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LadyHugs -> RE: Far from being a slave? (9/29/2008 8:03:11 PM)
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Dear subeos, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my observations through your account of how things take place; I can agree with the majority when they have said that he (the gentleman who you were dealing with) - is not your Master and you aren't his slave--yet, you still identify as a slave.
Unfortunately, too many times people get wrapped up into their own views and definitions as to what is a slave to them and or what would be a Master/Mistress in their own views and defining labels. But, do not permit the same courtesy to others. Your way wrong-my way right.
I would like to offer for consideration, that the community at large is made up of a variety of individuals to whom define their individual relationships--regardless how wrong it may be for others. Those who do not conform to the "personalized labels/definitions of what a Master/Mistress/slave; Dominant/submissive, etc." will always be subjected to critisism. It is unfortunate but, normal. What should be considered is the fact that the both of you were a bad fit for one another. There can be good people on both sides of this issue, to which the 'peanut gallery' to which forums cannot help but be--due to the forum like nature and not being there to see both sides of the story played out. There doesn't need to always have to be a bad guy/gal to explain how things didn't work out.
Being pompus or being confident; often are behaviors that labels are affixed to. It depends on a person's perception of what that person may be. This is the difficulity in being just a reader of posts and not a witness to your event.
That said--There will be more 'misses' as far as hooking up with a person that meets your standards of what a Master/Dominant may be/can be/would be. The same can be said for those looking for a slave.
Unfortunately, Masters/Mistress/Dominants have the same problem as you, dear lady. So many speak of their claims of being slave, submissive, servant and such. Both sides of the whip must endure the long process of weeding through the many individuals, who come with their own personal flavors as to what a Master-slave relationship is for them. How you or they fit into the total picture; determines if it is the correct match for you; as well as them. Both parties need to be happy or its just not 'a good match.' This is why you could be an excellent match for "Master A." Be a so-so match for "Master G." and be a lousy match for "Master X." It doesn't mean you are a bad person -- just a bad match.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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