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unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/2/2005 1:11:57 PM

veronicaofML

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ok...i went back 10 full pages,,, and found nothing entitled close to...about emails on collarme.

and i am not, per se, ranting...in as muchas...making a statement...maybe?

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situation;
i have seen somewhere, once, male doms asking why subs/slaves do not answer them?

yo'kay...
allow me to explain this much first;
A
in my own experiences......only--
some of us..are not allowed.........to answer emails w/o permission..
no i am not talking about unowned persons.......
i am, however, speaking of and for..........those of us that are owned.

"I" found 'a' email here on collarme,..from 'a' male dom, asking if my Mistress allowed me to play/serve in front of others.....
i am not allowed to answer...........so i forwarded it to Mistress.
and She ignored it...and there has not been another one as yet.
my thinking,..why would 'a' male dom send 'a' email to 'a' unknown owned slave that is male, when he did not even introduce himself, let alone ask permission to speak to me nor did he ask permission to speak with Mistress?

very weird if ya ask me about it........but hey.......i heard tell it takes all kinds...just seems there are more new kinds being invented..

well, that's about it......so if you male doms are still scratching your heads why emails aren't answered???? try being polite, show courtesy and maybe 'a' email will..........be answered some time.

happy holidays to all.

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/2/2005 1:23:08 PM

Webmaster60

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quote:

why would 'a' male dom send 'a' email to 'a' unknown owned slave that is male, when he did not even introduce himself, let alone ask permission to speak to me nor did he ask permission to speak with Mistress?

Well the short answer is: A Master wouldn't. Period. I don't intentionally ever mail an owned slave. If I do, the letter is intended for their Master, and I write it through the slave (if the masters nic is knot know to me).
As for introductions or permissions to speak to "you" or your Mistress.. a different thing perhaps.. Again, I'd (through the slaves mail "IF " necessary) introduce myself to their dominant, but I personally feel no need to introduce myself to a slave if my letter is intended for their owner, much less ask the slaves persmission for anything. Perhaps you mis-stated, but if not, you're placeing an unrealistic importance on "property".

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Master Michael
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"To sin in silence when he should
speak makes cowards of men"

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/2/2005 2:37:02 PM

veronicaofML

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Perhaps you mis-stated, but if not, you're placeing an unrealistic importance on "property".

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pleaase explain?

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/2/2005 2:47:45 PM

Webmaster60

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quote:

Perhaps you mis-stated, but if not, you're placeing an unrealistic importance on "property".
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pleaase explain?

Umm.. IF you're a slave.. and you expect a Master to introduce himself to "you" and ask "you" for permission to speak to your owner.. Then perhaps as property, you place too much importance on your role here..

for example.. If I wanted to use you and for some insane reason I was inclined to approach your owner about it (the only honorable thing to do). and I did noe have direct access TO your owner.. I'd write you a letter intended for your Owners eyes, NOT yours, for your approval.. In which I would introduce myself (thought I can't imagine writing a stranger asking to his their slave) and ask "their" permission. I don't NEED "your" permission, not to be introduced to you..

Not bashing.. just explaining..
Personally, some stranger asking to use my slave in ANY manner would meet with the same dismissal as it did with your owner.

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Master Michael
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"To sin in silence when he should
speak makes cowards of men"

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/2/2005 3:27:17 PM

veronicaofML

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thank You, Sir.

most kind of You.

i find You to be a gentleman and a scholar.

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"go straight to hell, do not pass go and do not collect $200"

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/2/2005 8:27:31 PM

Slaveless1

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First and foremost I do not write to known owned slaves/subs. I find it distasteful that others cannot read or choose not to read that of which is written. I had made same complaint....I choose carefully those that I wished to speak with...not a 100 but a select few that I thought would meet my/their criteria. Of those I wrote 3 did repsond, and all just stopped one day for no apparent resaon. NO!, I did not demand anything! Just get to know you conversation. 97% never replied at all. No even with a "sorry not interested". I find it disturbing that if those that are sub/slave are truely in the lifestyle not to take the time to repsond in some form. It is only common courtesy to any "human" slave or master.

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/3/2005 10:22:05 AM

Krasnaya

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Ok I AM ranting. Why should anyone expect a response for someone who CLEARLY states that they are not interested in meeting new people for cyber/hooking up/any kind of relationship outside of friendship? While it shouldn't bother me, it does. I don't have a picture up so the ONLY information (outside of the general age stuff) is in my profile which mentions how I'm happily and completely attached at the moment. Do people not read or do they think that it's still a possibility? I mean this is a question I really do what answered. I'm a nice person and I am here to meet people with similar interests. I have met some very cool people here don't get me wrong, and I hope to meet more. It just blows my mind...

AND...oh no...what about the fact that I'm a lesbian in my 20s with a partner....and yet a Dom male in his late 50s would think I want to meet for play? This person should expect to have their message deleted. C'mon.

Rant over. Sorry

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/3/2005 11:30:27 AM

IronBear

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Slaveless1

First and foremost I do not write to known owned slaves/subs. I find it distasteful that others cannot read or choose not to read that of which is written. I had made same complaint....I choose carefully those that I wished to speak with...not a 100 but a select few that I thought would meet my/their criteria. Of those I wrote 3 did repsond, and all just stopped one day for no apparent resaon. NO!, I did not demand anything! Just get to know you conversation. 97% never replied at all. No even with a "sorry not interested". I find it disturbing that if those that are sub/slave are truely in the lifestyle not to take the time to repsond in some form. It is only common courtesy to any "human" slave or master.

Lets assume that I currently have a slave in either my Personal Collar or in a House Collar, she or he will be a kajira or kajirus (I.E. a Gorean slave). The slave’s profile will stipulate that he or she may correspond with other slaves or submissives, but that he or she will require my express permission to correspond with any Free (Dominant). I will approve the profile prior to it being submitted, and it will contain my details for the Free (Dominant) to be able to make the initial contact and explain the purpose of contacting the slave. I will make the initial reply personally and if I have agreed to the contact, the slave will also reply asap. This both protocol which I require and good manners. That I would be unlikely to refuse contact unless I had good reason is not the issue.

Conversely, when I do write to an owned sub/slave as I have in a number of occasions, usually to complement them on a post, their profile or to give additional information regarding a post I have made, I always ask that they pass a copy of my mail to their owned together with my contact details. As a matter of course I’ll also request that they pass on my regards and best wished to their owner. Again it is just a matter of good manners and showing respect for the Master.

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/3/2005 12:17:33 PM

Webmaster60

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quote:

Ok I AM ranting. Why should anyone expect a response for someone who CLEARLY states that they are not interested in meeting new people for cyber/hooking up/any kind of relationship outside of friendship?

Honestly? MOST of the assholes doing tha are not even READING your profile.. they pull up either an interest, or an area and mail everyone that returns a hit..
But never underestimate the power of a stupid human.. Its not gonna change... Just take it in stride and move on :)

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Master Michael
~~~~~~~~~~
"To sin in silence when he should
speak makes cowards of men"

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/3/2005 12:34:56 PM

Krasnaya

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Well it's just a weird leap (to me) to think that because someone is interested in a certain lifestyle/kind of relationship they must also be interested in cheating. I've had people in relationships contact me to see if I also want some on the side. It's not like I can't press delete like everyone else. There are some great people here so it's certainly worth it. I'm becoming a forum slut/addict.

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/3/2005 3:36:11 PM

imtempting

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Its am internet dating site. Happpens all the time.

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/3/2005 11:01:52 PM

liljoy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

Conversely, when I do write to an owned sub/slave as I have in a number of occasions, usually to complement them on a post, their profile or to give additional information regarding a post I have made, I always ask that they pass a copy of my mail to their owned together with my contact details. As a matter of course I’ll also request that they pass on my regards and best wished to their owner. Again it is just a matter of good manners and showing respect for the Master.

i've been contacted by Dominants in this way a number of times. As i read through these posts i was thinking of these times and thinking about posting about it but You beat me to it. Since Master doesn't post on these boards or the others i belong to and He often goes a month or more before checking His email it wouldn't make sense for us to require His permission to contact me. i know He wouldn't have any problem with the way You do it even if He was part of this or other boards i am on.

He doesn't even have much problem with the example of the op. He knows i'll read them to Him or disregaurd them. He trusts that i'll do the right thing by Him.

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/4/2005 3:56:07 PM

Krasnaya

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quote:

ORIGINAL: imtempting

Its am internet dating site. Happpens all the time.

True, but this site isn't just for singles looking for some kind of connection. There are plenty of people here just for the sense of community/good people that have someone already. And yes it does happen all of the time. Oh well there are worse things in life, right?

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/6/2005 9:41:34 AM

nelbot

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Not to hijack the thread but it drives me nuts when I get one line statements as introductory emails, for example: "36 y.o. dom, DC, 11 years in the life style" it's like great, congratulations with that... Argh, I try very hard not to every be rude in these sorts of circumstances but I don't want to talk to these people. I am not owned so I don't have a Master to sort these silly messages out for me, and to write them at all seems to be an invitation to them. Blech. Okay, sorry that was my rant.

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of pleasure and pain both have their gain for
what is a devil but an angel in bondage?

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/6/2005 11:31:18 AM

amayos

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Being one who has publicly griped of this here one time before, I feel I need to clarify a certain scenario that I am sure has happened to others on collarme.com and similar sites.

My issue with this subject arises when I receive a query on this site from a "submissive" who wants to chat or get to know a little more about me. So I answer them with a polite level of detail expected in a first reply, and then never hear back. No matter what way you cut it, this behavior is intolerable and highly annoying. I hate having my time wasted.

Now, as for contacting people here who openly express their distaste for your particular brand of attention in their profile, I agree; it's uncalled for, and further infuriating when you receive a message obviously sent by a bot.

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/10/2005 6:04:06 AM

MHOO314

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Webmaster60

quote:

why would 'a' male dom send 'a' email to 'a' unknown owned slave that is male, when he did not even introduce himself, let alone ask permission to speak to me nor did he ask permission to speak with Mistress?

Well the short answer is: A Master wouldn't. Period. I don't intentionally ever mail an owned slave. If I do, the letter is intended for their Master, and I write it through the slave (if the masters nic is knot know to me).
As for introductions or permissions to speak to "you" or your Mistress.. a different thing perhaps.. Again, I'd (through the slaves mail "IF " necessary) introduce myself to their dominant, but I personally feel no need to introduce myself to a slave if my letter is intended for their owner, much less ask the slaves persmission for anything. Perhaps you mis-stated, but if not, you're placeing an unrealistic importance on "property".

Well I am going to disagree, it is done here everyday, and subs who ask to "serve Me" or worse with no introduction--- I do however make a point to respond, not always kindly because an idiot deserves to know they are an idiot--but I always do respond--

but to think a Master wouldn't----oh yeah a Master would and they do---thinking they don't owe an introduction because they are "Master" and everyone should bow to them--IMHO

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RE: unanswered, unsolicited emails on here - 12/10/2005 6:06:44 AM

MHOO314

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How about the ones that just write and state 2 words? fXXX mX---what have our social graces degenerated to?

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