....put the move off until several months after that first face to face meeting.

NuevaVida -> RE: Relocation (9/29/2008 5:54:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: gaymaleslave4sir how safe is it to relocation to be with a Master? Depends on the people in question and how much prep work went into it. Also depends on where you'd be relocating to. I'm less likely to move to Kuwait than, say, Hawaii. [8D]

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