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malebitch4women -> which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 10:48:42 AM)

Do you ladies prefer experiance when choosing a slave or no experiance so  they can be trained with out thinking of another Mistress or goddess?



MsLadySue -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 11:43:54 AM)

I prefer a boy have some experience so he at least understands what being a sub or slave is all about. Too much experience means a lot of bad habits to break from his previous relationship.



Lockit -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 12:38:17 PM)

It is the person that attracts me or turns me off.  I could care less about their experience level.  I once didn't want to get someone far more experienced than I was, but even that makes no sense in many ways.  It is more a matter of our kink's being similar in my opinion.  If I can't be who I am with whoever it is, at any level of experience, then I am the one with the problem.



LadyLupineNYC -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 1:54:10 PM)

I am with Lockit on this; I have had both, what really speaks about someone's 'usefulness' as a s-tpye for me is them not experiance level.



ChainGoddess -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 2:06:54 PM)

I would say without a doubt,  I prefer him to have some experience, then I will do the rest my way.



"God loved the birds and invented trees.  Man loved the birds and invented cages.  ~Jacques Deval, Afin de vivre bel et bien"



RumpusParable -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 3:55:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: malebitch4women

Do you ladies prefer experiance when choosing a slave or no experiance so  they can be trained with out thinking of another Mistress or goddess?


Neither, as both can have bad habits and unrealistic expectations -or have great habits and thoroughly realistic expectations.

I prefer someone compatible with me and the dynamic I'm desiring.  Experience isn't an issue if they are.



tweedydaddy -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 5:28:52 PM)

None of my subs had any experience when I found them. I chose them for their urge to please me. That was my only criteria. I find subs on the scene to be too pushy and too filled with preconceptions. Once stamped by the will of another Domme, they never forget her and I do not have time to bother about filling another woman's shoes or playing her favourite games. I know what I want from them and I take it.  LadyLove



vampchick88 -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 8:35:07 PM)

pet has previous experience and was collared in the past, I think he was trained well for certain things. We've been together for over a year know, collared and contract signed with many plans for our future together. However, reguardless if its during a scene or just anytime I don't think he contemplates on the past. I think he's more toward looking in the future rather than hanging on in the past. As with me its all new experiences, new scene, etc. I like the fact that he has had some training, in the beginning there were a few things to modify with my own personal preferences but overall I like that I didn't have to work from the bottom up. I couldn't be a happier Domme with my personal pet, he's everything I ever wanted.



MistresseLotus -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 9:23:12 PM)

I prefer those who have a clue and both feet firmly planted in reality.



TNstepsout -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/27/2008 10:19:57 PM)

I think it depends. When I talk to experienced subs they know how to be respectful and how to conduct a conversation without resorting to stereotypical fawning sub behavior. However, I also kind of like the inexperienced ones too. Since I'm fairly new myself, I feel like I have a pretty good idea of the kinds of questions and concerns they might have and I kind of like sharing what I've learned with newbies.



thetammyjo -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/28/2008 7:46:48 AM)

A potential sub has to have enough experience and knowledge to be able to demonstrate he/she is worth my time. If we can't have a good conversation because the person has no sense of desires, limits, or the basic concepts/terms, we won't connect at all. How much that is and what it entails depends on the person.



UmbraDomina -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/28/2008 8:13:28 AM)

I prefer a person with a great personality, drive, brains, who is strong, well rounded and who has a desire to please me. They can have all the experince in the world, it doesn't mean they will know how I want things done, or what pleases me. Either way they would need to be trained to met my needs, wants and desires.



MysticFireTopaz -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/28/2008 9:25:41 AM)

There are pros and cons to each.  Experienced subs usually have more realistic expectations and a better understanding of the lifestyle.  Newbies sometimes have stereotyped notions and need an education in reality.  I have also noticed a higher "flake" factor with newbies.  Some of them are torn about what they really want and end up wasting time.  
 
On the other hand, I have had to "undo" previous training with experienced subs.    An inexperienced sub is like a blank canvas.  Some of my most fulfilling experiences as a Domme have been with subs completely new to the lifestyle.  It is like watching a flower blossom.
 
All and all, I will consider a sub with or without experience if he meets my other requirements.  Other factors are far more important to me than experience level.
 
Lady Topaz



PsyVamp -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/28/2008 12:48:26 PM)

I have no preference on experience level but I do ask about it so I know where their habits might originate.
Not all dominants are the same, we all do things differently so experience with one may not prepare you for the next.
 
I am more interested in the compatibility, sincerity and willingness to learn traits.
 
Lady Jag
 
 



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: which you prefer Mistress? (9/28/2008 1:28:34 PM)

We're pretty neutral. Experience can be garnered in a lot of ways that have nothing to do with having been in a BDSM relationship, so we're willing to speak with any local boy who indicates that he's thought things through, understands what we're looking for, and is willing to learn.

If he's been in a relationship before, as long as he doesn't pull the "my OLD mistress never did it that way" card, we're all good. We are who we are, and expect our house to run the way it runs... If his old mistress had a different system, bully for her -- but he's with us now, and things will be done the way -we- prefer.

Calla Firestorm



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